everyone already has given great morphic field suggestions and advice!
i’m really grateful for how healing this discussion is!
that is really loving of you that you’re deciding to work and communicate with your partner and relationship!
i agree that self-love would help!
when i’m with someone i like, i play self love and acceptance from the mental health album to guide our interactions. if it was in-person, maybe you could look into:
i wish you all the best in greater and more peaceful communication!