Some people who pick on you and take advantage of you. Bully you unnecessarily. How do you deal with them? How can you teach them a lesson? Because that’s not all. Other people support them and laugh at all the victims that are being made fun of
It hurts man. Sometimes enough is enough.
How do you make them realise and bring them to justice?
Of course, just watching/listening to things might not make the whole situation vanish, especially if it’s some sort of karmic pattern, but I hope this helps energetically!
i walked away. my personal lesson in these situations were to allow them to be who they are and not be a part of their stories. my way isn’t right for everyone though because i don’t have anymore parts of me that want to see them ‘brought to justice’.
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Same. I have my mom who constantly picks on me and I’m a person who holds a grudge rarely. She’s always so toxic to me, if I try to argue with anything she thinks is right, then I’m in wrong and sinful. God will get angry with me and stuff. I don’t like to talk back to her and want to give her respect. However she never asks me anything and just assumes by my actions that I hate her. And ultimately the blame goes on the generation we come from. I also feel sad acting like that, but if I try to stay in my room and not show my face she complains to my father. Any solutions?
I feel you @Ashpoet. Mothers and daughters… not always the easiest relationship.
I work a lot with adolescents and their parents complaining about their insolence, rebel attitudes, etc. etc. What I mostly say to the parent is something like:
“Yes, as a parent, you surely know what is best for your child hohoho (this is the necessary flirting part with the parents… in order not to bypass them lol)… but on the other hand, would you really be happy if your child was a passive and robotic copycat of you?”
This logic makes them think for a while… also about their own conflicts with their parents at the time. This also applies to what one can do while trying to find a way in generational conflicts at home. The thing is to remain self-assured but cool.
More easy to say than do, I know. I’m not really a youngster anymore but still have conflicts with my parents too! ;) But believe me, when you stay firm enough in your convictions (without openly fighting though), they end up accepting you almost just as you are… seeing you as an independent being.
They have some good assertiveness training programs out there. You should look into one. It’s a commitment though. Also look into that book weaponized Hypnosis by George Hutton. It’s great for these kinds of things. I myself have decided to go beastmode on anybody that gets in my way or tries to dominate me. Hang in there.
Enough is enough. So sick of people using their status as an excuse for bad behavior. When someone tells me stuff like that I instantly tell them that God cares more about how you are as a person and to others as opposed to your status.
Like I come from a Muslim household. They always talk about not talking back to elders and parents and such. SCREW THAT. If one will disrespect me for no good reason and try to put religion on my face like that I would tell it to their face that the number 1 thing God hates is people who think they can use their status as an excuse to be rude without good reason.
There is another saying. “Treat your guests like God.” Once again I will ONLY do that if they act respectful like God.
Well that’s true that you shouldn’t disrespect your parents even if they are trash… But to what extent. Your right. You can actually make someone feel like a complete incompetent worthless shit without swearing at them or putting them down outwardly. Only to have their mind obsessing In fear over and over not knowing what it is that you said. And it’s morally accepted too lol. How about a covert Embedded attack that fires off in their mind afterwards. And if they try to say anything afterwards everybody will look at them like they’re crazy because nobody caught on to what just happened.
I am from a Muslim Household as well. Luckily, I was more spiritually inclined since childhood so I don’t have a lot of stupid subconscious beliefs. They just kind of emotionally control you in name of religion. They want absolute obedience. If you’re just different from others than expect others to look at you like you are possessed by demon. Plus as a daughter you have a whole lot more bullsh** rules to follow. For boys I think it’s a bit more freedom. But obviously it’s different for everyone’s situation. Can’t dress like that… Don’t think about getting a separate house (because you won’t be able to monitor me for the rest of my life)…If you don’t follow my wishes than your future will be bad… don’t even try to argue back even when I’m wrong. And most of all the extreme rule- if you fall in love and want to marry with that person i’d rather kill you than let people insult me. And when I do try to argue back I’m suspected of being the same type of person. And an amusing thing is that I find it really pleasing to break the rules. I have just adopted the attitude of doing whatever I want as long as I don’t hurt anyone. Because bad people will still have bad intentions or problems with you even though you’re polite, covered uppraying daily like you’re supposed to etc…
I am not a saint. I am human just trying to live my life to fullest. I do wrong things and I do right things. Simple.
Agree with the statement.
I can definitely imagine @Bronyraur asking the following question to my mom:
Both of us will probably get battered with the chanclas.
Well that’s true that you shouldn’t disrespect your parents even if they are trash… But to what extent. Your right. You can actually make someone feel like a complete incompetent worthless shit without swearing at them or putting them down outwardly. Only to have their mind obsessing In fear over and over not knowing what it is that you said.
As douchey as I sound, I don’t want to be like that in the first place. The thing is especially those who are MUSLIM AND pray 5 times a day are usually the ones who are worse morally compared to the others from what I have seen.
Prayer is supposed to make one humble not turn them arrogant. This tells me that those who are praying are not truly praying. Simple as that.
How would I go about shutting these people up? I would tell them that they don’t even follow the main rule of the religion which is to treat others with respect. Because let’s be real here. God or the universe or what you call him does not care about worship if one has horrible ethics towards others
Lol. That’s the whole holier than thou mentality right there. So because they fulfill their outward obligations they assume they have a green ticket perse. So arrogant and puffed up… That’s easy, find everything they do that’s contradictory to the religion and point it out to them. Specifically issues that have to do with core matters of belief… Show them with proof every matter of belief they hold contradictory beliefs in and they will run from you lol.
The only people who are truly holier than us ordinary people are the prophets and the TRUE mystics. All of them have one thing in common. They are as humble as one can be.
Now back to the point. It is better to be morally good and respectful better than following religion and being arrogant.
If you really think about the very last part I said, it’s a straight up oxymoron.
I’ll have to be away from here for a while but saw your post in my mailbox and thought that it was important to add this, in order not to confuse anyone about my practice:
I should have specified that I live and work in an “officially secular” but “spiritually Muslim” country (a more relax one though).
You can consider my previous post as a very simplified summary of what happens throughout several sessions/weeks/months within an overall psychotherapy process.
We take some time and use various techniques before spilling the beans to tyrannic parents. Only when they’re ready and only to those who want to work with us. At the end of the day, they’re still free to do what they want. Neither my colleagues nor I have been battered so far, not even by more “fanatic clients”.
Either way, I wish you inner strength with whatever you choose for yourself.