Obsession of Sex and people in college

[MonkeyOwl]

@_OM

My account has not been hacked

Omg this topic.

And the original question is not even REALLY about having sex, it’s just like… the window

@anon36260187

me focusing too much on women and sex but not my purpose and goals

@anon36260187

I just need to be more kinder and more patient

@anon36260187

I feel bad for my ex girlfriend I treated her so bad

@anon36260187

I am like “F*** that girl”
“f*** everyone”

@anon36260187

basically feel like im better than everyone but when I am by myself, I am truly lost

@anon36260187

I always make fun of others

Anyway Jagolo got some good recommendations :)
It’s one thing to have casual sex, and another to treat people badly, of course that will lead to guilt.

I agree that
ego dissolution,
subconscious limits removal,
Become whole
Unconditional love

Type of fields would be beneficial to you.

And about focus - willpower, stop procrastinating are good fields.
New perspectives as OM said.
On the one hand, if you make some time for girls and improve your overall thinking around sex and girls, probably you won’t be thinking about it 0-24 so you will focus also on your studies.
Make a plan, think about your goals, get yourself into the right mindset - you can also use the minnd settings album, it could help indirectly a lot.
Make dedicated time for studying, put your phone in the other room and (if you don’t need it for research) turn off WiFi on your laptop…
Etc.
Make space to be focused, there is a balance where you can have BOTH (sex and focuse on your other goals).

[AkiraTheWild]

Don’t worry brotha

I have my flag trigger ready

This sees like a urgency!!

Ban-g ban-g

[lilo]

My suggestion for OP would be

Grief Loss Loneliness

It is natural for us as human beings to need or crave connections with other people. How much or how often varies from person to person. For some they need variety and quantity, for others a close few that they check in with occasionally is more than enough.

Sometimes loneliness leads to decisions or actions which we wouldn’t have considered if we had our needs (physical, emotional, social, etc.) met. That’s why it’s part of the H.A.L.T.S. self-check in. (I don’t know if this is the best link but here’s an example of a description.)

When we are trying to overcome addictions (another good field by the way), or obsessions, these (Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired, Sick/Stressed) are some states that could trigger the urge to reach for the things that fill up the emptiness.

I would also add, boredom, or not getting enough physical activity, as well as too much Internet, adds to that feeling of restlessness/aimlessness, which from my experience get me into trouble. Take a break from the screen, sweat it out, connect with a good friend, play with a pet, do something kind for somebody else. I can see you want to be a better person (such as treating your ex gf better), nobody gets it completely right on the first try. Learn what not to do, find out what to do instead, and try to do that. I know it sounds so general but if you want to be a Kind Person it just starts with doing little acts of kindness, as frequently as you can, until it becomes part of you naturally.

Welp, good luck!

[Nice2knowU]

It’s a bit weird to say but i think your obsession is rather healthy, given your environment, age, etc. Which young man doesn’t constantly think about it? They might not admit it though.

But sure, if you notice your goals being sacrificed, in the long term that can’t be good. Then again, you won’t be there long term.

I must admit, it’s admirable you say you have psychopathic tendencies. While i don’t know what happened exactly in your past, I’d say a general attitude of not giving a damn can be healthy, especially if you’re being bombarded by others opinions on a daily basis.

A balanced approach is always the best, but each individuals balance may look different from yours. Situations always change and evolve. And btw, maybe people are forgetting the multitude of benefits achieved through regular sex?

Anyways, nice to meet you @OMsHacker and for making it a fun read

[_OM]

@lilo

[anon36260187]

I come back and I see 91 replies

[anon44876465]

Leave it to the topics about sex to blow up overnight lmao.

My personal opinion: if you seek sex, don’t do it for the sake of itself. Don’t give more importance to it than is needed. Just see it as a natural step in a relationship, one of many. And when you do it, make sure it is with someone who you have an intimate/loving connection with. Otherwise it may feel shallow and unfulfilling.

But what do I know, I’m just a virgin lol

[Josh]

Good morning

[anon25711007]

Morning🌞

Night here the moon so big tonight

It’s lot better in real life. My camera not too good on dark environment

[anon36260187]

Listened to some soul core, than listening to soul heart.

Thinking about buying light and vibrational guidance soon, I need to be guided

[anon36260187]

Honestly it all comes down to my parents sometimes, but I don’t wanna blame them. They just give me thoughts of how guilty and shameful sex is before marriage, never even told them I have a girlfriend. Also I’m not really a porn addict but I do watch it when things get stressful. I’ve had many woman make moves on me yet I don’t find myself confident enough to finish with them, I don’t think it’s confidence because when I’m with people everyone loves me, I think I’m scared? Some built in fear because of my parents, dont wanna risk losing the relationship, and it leads me to frustration and my ex had to go through it where one day I feel really good and the next it was rough and she could feel the energy somehow.

[anon36260187]

Than I use sapien audios but I don’t have any patience so I change shit, start buying more products and become in an endless loop

[anon36260187]

It’s that love that I received from my ex is what’s making me needy, she really treated me well but I am insecure piece of shit

[Zen]

@anon36260187

Honestly it all comes down to my parents sometimes, but I don’t wanna blame them. They just give me thoughts of how guilty and shameful

Ah that’ll do it.

@anon36260187

but I don’t have any patience so I change

Become a Kinder, more Patient person in all ways (Energetically Programmed Audio) Ver2.0

@anon36260187

It’s that love that I received from my ex is what’s making me needy, she really treated me well but I am insecure piece of shit

Maybe detach yourself from that love she provided you and work on loving yourself just a bit more.

Some audio

Soul restoration core
Etheric cord cutter
Devil in reverse
The lovers

You got this!

[Starlight]

@SammyG Hi Sam - Perhaps we can start a new thread on this subject with your questions?. A clean start. :)

[anon36260187]

Audios to help with detachment

[anon83343177]

Death, The Devil, And Tower :)

The fool to be excited about new beginnings and not be attached to a single outcome and rather be excited about all.

[AkiraTheWild]

The Devil (Reversed tarot archetype )

You are being called to your highest potential, but first, you must let go of any unhealthy attachments or limiting beliefs that may hold you back. Often, when you are called to something ‘more’, you must deal with your shadows before you can step into this new version of yourself.

My favorite my bro , the level up field .

[anon36260187]

Any good grounding fields besides automated grounding to stay present and not let your thoughts consume you to negativity

Thinking of buying minorblueprint

[SammyG]

@anon36260187 You have a great sense of self awareness. Being aware of your faults at that level is an important step towards evolving yourself. What you seem to need at this moment is balance. The fields recomnended throughout this thread would be of great help towards balancing yourself.

You seem to be overly driven by your impulses. Your ego has a snake grip over you to the point your lust overtakes your focus and when you are around others, you even carry on a false sense of confidence. But there is much hope for you considering the silent observer in you is awake and aware of all this.

I would recommend this to anyone truly but mindfulness will be key to you reclaiming balance. If you can begin to breathe and remain present in the now, you’ll have the kind of self clarity and control that grants you the sort of wholeness and balance that we all wish for. And so you won’t be easily swayed by the desires and you can begin to choose for yourself… but more importantly, attract women to you.

As some people mentioned here, approaching dating/sexuality with your current mind state will typically attract unhealthy situations for you. You even said you had an unhealthy relationship with your ex so it’s clear you’re not mentally in the right place to go chasing skirts.

I think focusing on yourself is more important at the moment. You will reap far greater rewards by doing so. I could say so much more but there isn’t much more that hasn’t been said by everyone here giving ya advice. It’s all solid advice man. And thanks to everyone chiming in.