Your level of function or dysfunction as an adult is almost always determined by the most unhealthy or toxic people in your family growing up.
When you are raised by those who didn’t or couldn’t love and support you as you deserved, you may have developed “broken” tools to deal with situations as an adult. When your emotional toolbox has a bunch of broken tools, you may keep getting the results you don’t want, causing you to stay unhappy.
In this episode, I help you identify those broken tools and what you can do to start utilizing them the right way, or even fixing them altogether.
Yes that’s a hopeless attitude. You need to step up and take personal accountability for, and ownership of your life, good and bad. Your goals, dreams, plans, successes and failures are all yours – nobody else can live them for you. Yes, of course external factors outside your control can impact negatively on you and, unavoidably, things will happen that cause you pain and difficulty,
But there is a process to stepping out of the victim role and heal from the trauma. And without i doing so you’ll be stuck.
Despite common belief in the personal development community, I think playing the victim role for some time is not such a bad thing. To change something, you first have to become aware of it.
If you deny your feelings or downplay them, you worsen your state.
Just be your nicest and best friend.
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