Hey everyone,
I recently stumbled upon a question that has kind of changed the way I experience my days. I thought I’d better share it here. It’s simple, almost deceptively so, but the effect it has on the mindset is profound. The question in question is:
"How are you enjoying today?"
At first, it might seem like just a small shift in phrasing, but I’ve noticed that this question works on multiple levels. Unlike asking, “How’s your day going?” - which leaves room for neutral or even negative responses - this question assumes enjoyment as the default state. There’s no question of if I’m enjoying the day; rather, it’s about how or how much. That subtle difference completely reframes the perspective.
I started asking myself this question regularly, and the results have been… interesting for sure. My mind automatically begins scanning for things I’m enjoying, even on days that might otherwise feel dull or frustrating. I find myself appreciating small moments - a breeze through an open window, the chirping of a bird, the warmth of a cup of tea. The simple act of noticing these things reinforces a sense of well-being, creating a ripple effect throughout the day.
But there’s another hidden layer to this question. The word “how” naturally activates the brain’s problem-solving pathways. It’s an invitation to explore possibilities. When I ask myself how I’m enjoying the day, my mind starts looking for ways to enhance the experience. Maybe I realize I’d enjoy the day more if I took a short walk, played some music, or shifted my focus away from distractions. It turns enjoyment into something active, something I can shape rather than just passively receive.
Perhaps the most surprising effect has been how this question helps navigate challenges. There are always going to be difficult moments - stress, setbacks, unexpected frustrations. But when I ask, “How are you enjoying today?” in the midst of those moments, my brain starts looking for a way to still find something good. Maybe it’s learning something from the situation. Maybe it’s appreciating my own resilience. Maybe it’s just choosing not to let an inconvenience take away from everything else that’s still going well.
Since I’ve started using this question, I’ve noticed that my days feel more vibrant, more intentional. I’m less easily thrown off by external circumstances. I find myself more inspired, more open to new ideas, more grounded in the present. It’s as if my mind has been trained to expect enjoyment rather than wait for it.
It’s really nice that the ‘how’ encompasses the two meanings of in what way are you enjoying today, as well as to what degree are you enjoying today. I think that’s the reason this is so powerful and working so well.
Try it!
I recommend it in the morning to set the tone for the day, or at any time you feel you need it.
How are you enjoying today?
