Why don’t you ask your partner? Because there is a zillion different things that can be “tantra”. For most couples…let’s say there is some deep chemical rewiring that you may or may not want or be ready for. It’s basically like sex on psychedelics. No special effects, but the “wiring” will be the same.
I remember Mao saying it took him one year of cultivation (and that means abstinence I think), and then close to another year to master one technique.
I think pre-orgasmic sex may be your thing, but dunno how you or your partner feel about it. They also call it Karezza. It can be started right way and will also “rewire” in a good way that will make everything easier later.
If you’re interested:
https://archive.org/details/cupidspoisonedar0000robi
https://www.aypsite.org/TantraDirectory.html
I do remember, the Karezza community was very paranoid about triggering. As in, they don’t do anything cause everything is sort of like “edging” for them, even music. It was about rewiring the habit…so not only is porn and such things banned, but anything that triggers lust except when being with your partner. Correction, lust is banned everywhere xD
We do have fieds for helping this though.
Most of western tantra that isn’t bs is basically reiki. Apart from that, drugs, body de-armoring (may be more legit than other things)…and weird stuff.
Karezza and some good old bedroom skills are way better…
Or you can just play alchemical crucible both of you.
Eye-gazing is another psychedelic level practice. But it creates monsters (or enlightens you the Rumi way).
And something a bit less? tantric is NLP and that kind of thing. October Man Sequence (parts of it) and plenty of patterns. It feels 100% energetic and real though.