I don't reply to people (texting/email anxiety fields)

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#1

Hi everyone, I don’t know if this is social anxiety or what… but I avoid replying to people for weeks and it’s getting out of hand. It gives me such extreme anxiety to check my email and texts. I can only reply to my parents, brother and sister in law.

I wait so long to reply that it becomes almost awkward if I do reply. And it’s not like I’m ignoring people and going on with my life. I stress about it all day. But I keep avoiding it anyways! When i go into my txts to reply to my brother or parents, I will cover any other texts with my hands so I can’t see them. I full on avoid even seeing what people write.

When I do decide to finally reply, it takes the whole day to prep myself for it. And then I usually stay up till 2am, until I finally press send. When I finally reply I feel great. Then I tell myself I won’t ever wait to reply again… but once the person replies I avoid them again. I know it sounds ridiculous. But I just keep doing it.

I find replying to people extremely draining. Like I can’t find the perfect thing to say, so I avoid saying anything at all. My email hasn’t been checked in weeks (and I’m sure there is important stuff in there) and I haven’t checked my txts in 3 weeks, other than my families messages. It’s getting out of hand. I also avoid phone calls. Basically I just seclude myself from people. I only have a few select people I talk to.

Is this something any of you have dealt with? I am wondering what audios I can add into my playlist. I have a few I already added that I thought would help with this. It includes:

amygdala fear release
extreme self confidence
become whole self acceptance
permanent brain enhancement
unconditional love

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#2

Maybe also try this

It temporary shuts off the anxiety cells in your brain (or something similar don’t remember exactly)

Listening to this before you reply to someone trains your brain with time to not react with as much anxiety as before
and it calms you down the moment you listen to it too.

Maybe archetyp of parental love and regain innocence, grounding from dreamseeds could help too.

btw no need to reply or anything similar haha

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#3

We’d love to discuss what’s going on but I think, you won’t reply to this either :sweat_smile:

What you are going through is fear of judgement, and also being a perfectionist in social setting while you still are not there yet. So, you think of coming up with perfect response but that actually takes too long, you forget or get busy with something else. And the more delayed it is, the more your anxiety goes up. Social mastery takes time, but it also comes with practice. There’s no such thing as perfect conversation. You get better with practice and make it perfect

Listen to these fields:

  1. Charisma and glamour
  2. Oxytocin and neuropeptide
  3. All purpose anxiety removal
  4. Self love and acceptance
  5. Uplift yourself and people you meet (very underrated)

And if you can: The PONR field.

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#4

Thank you so much for your suggestions! I am okay replying on forums BTW :)

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#5

Thank you so much! I appreciate it. I am okay replying on forums BTW, just text messages and emails. Strange, I know haha :)

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#6

I have same issues with my work as well and with replying to emails, WhatsApp messages. Though I don’t take weeks :slightly_smiling_face:. Have chronic anxiety, fear and stress as well.

Please share if ut helped you

#7

I used to experience this.

It was a symptom of being overwhelmed after trauma. Too much happening for the nervous system, and other people’s demands were too grand. Even just a “hello” text felt like another ping to the system.

  1. Making sure family and friends know you’re overwhelmed and it isnt personal is helpful.

  2. Not pressuring yourself to respond after you fill them in to your comfortability level is also helpful. Consider taking a week or two to go “off grid” to replenish. Let people know you won’t be available except for in emergencies.

  3. If you find life feels overwhelming, consider writing out a list and handling/ crossing off the things taking up most of your mental space. Or, give yourself calming time in response things asking you to retreat and take care of yourself.

Self love fields, fields for the nervous system, Grace of Angels, Etheric Cord Cutter, Voodoo Detangled, Emotional Release and other self supportive audios should help. Especially ones focused on negentropy. Jing Infusion might help