(Disclaimer : I don’t see this as the truth, it’s an opinion based on my personal experiences and observation of people)
Taking the worst scenarios possible as an exemple, you suspect her cheating on you, maybe she did it, maybe she didn’t. A woman that wants to cheat on you, will do it no matter what, either you try to control her or not, either you ask her to show you her phone or not, either you tell her to not get dressed a certain way or not and etc…
it’s impossible to control a human being and even less a woman, if she cheated on you, it was planned for a longer time than you think and trying to control a woman would just accelerate things. If she was planning on cheating on you, she’ll do it earlier than expected and if she was honest, you’ll give her a reason to do so, to break up with you as trust is gone or hating men and starting a new cycle of negativity, violence, traumas…
Unless you know how to prevent things from happening or step back before it’s too late, you’ll always have the impression you are in control while in fact, she is just letting you believe you have the control.
A woman will either “devour” you and be more masculine than you or she will see you are actually masculine, understanding you are not pretending and she will adjust her behavior to yours, sending the same amount of femininity she has in order to match your level of masculinity. And what I call “masculinity” is not necessarily about “primate” characteristics, attitude and aura are so underrated, people usually only swear by looks.
If she is masculine around you and you think she is always like this, don’t doubt she is feminine with someone else. She will keep testing you to see how far you can go to keep her around you, still giving you the chance to “man up”, step back and respect yourself, as the best gift she can give you.
When you have an abundant life it means people understand they have no control over you, you don’t need them to be happy and you won’t tolerate things people usually tolerate to keep them around, that’s how you mark people, that’s how people respect you.
Women who are used to be solicited all the day even if they didn’t do anything to deserve it, understand you are different and you won’t tolerate the mind game they do on people they have zero to negative interest, knowing you won’t look back twice if you decide that it’s enough.
You don’t imagine how many times a woman told me things like this, “It’s funny I can’t know what you have in mind”, “It’s impossible to anticipate what you’ll do”, “I’m so stressed easily/sensitive so it reassure me seeing you not reacting at all, even if things get bad”, “I try to taunt you but you never get angry, you just make me feel stupid” lol, “Usually I’m always the one controlling everything, the guys always just do whatever I want but you just don’t give a f*ck and treat me normally”, “You are kind and we can count on you but I know you won’t hesitate to break up if I disrespect you” and not a single second, I tried to control them.
Not implying I’m a high quality person, I honestly don’t think it’s the case actually. High quality… Attracts high quality. Being genuinely masculine… Attracts femininity. From my point of view, it’s useless to invest energy in people that don’t even want you to begin with, blow cold and fire and people that make you asking all the time if you interest them or not. If there is struggling, there is high chances that you are just killing time for them.
A high quality woman will judge if you are good enough for her based on other factors than what you are saying. By the mentality you seem to have, I’m not really sure you will attract a type of woman you want to have a stable quality life.
Life is already hard enough, if you are a high quality man, you’ll anyways cross path with high quality women. There is no need to force things. There are like 100 reasons hypothetical reasons on why a women said “no” that may not even have anything to do with you personally.
Maybe it was a wrong timing, maybe she doesn’t feel good right now, maybe she has a lot of responsibilities and stress, maybe she was fired, maybe someone closed to her died recently ? Maybe she just had a bad day and maybe yes she doesn’t find you attractive but you will never know why.
A woman who is ready for a relationship and likes you might be clumsy or shy but she will facilitate all the work for you, in her own way. It will be natural, you will know she is interested in you, you will never ask yourself one second if she is interested or not, if she is playing mind game with you or not.
