I wrote this review for a week, and I still could not write and form it to the end.
If you do not like long reviews - do not read )))
Sorry for the mistakes, I’m nervous, but it really is a miracle.
Too many impressions. And sometimes it’s hard to isolate the main point ))
Most people don’t tend to look into their fears, unlived emotional pain. We just embalm them. For me, the idea of positive thinking seemed like a kind of mask to myself. Constantly engaging in “I’m not hurt, I’m not scared, I’m not afraid of anything” affirmations is, to me, a lie and self-deception
We spend a huge amount of energy to keep this pain and emotional charges in the “invisible” zone. We just bury them in ourselves )))
Imagine you have a rubber ball (emotional charges, fears, anxieties) and you need to make everyone and yourself included believe it’s gone!
And so you decide that the best way out is to hide it under water and keep it there. Do you feel the background effort you constantly have to put in to maintain this illusion of “I don’t have any fears”?
So there are two sides of the scale, on the one hand the mental effort to hold and suppress emotion, and on the other the probability of emotional pain that will be encountered if the “ball” comes to the surface
I distinguish several levels of fear for myself. I don’t rely on theory from books or courses:
Superficial, deep fears.
There are fears - these are the ones that strive to materialize in life. Because subconsciously we feel that holding and hiding such fears is much more energy-consuming. It’s easier to realize them in life and realize that this emotional pain/fear isn’t that big of a deal. And in practice it may turn out that the “ball” that we have so diligently held under water is just a “soap bubble”. And when the emotional situation is realized in life, the fear will dissipate itself and the brain will rejoice that it will no longer have to expend a lot of energy constantly hiding this fear "under water.
A personal example - it was wildly scary when I first manifested myself in the first chats, here on the forum. I was scared to write posts here on the forums, to participate in projects, to communicate with all of you. I was terrified. It was a real fear, chilling and eating up a lot of energy. And every time it felt like I was being doused with icy water, my heart pounding. With the appearance of Flower, I suddenly realized - the world hasn’t turned upside down, no one has eaten you, nothing that bad is happening at all.
Flower really helped me to understand how much resource was lurking behind this fear and how cool it is that one day you either take a step or provoke circumstances to plunge yourself into the realization of this fear… The flower burns out the base of the fear and leaves the most precious and resourceful state.
But there are deep fears. They are panicky, deep. And our brain really thinks - that it’s better to die, just to avoid facing scary circumstances.
So, if they do not want to be realized, then why touch them at all? We are moving through life, developing and constantly striving to expand in our experience and living, and it so happens that one day this kind of fear can suddenly get in the way - it starts to really limit us and prevent us from going towards our interest, realization of our meanings and potentials.
And then such hidden emotions and fears can suddenly “inflame” and demand attention? The danger here is that if they suddenly become actualized, it’s like a submarine bomb effect.
Our flower shows the limitations, fears, and blocks that we encounter in life.
It begins to burn them out hard enough. All the centers in the body begin to burn out.
Without the Flower, I would have to surrender to fear in a “safe” environment. It’s like living your fears, encounters with the unknown or violent-aggressive through horror movies: deep down you know that you are safe now and you agree to voluntarily dive into a whirlpool of emotions, on the other hand, we already know that the brain essentially makes no difference whether one lives out their emotions in real life and situations or in an “illusionary” version. All of this is recorded as something that has already happened and there is a sort of therapeutic resetting effect with the Flower connection.
It’s a striking effect.
In this way, I can, in a safe environment, relive the horror of something that hypothetically feels as if it has already come to fruition. Flower burns out the negative emotion and nullifies the likelihood that such a “bomb” will explode in real life. It’s like releasing the pressure in a multicooker so it doesn’t burst in an emergency.
it allows you not to bury your head in the asphalt like an ostrich, hoping that everything “will” be okay, but to voluntarily neutralize your own internal horror movie.
Our lives are very short… For example, if there is fear or grief, in order to get back on your feet, you need to recognize and experience that panic scenario. Catch all the flurry of emotions, experiences, experiencing grief as an inevitable change.
And then by the “classic” option, we will inevitably get to the point of accepting and beginning a new phase of life, a “new spring.” The “classic” option can take several years of going to psychologists… The flower burns out the emotional charge. And saves years.
There’s no need to expend strength and energy to analyze fears and related situations.
It’s not the situation that we’re afraid of, it’s how we’re going to “die and be born.”
Thank you and Merry Christmas to all