No connection with family

[Mouldytea]

How do I stop getting jealous of other people’s families? I didn’t have a good child hood and I’m not close at all with my family and it makes me bitter when I see other families laughing and smiling like there best friends

It feels lonely af guys. Sure I’ve got some friends now but that’s not the same as family is it

I’m sad I don’t have that kind of relationship with my family. Never had typical family dinners, family outings , them teaching me things about life. Just all negative experiences . My kids won’t have grandparents, my wife won’t have in laws in the future, dam that’s depressing to think about

How can I get over this trauma, I’ve dealt with a lot of other stuff but I feel like this is the last hurdle to keep me from truly ascending. It makes me feel so bitter . Family is literally the most important thing in the world in my eyes and I ain’t got that . I have my grandparents they are chilling but my grandads dead and grandma’s back in her country so yeah I don’t really have anyone atm it’s really isolating

I don’t think fields will help in my case…

[Mecha]

Archangel Chamuel

And the parental love field which is be on odysee

The Archetype of Parental Love

[Mecha]

Thought of attract your soul tribe too

[Star]

Fields do help, there’s plenty related to emotional well-being and trauma relief that always help because they lift a burden from us. “Uplifting yourself and others around you” comes to mind… as well as “Grief, loss and loneliness”. You should give them a consistent try.

Regarding what you described, it would also help coming to an acceptance about it. It’s a difficult situation and as you value family and connections it’s understandable that bitterness you describe when you come to see that, means you’re feeling it and it’s fair that you do, it will ease though if you focus on yourself and how you, despite all of that harshness and lack of nourishment grown to be the good person you are. Wanting that family love to yourself. That’s the key imo. Also it’s okay your children not having grandparents, and your wife no connection with in laws, because they will have the most important person for them and it will be You.

I wish you strength and luck

[Niezdeyhyuke]

Families can be as much a foundation to a happy life as it can be an anchor to a miserable one. If you feel the need to start a family to heal yourself, many have done the same. However, you’ll have to navigate the trap of what happens when your children have grown and you can’t (shouldn’t) control their lives like you once did. The fact that you’re jealous of others families implies to me that you don’t really understand what family is, and that’s understandable if you never really had the structure in your youth. I feel for you, but and yes there are advantages, but for every advantage there is a disadvantage. You may think you’re lacking something, but what you also have something the other doesn’t, and maybe you’re overlooking that.

I don’t wish loneliness on anyone though, but even if you had “family,” that experience can be quite lonely, as well. Just my opinion, but maybe you’ve just alienated parts of yourself that weren’t nurtured and that’s why you feel that need and the loneliness that comes with it. No family = no anchor. Sometimes anchors are good, and sometimes not so much. Appreciate what you have, it might not always be this way.

Just my view, no judgements really. I hope you find some peace.

[inpw]

Archetype of Parental Love to fill the void left and alchemical revision of childhood to make you feel more whole and help more (description mentions having an entire village support you)

[Jay]

Trauma is difficult, perhaps the most difficult part of the human experience, but actively thinking about it doesn’t help and longing for what you can’t have only causes frustration. Sometimes the best thing to do is to let go, forgive and release. Let go of the past, release everything that no longer serves you and that will make space in your life for new things to come in. I can’t advise you much more because I’m not an expert on the subject but it would be good to consult a good therapist for more personalized and professional attention.

[Marie]

it may be little comfort but you are part of a big Sapienmed fam here my friend

[toby]

i have thought the same thing before, and as distant as they seem, i still manage to remember some nice childhood memories with love and joy. Can you think of any such memories?

i’ve learnt recently, as important as family is, it is not needed to grow into a fully mature and whole individual. We have both the anima and animus within us, and our parents took that role when we were young. However, now that you are older and self aware, you can learn to be self sustaining.

social bonder helps a lot