Recovering porn addict asking for help

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#1

Hello
I used to watch extreme porn (BDSM) from ages 13-17 but now I’m completely done with watching it for 3-4 months. I cured my PIED and other issues. But the problem that I still have is that I get flashbacks or thoughts of bdsm. They’re really really bad and I can’t control them. The reason why I can’t control them is probably because of my OCD. I get usually get these thoughts in the morning and at night when I’m heading to bed (I’ve always masturbated during afternoon or evening, never at morning or at night so it can’t be that my brain wants me to watch it again.

What fields should I listen to, to get rid of those thoughts? I’ve currently been listening to etheric cord cutter and OCD treatment.

If anyone wants a life-tip from me - Don’t never ever watch porn, never never never, it will ruin you so badly. It’s so absurd how easy it is to gain access to porn.

Anyway
Take care.

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#2

No one but you can decide that.

#3

propably beneficial would be
the exorcism rite (just in case)
The Depression begone
Brain regeneration
and
Trauma release and healing (amygdala should be good also and PTSD help)

also I would add experimentaly the Become whole field, everyone needs it but don’t know if that’s the case here so yeah the stack sounds good and complete for you.

if there are other elements in your life tell us.

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#4

Ty
I do have a question though. Why add depression begone?

#5

It has direct brain stimulation inside which will help with Brain regeneration in a specific area

DBS (Direct brain stimulation) of the Brodmann area 25 which might relieve the symptoms of chronic, severe depression.
And work towards a reset of the cells and their hyper and disordered states.

so better be safe. It will also help you not feel so down when the trauma release and healing start to take place, instead of listening to all neurotransmitters to see what works for the relief of the symptoms you can have a general thing work on all. Also positive state of mind while going through all these.

But for the most part if you abstain the thoughts will be gone anyways. Like it or not the mind,body,soul heals by itself too.

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#6

Check out Overcome Any Addiction: Dopamine Receptor Repair & Addiction Healing which will help your brain which is still in the process of healing.

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#7

Not a good suggestion, he is clear 4 months now. Having pleasure putted back will make the thoughts more alive at that moments

#8

I don’t know where you’re getting “putting pleasure back” from.

This field heals the dopamine receptors so that the brain no longer craves the exaggerated stimulation from porn. This field helps reset the dopamine feedback system so that the dopamine hits we get from our victories in day-to-day life are acceptable to the brain, who no longer craves the exaggerated stimulation from the old habit.

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#9

the thought is getting relived in his brain.

the reward system is coming back but the thoughts are not erased so now with the reward system good and not with a good thought pattern he will do that again.Done that many times with quitting ciggaretes, didn’t work did the opposite because I was getting more pleasure doing them after the healing.

But of course maybe I am wrong, I will search bar it.

#10

I’m going to invite you to look at this whole situation a little differently.

As I read your OP, the sense I get (and please let me know if I’m missing something) is that you’re approaching your old habit as a problem. Now, I get why you would do that and there are a lot of people in this world who would join you in that perspective. I get that.

But what if your old behavior of the past was a solution to a problem that you had? What if–from the perspective of that younger you, doing the best that you knew how, given what you knew then–what if your old,past behavior was the “best” solution that you could find at that time, given what you knew and what was available to you then?

Now, I’m not debating that there are con’s with your old behavior of the past. But sometimes when we use–I’m going to call them “escapist solutions” for lack of a better term–we feel relief from our original problem (Yay!) but the original problem is still there.

So, as you now use the suggestions that we’ve been offering you in this thread, you might also want to check in with yourself and see if

  1. there was an underlying problem and

  2. make some plans of how you now want to deal with it, since you’ve decided you no longer want to do that old behavior you used to do to deal with it.

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#11

Negentropic Shen will do wonders to clean to your mind and also Ojas.

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#12

Sacral & Base chakra audio seems to be highly related to sexual healing.

Also PTSD help & Shen energy, Jing restoration, Microcosmic orbit too.

You’ve to also learn to be comfortable with your thoughts and craves, the more you resist and reject them, the more you fuel them.

For this, I’d suggest you to become more aware of your body and your sensations through practices like Yoga nidra.

#13

Do you mean the focusing on 60+ points on the body, or a more elaborate exercise?

I think I remember they found in one study that yoga nidra increased dopamine. I also read in a lucid dreaming book that lucid dreaming basically consisted on releasing dopamine to take control of the dream.

Sorry for detracting from the topic but I have no advice. I tried consciously repeating some thoughts, to try to control them eventually. It worked for a while cause I got sick of them but those “brain worms” are still there.

Sex is an even trickier thing. I saw a BDSM themed hentai pic once…few months later I had a relationship with people that fit the characters perfectly, and even the relationship they had in the original show (veiled jealousy lol).

So Blink…maybe be ready for those images to manifest. Since they have to happen through other people, you may not realize it and people may be tricking you.

Don’t want to worry you but yeah, that happened to me.

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#14

What a powerful manifested you are!

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#15

Stoics used to imagine the worst case scenario and then let go of it.

Try to imagine what’s the worst thing that could happen if you keep having those thoughts/sensations or if you get stucked into porn addiction and bdsm again. What’s the worst thing that could ever happen?

Then let go of it as much as you can.

Then imagine the best thing that could ever happen if you lose all those bad habits and “brain worms” and let go of it aswell.

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#16

(My apologies. I think you mixed me with the original poster, and I’m not, I just answered…sorry for the confusion).

I just mean repetitive thoughts by brain worms…literally just that. Things like people I used to know and didn’t speak to in years calling me (by my surname, something only they did).

And asking stupid questions. Expressions and sayings and things like that, that pop in my mind while thinking about unrelated things…you could say in my head all my conversations are pretty random.

One of these thoughts is my philosophy teacher asking me “Trujillo, how do you like women?” (which of course isn’t something my teacher ever asked me). And I’m not gonna write the answer but it is a famous song by a mixing-lover Sir.

By the way I’m totally gonna recreate that convo in reality if I ever cross paths with him…if only for getting it out already xD

It was my mind conveniently fitting those real people into the fictional character patterns…but yeah interesting to me once I noticed it.

But…it is a one time thing only…wished I could manifest anything nowadays, even relationships.

Blink should still pay attention cause sexual energy is powerful and stirs things sometimes. I do have advice now though.

@Blink , for me, OCD is a matter of energy (that yes, gets stucks in patterns). Low energy means repetitive behaviours. So the advice is…get rest, divert your attention somewhere else. Don’t allow yourself to get tired or hyperfocused in the repetitive thoughts. If it happens, break the pattern and zoom in on something else.

If all fails…express yourself. Low energy gets me “stuck” in being emotional and processing that, it is as if the energy gets released from the patterns.

Hope that helps. Good luck ^^

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#17

Indeed.

Not only that, but any form of activity or habit could be feeding indirectly to OCD.

Like certain ways of studying or preparing dinner.

Our patterns spread across all sorts of things and feed on the same bad habits, which are ways in which we relate to objects, people or activities.

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#18

Hi guys! I got rid of my BDSM thoughts and fully recovered from PIED now. I stopped listening to all of the fields but I noticed that one field really ruined me. Could anyone please tell me what can I use to reverse results? I listened to hyper-state-sleeper for once in the morning for 3 days and then I didn’t listen to it at all anymore cause I started getting sleep problems. Now it’s been around a month when I quitted it and my sleep is still so bad. I’m getting 2-3h (sometimes 5h) sleep at night and I’m not tired at all at daytime. I measured it and I get like 2 days of 2-3h and then on 3rd day I get around 5h. Please help me it’s ruining me so badly, I have dark circles under eyes, skin got worse, my libido is way down and I’m having huge hormonal imbalances. Before listening to hyper state sleeper I was getting 8-12h a night.

Please help me

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#19

Sounds like many problems, so you may need to look deeper into it.

But if it is all because of sleep (that field is purposely made to not be permanent, I think), try the different sleeping audios.

Start with The Deep Sleeper. And go from there.

It’s been months for me where I always slept deeply and that became a problem too xD. But now I listen to Sweet Dreams and I’m doing great with it…goes well with alchemy of self-love.

My point is, you can reset/re-educate your sleep in one or a couple of nights.

If you don’t get relief in a while, let us now.

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#20

I don’t even think the worst physical drug is more harmful than porn is to a mans health. I would rather be a heroine addict than a porn addict (like daily masturbation+porn watching vs daily heroine intake)

I’m not even joking. I also know porn is 10000x harder to stop once youve done it long enough, than benzos, amphetamines or other heavy drugs. When I abused drugs for years, I could manage quitting those heavy ones. I had even used snus for 20 years, meaning there was nicotine in my bloodstream 24/7 - my body literally thought it was a necessary substance for my survival. That shit was rough, imagine smoking 20 years and stopping and take that times twenty.

Still, that doesn’t even touch the surface of how hard it is to quit porn after decade(s) of use.

But it’s definitely possible. The problem is that it’s so frickin easily accessible, its free and you can get that drug hit any time, whenever you want

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