Regarding death

Spirituality
#1

I’m going to explain something here before I ask the question.

My sperm donor, as a number of you may have guessed, was verbally, mentally, and physically abusive from the day I was born until I was thrown out at 18, while still in high school. He even tried to kill me, twice.

I’ve just been informed that my sperm donor is dead.

I’ve always been taught that it’s wrong to speak ill of the dead or celebrate a death. It’s something I’ve tried to live by. Though, I find myself inclined to do as my brother suggests and celebrate this one.

Is it actually wrong to celebrate a death, even in conditions like this? Or is it actually okay?

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#2

If you want to you should go ahead

#3

This is an incredible question and by no means I have enough knowledge to answer. Would like to hear what people have to say about it.

#4

Don’t have much time but I recommend journey of forgiveness from dreamseeds.
As for the other question. What if there is a part of you that wants to celebrate and another wants to mourn is either of them wrong or right?
They’re still part of you and worthy of recognition.

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#5

In general, it’s good to try and see the humanity that exists behind bad actions and have compassion for it.

But, if his track record is as bad as you say, then I’d say good riddance :+1:

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#6

Nobody can tell you what is right or wrong for you to think, feel or do.

If you really want to get your personal answer i suggest you to have an internal dialog asking certaing things and finding the answers on your own. Like a puzzle then youll know how to feel and how to better express what emotional impact his death brings to you. But whatever the answer is… be gentle to yourself.

For example, you can ask yourself:

Why would i like to celebrate his death? Really…

is it because no one else would be affected by his negative actions anymore? Or is it because he wont be able to enjoy life anymore? While ill do?

if its the 1st choice then embrace it and celebrate it if you like.

If its the second one then ask yourself:

  • what if he wasnt happy living and dying was actually a strike of luck for him?

See how the dynamic of your internal “desire to feel joy” fades away if the answer is: oh… what if yes, what if he was miserable living and then dying would be like giving him a prize by freeing him.

Because no one, as terrible as they could seem to be are really happy. They are miserable internally and hate themselves deep down, thats why they cannot offer anything good.

…would the joy of his death stop right there and instead youd wish he would have stayed living a miserable life?

What if the reason why it makes you want to celebrate his death is an apparent punishment by losing his life?. A precious gift we have?.

In any case. Its your story, how you feel is how you feel and again no one can tell you what you must feel or do.

However you decide to feel, i hope it goes away so you can continue focusing on your healing and finding real happiness in your life.

Feel all you want to feel and then… let it go.

Come back to the present. To your life, because whether you celebrate his death or not, one thing is for sure, a long awaited to be closed chapter time in your life is here. And a feeling of a shadow always present in your life is not really there anymore in this dimension. Take advantage of that.

I hope it also leaves your mind and heart for good soon too.

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#7

I’ll do that tonight, when I do a session of Ego dissolution. That way, I can be sure to get to the bottom of it.

Thank you, guys.

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#8

Hell yeah!

Eff that butthole, glad to hear he is out of your life for good!

#9

If it just someone who was a jerk at the office, then celebrating their death might be a bit much. Say a quick prayer and be done with it.

But the death of this man really seems like a cause for celebration. Look at countries crowds that gather after the death of dictator—relief and joy. This guy tried to kill you twice and now he can’t try again. Enjoy that fact.

#10

Whenever you feel like there’s a binary opposition between 2 choices, probably none of them is the right answer.

Right, wrong, good, bad are prison cells in which we are determined.

I think it has to do with the intention behind everything we do.

In Japanese culture or South African culture people celebrate death, but for whole different reasons.