I don’t remember everything but both Sammy and Captain seem to be of the opinion that SR is hard because men are sexual beings, we were made to reproduce and Sammy said even if we don’t ejaculate for a while the body will find a way, release in the night.
Also Sammy gave a good tip on the principle of sigil magic if you really want to release use it to achieve a goal like imagining being confident or anything you want to have at the time of release.
Hope I didn’t distort what they both said, somebody can correct or add.