I have been practicing the techniques from ‘the multiorgasmic man’ with my own little spin on things for a while. The kegeling is essential to control the contractions in your perineum. You kmow, those little sexual urges of energy pushing through in your whole private area.
Through kegeling, you gain strong awareness of these contractions so that they don’t happen automatically. You can hold your perineum so you don’t get them. Those contractions are what push the sperm to the deferent duck (I think. I’m not too good with human anatomy lol), from which then those urges result in ejaculation.
So what one comes to learn is that ejaculation and orgasm are separate. Orgasm is a release of sexual energy which results in pleasure. Ejaculation is the release of sperm; which is perpetrated by the release of sexual energy.
The purpose of these practices is to separate ejaculation from orgasm so that you can have multiple orgasms without losing any sperm/jing. Sexual energy doesn’t have to be focused on your penis area (we always ejaculate because it is) and can be focused onto other parts of the body.
What I’ve come to learn is that pranayama has come in real handy for this. In breathing my body while in the act, I am already feeling the flow of sexual energy. And so it makes it easy to focus that energy onto another part of the body.
So while in the sexual act/self pleasure, I would kegel as I feel more and more sexual energy building up. Most importantly, I focus my consciousness onto the crown of my head. Any feeling I get from the sexual act in the lower areas, I focus it up my back and up to the crown of my head. Almost as if the lower areas are in the crown.
And so, the ejaculatory urge is completely halted and instead all the sexual energy is directed to the crown of the head. And then eventually the pleasure gets so intense that I consciously intend the release of all the energy within the crown (I copy the sensation of ejaculation but instead, intend to feel it in my crown. Like intent to orgasm/release all this energy build up). And then the energy releases and pours through my microcosmic orbit and I have a full body orgasm.
Now the book recommends to circle the energy around the crown like 36 times but I don’t think that’s necessary lol. I also sometimes do the energy course technique of sponging and then breaking a donut in half. Helps release quickly. When I’m done, I always redirect all the energy to the navel energy storage center. That way all the energy is stored to reuse (otherwise having energy sit in brain or other parts of the body will cause imbalances).
Now I don’t expect any of this to make sense to most of you guys lol. These are all things you learn through practice. Would highly recommend engaging as I think this is indeed a spiritual practice. You learn to tame and cultivate your sexual energy. There is a level of willpower & discipline that one gains from these practices. I still haven’t fully mastered the practice yet but am slowly getting there. Very rewarding.
This is also possible for women as well and I think would be even easier to achieve for them. Not sure which book fully teaches them this as I’m not too educated on the female side of ‘sexual kung fu’.