I think that YOU are the one who is refreshing.
I was very young at that time and so, hardly remember, but I still have some memory of that heat, yes! 
Maybe I should just stop and not give anymore personal info, butā¦ I donāt like āignoringā people when they try to communicate with meā¦ unless thereās nothing left to do.
We can then take it to pm another day, if you want, since all this may sound like a pointless self-defense and a waste of time for everybody out here. And also, as Atreides had written in one of his posts; sometimes, trying to crystal-clarify your point leads to nothing more than a self-energy drainage. Much pain, but no gain.
I think that this is also my professional deformation. Even if my goal or even competency is not about āpsychoanalyzingā everybody, I have/had to deal with all kinds of requests/opinions which seem(ed) totally marginal at first glance. This is what I get paid for.
I have/had to work with āoutlawsā or people coming from various cultural, etc. horizons Iāve sometimes never even heard about before. I even have a colleague and beloved friend who had to provide therapy sessions to the murderer of her own cousin, because no other therapist was available in the institution at that time. She has eventually succeeded and no need to say how proud of her I am. An amazing lady for sure.
(ā¦ and sheās one of the reasons why I can get offended with over-generalizing speeches about womenā¦ or sometimes youngsters or any other people - but once again, definitely NOT those deciding out of nowhere if we are born with or without a soul according to our color, I mean wt.!!! -
That is, Iām not always overreacting only for myself. We can call it useless solidarity or identification, maybe. Who knowsā¦ In any case, a problem that I have to solve sooner or later.)
So yes, I deal with some people having almost mind-blowing visions of the worldā¦ And sometimes, I even have to gather them together inside the same therapy group. I let you imagine the fiesta sceneriesā¦
The request of each of them can be summarized as follows:
āSee me, hear me, feel meā¦ me and my storyā¦ before judgingā.
You can be sure that if I only heard their most obvious/on-the-surface statements, my first āreflexā with some of them would have easily been: āShut the fā¦k up, just go and spread your poisonous stupidity elsewhere, will you!!!ā and slam the door on their face. I would have been tempted to do that all the more, given that some of them can be sometimes very challenging or insulting, even towards me. Like āI donāt give a dime about your cheap diplomas and your let-me-cure-you-all-idiots attitude, Brony!ā
ā¦ or sometimes worse.
But tell me, what would I get if I slammed the door?.. Plus, my job has an ethics code, I canāt āselectā people, etc. Itās not easy everyday, butā¦ Thatās the āgameā. Itās not a job with butterflies and sunshine all the time. And no any other job is, most likely.
ā¦ and yes, sometimes I fail or feel completely drained and cry out of rage for hours after the sessions.
A bunch of things that maybe explains why Iām not an easygoing gentle lady, even in this forum. What can I sayā¦ Not posting anymore would be an option, as I already said without any irony.
But so, yes, instead of sending those guys to waltz elsewhere, I always try to see what they are trying to communicate behind the curtain. Until theyāve said it all.
And at the end, most of the time, I find out that all is only due to a lack of love and/or a lack of opportunity to discover anything beyond their own daily experience, framework, etc.
This has nothing to do with playing the superhero, taking sides or acknowledging every single thing they believe or do. NO. This is rather the only way to offer, afterwards, any constructive feedback and even counter-argumentation (or sometimes ālet it beā just as it is), while providing support to any person whoās trying to do some self-work.
And also the only way imo, in the long term and in many contexts other than my job, to bypass individual differences (though I will always keep enjoying some of those differences, because Iām not interested in seeing the doppelgƤngers of myself all over the placeā¦) and reach any kind of āunityā or at least integration with the Universe or whatever we may call it.