Struggling socially (mental block)

Aside from fields you can also analyze which people are in your immediate surrounding. There are certain people whose vibes i can immediately establish as not being very open toward me, so i have little to none to say to them. For instance, look to your friends cycle and see if you vibe well. Do the same for other relationships in your life and maybe you can identify sth.

The best situations are those in which you can comfortably be yourself and genuinely have fun expressing yourself. A good test for this occurs naturally when suddenly nobody has anything left to say and the infamous awkward silence is upon you, however in this case the silence feels beautiful and it’s palpably a different energy in the air

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Meditation may help you practice listening. If you’re hearing your thoughts, it’s harder to hear the person you’re communicating with.

Practice running social interactions in your mind.

Watch shows that have healthy social interactions. Kids shows are actually good with this!

Practice with talking to your reflection as you get instant feedback of your body language and hearing what you say.

Let this go. All your power is right now here in the present. Stop telling yourself this because you can’t change your past, you can only change the present and that will build into your future.

Socializing is something everyone practices. Everyone makes mistakes socially and learn from them. Remember you are equal to those you connect with.

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Do you feel blocks in social interactions? How familiar this is to me…
Captain’s fields were a good catalyst for me to sort myself out + I’ve been plugging in other methods of analysis…

In my case, the difficulty in communicating was due to the way I was raised, childhood traumas…

I am not good at acting assertively in a social context. I’m comfortable in small companies where I can fully reveal myself. And I’ve learned to accept that.
I’ve always thought that modern society over-values extroversion, openness of character and social figures.
However, the assumption is partly wrong. In fact, both introverts and extroverts can be popular. :)

My childhood and adolescence - was a crucial factor in explaining my difficulty communicating with others.

Sometimes the reason you may have difficulty communicating with people is due to psychological and even neurological factors. Anxiety and stress are factors that limit and hinder social skills. Note that certain characteristics of your personality itself, may be the cause of this problem.

For example: shy people perceive the outside world differently because of what is known as sensory perceptual sensitivity. The brain of shy people is structured differently. On average, it takes them longer to respond to stimuli. Crowd, noise, new stimuli, or exposure to situations in which they have no control lead to stress and discomfort.

For my part, I’ll point out just one thing: If this interferes with your quality of life, plug in additional methods
Simulation of certain social situations - help you understand yourself more and increase your social adaptability
Also, some methods help develop a lack of certain social skills

A certain methodological analysis personality type, your character, temperament, upbringing, negative experiences also helps to answer many questions

Consider all the Captain’s fields that help you accept and love yourself:

  • Become Whole.
  • Self Love & Acceptance.

As recommended to you above, consider all the fields of the Arcana 1 / 2 / 3 albums.
The energy of these cards is getting to know and working with the hidden (shadow) corners of your personality…

By the way, I realized that most people who experience this kind of difficulty have an internal mismatch between their feelings, thoughts, and behavior. They try to communicate not when they want to, but when their mind tells them to. Accordingly, spontaneity in interaction does not work, the person gets anxious and once again is convinced that he or she “does not know how” to communicate.
Undoubtedly, effective communication skills, eloquence are very useful qualities, but they are only a surface, which by itself will not make a person uninhibited and will not bring pleasure in communication. It is very important to hear yourself and your emotions in your interactions with others.

And as I’ve written many times before, Captain has a huge arsenal in working on the inner world

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Yeah so I have this issue mainly with people who I don’t know that well.
I don’t have this issue with my close friends and family, I’m not the loudest but I’m present and actively engaging in the conversation. When there is a silence with my close friends and family, it doesn’t feel awkward at all.

I’ve had people be quite open to me and I still can’t really open up even though I want to. Ofcourse there are also instances when someone isn’t open to me and I can sense that immediately, I don’t really care about that situation and I just move on.

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A very good observation.:+1:

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This issue stems most probably from my childhood too. The thing is I want to be social and meet people. It’s not that I don’t want to, I’m craving for it! This is literally the number one thing that I’m struggling with in life. So with the Arcana albums, do I listen to all the audios in one playlist? Or do I listen to one audio first for a while and do I then switch to another?

What I also notice is when the social interaction is over I analyze it afterwards to see if I did anything wrong or say anything wrong. It’s really tiring me out… Yeah I definitely do have some mismatch going on that needs to be fixed ASAP.

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Save yourself alot of anguish and save up to get New Perspectives.
Gonna make your whole journey so much easier with this.

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I’m considering getting it. My friend told me Outlook Retrainer is sufficient for me, is that correct?

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Well New Perspectives has Outlook Retrainer in it… So until you’ll able to get New Perspective, yes, Outlook Retrainer + PTSD field can used instead.

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Alright thanks!
Is that the Stellate Ganglion Block audio or PTSD help audio?

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EIther one.
Tne SGB just doesn’t have the amygdala field in it.

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Yep, completely agree with this — wonderful field for this!

Seem to recall the Stellate Ganglion Block also doesn’t contain the other PTSD subfields, btw.

But either will do.

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Do you want me to tell you a huge secret? Just don’t tell anyone…

Make them crave it. Make them WANT to communicate with you.

This is a very important aspect.

Do you know what personal magnetism is? Do you know what inner strength, charisma is?

Personal magnetism is that quality, or property of a person, which attracts to him the interest, trust, friendship and love of other people.

Have you noticed that some people as if attracted to themselves by others? And those people don’t have a brilliant mind and aren’t super handsome.

Restore energy integrity at a deeper level. Stabilization of the state. Centering, integration, development of inner potential.

This simple exercise will help develop confidence, personal power, magnetism…

After reading this sentence of yours, I had a thought that this exercise would suit you very well and complement your arsenal that you were offered above.

While taking this course (Star exercise), I began to notice the aspects it activates. It’s great for increasing inner luminosity and attracting the attention and interest of others

(+ this exercise has a lot of other useful properties)

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Yeah people want to communicate with me! I just give off a close of vibe because I somehow get stuck in my head and don’t know what to say. So people think I’m not interested or just stuck up/arrogant. I have had people get irritated and mad because they think I don’t want to talk to them, especially girls.

I added Mindfulness, anxiety removal, PTSD help and outlook retrainer to my list. Will start doing the reiki meditation too!

Thanks for your help

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It is not your fault. I guess you’re an introvert, and when you were a kid you didn’t know how to communicate with others. Also the other people didn’t know how to communicate with you. This is where adults should interfere. I guess unfortunately there wasn’t someone in your life to show you the right path. Also there are communities that don’t care about introverts. They behave as if this world just belongs to extroverts! You can see many of these kinds of people at school/university/work/…even at gym.
Try to know yourself better. Not all people express themselves with words. Read this book to know yourself better.
Quite: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking (Susan Cain)

I have 2 nieces. One of them is 7 years old. Till 3 months ago she barely spoke and even didn’t raise her head in front of me! At this time I always told her how much I love her. She became better, then her dad sent her to a theater and acting class and now after 2 months she’s someone else! This is because there were people for her at the right time, at the right place.

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I don’t know if mentioned before or if you are aware of it, but limit the amount of time you use the PTSD field. As per description it states the results of 2/3 listens last quite long and it is advised to listen that 2/3 times and stop for a week. Than repeat the process the same or every other week. Someone correct me if I’m wrong please. Just thought it was important to remind it here for you.

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I agree. I listened to it 2-3 times a week or at least several days in between. I pick it up now and then when stuff comes up, can take weeks between listens now. Excellent field, have been very helpful on many levels.

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I’m an introvert yes. When I was a kid I was not introverted at all I was highly energetic and couldn’t stay still. People thought I had ADHD. Once I got to the ages of 10/11 I became more quiet and self-conscious from there onwards it has stayed the same.

Will have a look at the book that you recommend! Happy to hear about your niece :) The right help at a young age can really make a difference.

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Will listen to it 2x a week and then take a couple days off.
I’m looping the mindfulness audio, is it ok to loop it?

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Yes, from its description I infer it’s okay to loop it. You can also use check the other audios from this series as they are complementary :+1:

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