Sending good wishes to you and your boyfriend…
You may need some shielding fields for yourself, as well as Soul/Core Restoration and Etheric Cord Cutter to preserve some parts of yourself in this context.
Anxiety fields, Mental Health album as well.
Some Be The Healer for your boyfriend can be good (much better if you inform him beforehand).
A recent discussion here too.
CAUTION though: I’m not cataloguing those fields so that you use all of them at once and overwhelm yourself even more. Picking only a few of them to offer yourself some extra support is enough.