(And, yeah, I know that’s not a reply you want to hear. But really what you’re saying to us is “Other people’s opinion of me is more important than my own opinion of myself. And if others, who really don’t know me, judge me negatively due to my surface, then I need to fix myself so that they no longer judge or diminish me.”
And when you read it that way, don’t you wanna say, "Reeeeally? 
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