Woman health issues, don't know the source

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Hello and greetings everyone, it’s been so long since I posted here, feels good to be back <3

Sadly, I’ve been having health issues for months and have lost all faith in doctors so I hope you might have some kind of answer or fields, since I’ve been nothing but filled with pills and creams until now. I am desperate and just want to be healthy again as it’s compromising my mental health too, I really can’t do this anymore and no one seems to understand me.

I am a woman, and started having intercourse for the 1st time last year with my current partner. Everything was fine until 6 months later, in May 2025, I started having issues the following day after having intercourse. I’ll tell my whole story month-by-month, so please bare with me.

So, I woke up one day of May, went to the bathroom and was left in SEVERE PAIN down there, an intense burning and pain in my internal intimate area and the need to pee every 5 minutes. Thinking it was cystitis, I started drinking water until I started to feel better, but the next day the pain came back as strong as the day before. I refused any type of treatment, but after a week I started having vaginal discharge too and itching, so I called my doctor and she gave me 1gr Augmentin for 6 days + Meclon (vaiginal antibiotic/antimicotic) for 7 days. I started feeling better almost immediately, and after a week I felt brand new! Everything was fine again.

Little did I know, in July i had the same issue. Woke up one morning after having intercourse, and the burning was back. This time it was too much, so I took Monuril, an antibiotic for the urinary system that you take for 2 days. I felt better, but this time the burning and pain didn’t completely go away, I felt as something was still there, but I tried not to think about it…

In September, my doctor suggested that I took those d-mannose and red berries supplements, completely natural but prevented cystitis. So, before visiting my partner for the weekend, I took the supplements in anticipation and kept taking them for the whole weekend, drinking liters of water. Nothing’s changed, the next monday I came home feeling miserable AGAIN. My doctor suggested I took an urinary test, which came back negative. She visited me and told me my intimate area was SEVERELY irritated and I had an acute vaginitis, so I had to stop having intercourse, wearing tight clothing and I had to start taking Meclon AGAIN for 10 days.

Here we are in October, 3 weeks after I finished the therapy with Meclon, the discharge came back again on its own, without any direct cause. Stupidly, I just bought whatever the pharmacist gave me to keep the itching under control for a few days (I had to go at my boyfriend’s for a concert, and was sure we would’ve had intercourse). It was some Chlorexidine and Hyaluronic acid suppositories that she swore were completely natural, took 2x a day for 2 days, woke up on the 3rd day needing to go to the HOSPITAL. I wanted it all to end and felt depressed as ever. The mysoginist doctor I found there didn’t even bother visiting me and said that ‘It’s stupid to come here just for a little itching, it must be yeast (mind you, he didn’t even visit me), take this cream’ and told me to buy an antimicotic cream. I came back home crying. I decided to take again the Meclon as it helped me in the past, but it made the itching worse, my Vagina was probably chemically burned at this point. The only thing that helped with the pain was the Ibuprofen.

Now, I consulted a local gynecologist who took a swab sample of my vagina and send it to the lab, came back I had 1.000.000 bacterial load of Enterococcus. So she prescribed me 1gr Augmentin for 7 days, which I’m still taking. I even bought prebiotics (oral and vaginal) with specific Lactobacillus to help me get back the microbiome of my stomach and intimate parts.

I am terrified I might have this infection/pain/whatever it is again. I can’t stand this anymore. I started listening to plasma flaunt but I don’t know if it’s the right field since I’m not sure the doctors got the source of my pain right…
Have you ever anyone have similar issues? Or is it familiar to you in any way? Please help, I’m really desperate.
Giving you a big hug, Healy x

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Ive been awake all night so I’ll be blunt.
No, I’ve never had this problem.

According to the info u posted the most likely source (which u say u dont know)
is the man u are having sexual intercourse with. It sounds like he infected u and keeps reinfecting you after u get treated. U said it yourself…

" I started having issues the following day after having intercourse…"

then again, later on…

" I started having issues the following day after having intercourse"

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Thanks for replying!

But we always use condoms, and I don’t have any Yeast or other STDs in the test they ran on me… How would he be the cause?

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Has he been tested?

He needs to be tested. period.

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Could it somehow be related to the type of condom in use?

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I left my crystal ball in my other jacket…

Its not healthy for u to keep getting infections and repeatedly taking antibiotics.

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Nope, never, I trusted him because we had intercourse for the first time with each other, so I knew he couldn’t have anything… but you’re 100% right, he has to be tested. Although, I’m afraid the antibiotics completely killed the microbiome in my gut and that’s why I keep on having infections one after the other, but he HAS to get tests just like I did. Thank you sm

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Thanks for replying!

I highly doubt it… I’ve ofc thought about it, but I started getting sick in May and we switched with a new brand of condoms more or less a month later, so I don’t think that’s the issue. It’s got no spermicide, just lube, and yes they’re made of latex, but again, I always used latex condoms in the previous months and nothing ever happened :frowning:

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Your approach to medication is worrying.

Your initial treatment worked until you had sex again with the same partner. He is the systematic trigger. It takes days for antibiotics to have an effect, given your reported level of pain, it’s been very effective.

1gr of Augmentin for 6 days and 7 days of Meclon is a relatively light treatment, slightly weaker than what is commonly given.

Monuril is mainly indicated for uncomplicated urinary tract infections (UTIs). You were looking for cystic. Fair enough. But it is not primarily a STD medication, it merely rules out most UTIs, not STDs. Furthermore it’s not as effective as your first treatment.

Then the urinary test. Urinary test are not meant to test for STDs. Urinalysis detects markers of bladder inflammation or bacterial infection.

I doubt she made some, but even urine cultures identifies common urinary pathogens not STDs. The reason is STD detection requires specific test because most STDs either don’t show up in urine or or require a different type of culture to identify them in urine.

Vaginal pain, irritation, or abnormal discharge usually points to vaginal or cervical infection not UTIs. Usually that is.

Your symptoms as described are most often statistically due to STDs which would be treated with your first treatment.

Then you went to the hospital and your doctor recommended topical application, the cream. He didn’t make good impression but his approach makes sense.

Topical application is much better than oral, it’s more targeted, more potent, faster and more importantly safer.

This is the most logical and efficient approach. Now if you had tried the cream and it didn’t work, you would have told him and he would have taken it to the second step. IF the cream hadn’t worked.

Now to the worrying part. Likely you received a 14 tablet box of your first augmenting treatment, the one that worked. Then you still had more tablets so you decided to pop them for 2 days. Low doses of antibiotics for ridiculous amount of times creates antibiotics resistant strains. 2 days isn’t long enough for that type of meds to get results. They don’t work like Monuril. You are taking medication on and off, in low dosages. This is very dangerous.

If you don’t go all-in to kill the bacterias, you are creating a selective pressure for resistant strains. It cannot be stressed enough.Furthermore, it won’t eradicate infections, but partial antibiotic exposure can hide the infections from tests. Giving false results.

You didn’t say your boyfriend swore he got tested and never had an STD. Maybe you felt comfortable telling us about vaginal discharge but not his tests? But you keep having sex with him and as soon as you do you get an infection.

Your first treatment augmenting and meclon can eradicate Enterococcus if the treatment is PROLONGED and IF the strain not resistant. Otherwise it would merely reduce symptoms, bacterial loads, discharges, pain and inflammations.

Even asymptomatic men can carry Enterococcus in their urethra or perineal area. The bacteria can be transferred to the female partner during sex, especially since women have a short urethra. Partner-mediated reinoculation is more likely than environmental or anatomical susceptibility alone. Also, while women are more prone to UTIs, middle aged and older men are disproportionately susceptible to Enterococcal. It doesn’t prove anything but safety comes first. He should get tested. If he doesn’t have it, he will have peace of mind, if he does then he will get treatment, be healthier.

Condoms are not perfect as they reduce risk, they don’t eliminate them. Know that your sexual practices or contraceptive methods can be to blame.

It’s time to talk solutions now. There are plenty of fields against bacterial infections on the Sapien channels, that includes Odyssey. Then there is the Patreon, I’m not exactly sure how it works nowadays. In any case search with “bacteria” as a keyword and keep spamming to make sure it is fully eradicated, do not quit as soon as you feel better.

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Hi @etherealraisins

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Thanks for replying!

I’ll answer to each part cause I need some clarifications and info

I got a vaginal swab test last week, and it came negative to Candida as well as Trichomonas Vaginalis, the only infection found was the Enterococcus, nothing else… so if I had an STD it should’ve showed up, right? Though, my gynecologist told me that if this test wouldv’ve came out negative, we should’ve done a cervical swab, which is where most STDs are detected, but since this one came positive, she felt like the second swab test wasn’t necessary. So you’re telling me it might be?!?

Yes, both me and my partner were virgins, we never had STDs test because we thought that never having partner before + using condoms was just fine. I always believed that I was the problem, being sensitive to anything and getting vaginal dysbiosis on my own, not thinking that maybe I got infected by him…

You’re 100% right, I already told him. He HAS to get tested, I can’t risk getting sick again and, as you said, risk becoming resistant to antibiotics!
But what if the tests come out negative?

Yes, I’ve listened to those too, I found the ‘Smart Bacteria Slayer’ on Patreon giving me some relief (it has amoxicillin, basically augmentin lol). Sapien also published an HPV and HIV one but I don’t think it’s what I need right now…

Anyways, what makes me so confused is that the pain/burning is between the vaginal and urinary area, making it harder to understand where exactly the issue is. But you’re right, the next step are finishing this augmentin therapy and get him tested ASAP.

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To the extent that you and your boyfriend were both previously untouched, the issue has previously been solved quite rapidly with antibiotics and you know have a empirical diagnosis consistent with your symptoms then additional STD panels aren’t a priority.

Be sure to take your medication and measure the progression or lack thereof so you can discuss it with your physician.

The first part of my previous answer is more so to give you an idea, being sexually active requires some basic understanding, quick heuristics given the responsibility. Your previous doctor whom recommended the cream was too busy to explain himself as they often are in hospitals.

Now, still just to give you an idea there are different tests, some more sophisticated, invasive and expensive. Just know that taking antibiotics randomly beforehand can mess with the swabs.

It’s a reasonable line of thought if you are prone to similar issues independently of sexual activities.

No one can predict every outcome, but the tests are fairly reliable. Of course some are slightly better than others. But if he is the source of your infection, twice over month which would mean he is persistently colonized and if he isn’t taking antibiotics, then the tests are very reliable.

As scary as it might be, especially when it happens in the first sexual intercourses, these things happen, they are detectable and treatable.

These tend to be pretty effective and free of adverse effect, taken as prophylactics or under suspicion of infection is not something I would worry about.

Pain as useful as it is tend to be a better warning system/alarm bell then a diagnostic tool. Especially when trying to self-diagnose. Could be local, referred pain or something else.

Remember that you first treatment got the job done. Your results under the current treatment and his tests will guide the rest of the process. It’s the results that guide the decisions and exploration.

Also, for the future reference, when it comes to medical stuff @SilverZuzu is qualified, knowledgeable and more often then not the voice of sanity and reason with a no-nonsense approach.

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Your answer helped me get some peace of mind, really. Thanks for not making me feel crazy or underrated like that doctor did (believe me, he really was mysoginistic as he refused to visit me and even some pregnant ladies!!).
I’ll continue with the Augmentin until I finish the whole week of therapy and keep on going with the Sapien fields just to make sure, in the meantime my bf will get tested. I’ll let you know once we have the results.
Again, thank you!!! Bless you, really

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If you’ll allow me this social commentary about professional etiquette.

Routine friction is almost always reframed as sexism, racism, xenophobia, political hostility, to the point that it’s all people see. But in the real world:

Repeated micro-empathy loops are mentally exhausting. Sure, the first few patient or client or customers of the day people are smiling and warm, but by the 10-15th person it becomes compressed, quick heuristics, categorization and as little verbalization as possible. It means fewer facial cues, blunt speech, narrowed prosody. Especially when it’s in an organization that is understaffed, under equipped etc like an hospital.

You see one doctor. The doctor sees thousands of patients.

And since everything is interpreted as hostility, people forget that everyone gets tired, depressed. Maybe a bad morning, family issues.

And everyone seems to forget that w have a LOT of autistic people in the workforce. People who do good at systemic analysis, anatomy, chemistry, pathology and diagnostics but can barely have emotional conversations and get overwhelmed by interpersonal interactions.

A lot of the time, professionals like doctors don’t have the mental energy to hate on you for being a woman during the day or the memory of you to hate you after work as much as they can just hate their own lives.

There’s been a serious mental health crisis amongst health professionals for decades now. Half of them have burnout symptoms, healthcare professionals are 3x more likely to suicide than the rest of the population. Being locked in a hospital every day amongst sick or dying people, taking shifts isn’t fun. Med school itself is brutal.

16-20 patient per day.
130 per week.
400 per month.
4-5000 per year.
41-52,000 per decade.
160-208,000 in a career.

It doesn’t count their colleagues, nurses etc they coorindate with.

This is insane hyper-socialization.
We have engineered a society that assumes everyone is a high-bandwidth extrovert with infinite empathic throughput.

Most people used to be craftsmen, farmers, local doctors, smiths and these roles involved task-first work with minimal social overhead. 1-2 client, customers, patient per day and not even every workday.

Exposure to multiple distressed or demanding individuals amplifies stress hormones, accelerating mental fatigue.

Emotional labor (empathy, reassurance, conflict management) consumes neurochemical resources (oxytocin, dopamine, cortisol).

Rapid shifts between unrelated tasks and individuals cause executive function fatigue because working memory decays under high-switching load.

Frequent interruptions reduce sustained attention and decision-making quality because your brain is optimized for fewer, deeper engagements.

Biologically no-one can realistically perform what health professionals are expected to do. Shortcuts will happen, hopefully handholding is what gets sacrificed not care and diagnostics.

On top of that doctors don’t just spend 15-25 minutes with a patient and move on. That 25 minutes is only the face time. Before they even walk in the room they spend a few minutes reviewing charts, labs, notes, thinking through the case. Then there’s handwashing and getting tools ready.

The patient visit itself takes maybe 10 to 15 minutes of talking, exam, explaining things, and dealing with emotions.

Afterward they have to document everything in the database, enter orders, coordinate with staff, sometimes deal with interruptions or referrals. All that adds another 10 to 15 minutes per patient.

Also most people lie to their doctors, just as much or even more than they lie to their dentists or the taxman. People don’t take their prescribed treatments right or refuse help. People are self-destructive, drinking and driving, doing drugs, having unprotected sex, these are not the creative ones. Then leeching out empathy and reassurance from their doctors, emotional dumping, aggression, entitlement, parasitic reliance, moral blackmail

Also there is a strong industrial logic, economics, accounting, quotas, time per patients. Let alone the health insurance or malpractice stuff.

They aren’t dealing with average folks, they spent their lives surrounded by mentally ill people, dying, unstable, addicts, predators and victims.

Lawyers, politicians, salesman, cops, marketers, doctors, social workers a lot of these people start out idealistic, humanitarian. Young doctors tend to be nice and hip, they are attracted to healing people. Young politicians often believe what they say. Young cops want to protect the innocent and represent justice. But these turn out to be the most ruthless, reptilian people.

They start to see the real world, incentive, opportunism, irrationality, narratives. Clients exploit loopholes, patient withhold informations or flat out lie, opposing counsel weaponize the procedures, voters demand contradictory policies. Hypocrisy, self-sabotage, selective memory, performative virtue signaling.

Also 150 people (now likely below 100) is Dunbar’s number. That’s the number of people a healthy person can remember. What their face somewhat looks like, their name. The idea of them.

For emotionally close ties, it’s 5 people or less. These are your closest confidants, where full empathy and sustained attention are possible.
For Sympathy group/good friends that’s roughly 15 people. Still high-fidelity social interaction, but less intense than the inner 5. That’s a biological constraints, a cognitive and emotional limit.

Your doc sees more than that many patients in a day talking about their bowel movement, fertility, intimate stuff. Single serving friends he didn’t know before and won’t see again most likely.

From “what’s the patient’s name, gender and issue?” to “intimate, secret conversations about your poopoo and genitals in 25 minutes” and not every patient is polite, nice, rational or understanding.

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@etherealraisins
Thanks for the shout out and the compliment. I appreciate it.

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I can agree, but only partially.
If you become a doctor you must be conscious of what’s going to happen. I work too, and I talk with tons of clients, but politeness is never something I’ll be missing.
The doctor I was talking about had just started his shift, and he refused to even LOOK at my problem, when I was waiting for 6+ hours at the hospital for being told to ‘buy a cream cause it’s surely micosis’, when it clearly wasn’t. I’m not saying that doctors should be psychologists, cause they’re clearly must not be, but if I’ve been waiting in line, suffering patiently, and at my turn (although he did the same with the other PREGNANT women) you refuse to even visit me, I’ll be mad. I was mad. You HAVE to visit your patients, especially if you’re going to give out meds like that!!!
I spoke with the head of the department of gynecology, the one who’s in charge, and he told me this doctor has been an issue in the whole department for a while now, and if I send a written report they’ll do something about him, cause I think I’m not the first nor the last he’s been mistreating honestly…

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The goal is not to give you the best medicine possible, it’s to give the best possible medicine to everyone in a sustainable way, maybe even generating a profit for private clinics.

Otherwise they can start doing thousands of dollars of testing and procedures for everyone, patient outlook shoots up, then the hospital goes bankrupt and no one gets healthcare

Seriously if you can afford it, you should go to one of those private clinics where they do DNA, antibody testing for running nose for a few tens of thousands of dollars not reimbursed.

If you can afford more than that, there’s also those black site hospitals, they’ll fly you to some mysterious hospital in Japan, give you all the illegal stem cells and not officially approved peptides and even nanobot surgery. Test for everything, fix things you didn’t know bothered you. If you need it they’ll fetch a human slave from the basement to take her heart give it to you. Certified fresh. Then a few days of slurping lobster smoothies and they’ll ship you back home, no one will know you were even sick.

Law enforcement is a business, police investigations are an investment, healthcare is also a business.

Doctors can always do more.
But Money. That’s what it takes.

Bottom line: Doctors are trained in “Triage” that’s what happened to you.

Triage is basically about figuring out who needs help first when resources are tight. Doctors and nurses look at how serious a condition is, how fast it could get worse, and what treatment will actually make a difference.

Life threatening cases jump to the front, while less urgent stuff like you might get a quick check or a simple “try this first” approach. It’s a constantly updating process patients get re-evaluated, priorities shift, the goal is to use time, staff, and tests where they’ll matter most.

From a physician’s point of view, urgent means the ambulance gave you a ride and the paramedics escorted you in. You walked up there by yourself and waited for 6 hours, if you can do that then it’s not urgent.

That was not an error. That’s the system working “right”.

Trust me doctors love doing tests, play with fancy tools and make sure they are 100% right, zero liability, perfect statistics if you give them carte blanche. Especially young doctors, that’s one of the main reasons why the department head watches them even more than old timers.

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I don’t want to get too much into the politeness issue, that would take a while.

But his approach was fine and even recommended, doctors are often pushed to do this.
It’s called a differential diagnostic. It’s a real medical procedure.
Yeast is the leading cause of the symptoms you are experiencing. 40% of the time, it’s not just yeast, it’s a specific kind of yeast called Candida.

A yeast cream cost 3 euros in Europe, 7$ in the US over the counter. It’s safe, pregnant women can take it and it works fast. If your symptom don’t improve in 24h then it’s likely bacteria.

Doing the whole swab your vagina is invasive, intimate (lawsuits are easy on that one), kinda gross and takes time but more importantly can cost like a 100-150 bucks and some lab technician times. They have to fiddle in your vagina and grow many different types of cultures each for a specific suspect. Analyze it and come back to you. Hospital labs are overwhelmed already and often pay extra for private labs.

The math is clear.
Hospitals are leaning on doctors and second guessing every single expense, test and procedures. The healthcare systems in developed countries are collapsing through debt, understaffed and they’ve already been compromising patient care in many more ways.

You keep going back and bugging them, they give you the test. It’s a sneaky form of triage. You come back, then they give you the test. Trust me, they knowingly do that on purpose a lot of time. Not always, but it’s very common.

Also you waited 6 hours already, imagine if he sat down and did the whole shebang for every patient. Then you’re good for 12hour waiting or more.

Hospitals cost money to run. That’s just the world we live in.

Just because someone waits in the clinic at their own requests doesn’t mean it’s a serious condition. People are inviting themselves. Sometimes or even often it’s nothing.

They didn’t say they would fire him, the boss put the blame on the frontline employee, they always do that. Public, private organizations, even in Fast food. The boss wants you to give less ketchup and less napkins because those cents adds up to a fortune. The customer complain and the manager will blame the minimum wage employee. Blaming the underlings is office politics 101.

Accounting inspects every doctor and yeah, they’ll tell you if you run too many tests. Because they have a budget even if people actually need more tests or not.

I’m not saying he wasn’t an asshole. But yeah, the healthcare system is a nasty business.

The cream was cheap, it’s fast, it’s as safe as it gets. Either you’re cured or it’s bacteria.

I don’t like it anymore than you do, but to get luxury healthcare one needs to go into luxury hospitals and pay bookuu money. Maybe it sounds far fetched, but how much does money influence your behavior, lifestyle, your business and clients?