It’s an eternal debate, you may think it’s luck but I really HATE how people are treating me, friends, co workers, strangers, they don’t see me for what I am, all they see is how I look.
What I want is a deep connection with someone and they don’t understand, that I’m not superficial, too dumb, and don’t put all my chances on my look. Some women approached me just for ego boosting and treated me as a trophy, to be validated by other women as if I was an object you know.
The other side is other males that put themselves in competition against me. They often try to disrespect me in front of people, especially in front of women to assert “dominance”. It never happens in private.
When I try to interact with women, often they don’t believe how “someone like me is interested in them”, that I’m certainly trying to mock them or think they are easy girls. They think of a smart, arrogant guy that has no flaws, no insecurities, girls in abundance, no problems in life so they see me as a mastermind planning on something bad, when they don’t know me well.
We all have our problems, some are richer than some, some are more attractive or stronger in video games than some, life is complicating, not binary, having more money doesn’t necessarily mean you have a greater life, being attractive doesn’t mean you are happy.
Living through the eyes of others and waiting for their approval, is like living in automatic mode, missing your life and being in spectator mode. Your value is not based on your look, your value is based on what YOU value, if you base your value on your ability to attract women, it might create frustration even if you are attractive, as we age and EVERYONE take refusals.
All of this is not to s*ck myself nor to make people feel guilty. The goal is to make you realize, whatever you are, whatever you have, whatever everything in the world, if you don’t learn how to love yourself and it’s not easy indeed, you will always envy others, it’s an eternal cycle of fear and hatred.
There is good in each pills (blue, red and black) the solution is not only one pill, the nearest from the truth (for me) are the three TOGETHER, what differs from two pilled people is how they use the datas. They use them to make their lives better, taking account of everything we can’t change or they complain and start to hate women.
You can’t hate them for profiting a situation men created first and allow through decades, till today. I understand you may be frustrated, you may say “you are attractive, you are lucky”, It’s not as incredible as you think. Everyone poops the same way, everyone eats to survive, we all need water too, we all bleed the same way.
Why are you taking this so personally ? A “NO” from women, as if it was necessarily YOUR fault. There are plenty of reasons… Are you responsible for what she thinks at X moment ? Are you responsible if she has a bad day ? Are you responsible if you don’t correspond her criteria ? It’s a loss for her and she saves you a lot of time. Are you responsible if she is not currently emotionally available because her last boyfriend did something wrong ? Are you responsible if she is afraid of commitment ?
Are you responsible if she doesn’t want to be seen as an easy girl ? Are you responsible if she is focused on work instead of love ? And most IMPORTANT, are you responsible if it was a bad timing and you sadly were in a bad place in bad time ?
There is nothing wrong with rejection when you dont take it personally, when you go partying, don’t go saying “I NEED to f*ck tonight”, no, have fun, see your friends, laugh, and EVENTUALLY if the opportunity is presenting and you want to score, do it, and if it doesn’t happen, whatever, you had fun.
Life is much more than just pleasing people, as men we can have urge to inseminate women, it’s biological and natural, when it’s your 30th “NO”, you may be frustrated, angry and sad, there is nothing wrong with being human and feeling emotions, don’t worry. Don’t lose time on people that don’t value your person, friendship and attraction can’t be NEGOTIATED.
The most valuable thing is the soul. Like Jim Carrey said, “My soul is not contained within the limits of my body. My body is contained within the limitlessness of my soul.” If you can think, you have everything, the only thing missing is taking action now and change your internal world.
