Knowing and understanding someone

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#1

Hi All,

I have been struggling to understand my wife for quite sometime. What she do and what she say are mostly different things. The disconnects are very obvious and clear. And there is a history of finding hidden things (major). Also I know that she is very secretive (scorpio - and some manifestation logics) and usually I have to come with proofs if I figure out something. I have a very strong notion that there is something major hidden for last couple of years and as if it’s right in front of me. Honestly it’s bothering me a lot and consuming a lot of my mental energy.

Well I have asked her many times but I know she will not talk about it. I have ran through Conceptual Realizations, Conceptual Conglomerate and even Cone of Power but nothing much helps.

Any suggestions? I will really like to put an end to this.

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#2

Hello. You mean that you suspect that she was/is cheating on you - or some other hidden thing?

#3

I honestly do not know. I don’t think the major thing if it is - related to cheating

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#4

Trust your intuition, I guess (?), but proof is king either way.

Higher Self fields and Chakras are some suggestions I can give.

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#5

The thing that came to me immediately was that a person wants to feel safe to open themselves up to revealing withheld things. Sometimes it’s necessary to create a “safe space” in your relationship. Emotionally open relationships require open-hearted souls who wish to be vulnerable, knowing that they are safe to be so.

Discover if your desire to know what is hidden is only from a selfish standpoint or if you truly want to accept and embrace more intimacy between you. Relationship is the most beautiful and can be the most challenging life path to walk, but if used consciously it can be the most blessed way to become more of the beingness you both are.

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#6

It looks like there is a lack of trust, and that is the reason why she (and you?) cannot fully talk openly with each other.

Have you tried to sit down with her and speaking openly about your concerns?
Until you talk with her openly, it will continue to bother you and drain your energy.
What is hidden and unspoken, consumes energy.

For the trust, it is heavily based on free will, so you looping “Attract More Love Into Your Life” can help her opening up to you more.

Also loop the “Self Respect” and Heart Chakra fields.

You can also play the Raise Evironmental Vibration fields (and personal Vibration increase fields) at home.

One other thing that could help is looping Justice for All combined with Angelic Intercession and request the higher powers to reveal what is hidden from you, and if it is something negative, create the appropriate Justice. Ask them to reveal everything where there are hidden secrets.

I mean, if there is a history like that, then it is not just some entity manipulating your perception…

So ask the angels to help her to open up with you and talk to each other about everything openly.

Secret tip: You can also talk directly to her Higher Self and ask for help for her to open up and you both speaking about everything.

I don’t think you can force other people to open up with this. Free will is free will.

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#7

Many many times. I have stripped myself naked (metaphorically) from my side.

Thank you. Angelic Intercession has saved me out of a situation before. So I will give this a try.

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#8

Choosing to understand someone can be very close to the vibe of loving them, according to the Hawkin’s scale. Not a bad state to be in. Nice to see this message in the advice section.

Would be curious to hear further perspectives on this.

Sometimes its more about the action, then what is said. Could also be a disconnect between subconscious and conscious, or some message that wants to be interpreted.
I’ve noticed this a lot among women but can’t say there is a definitive pattern or specific reasoning. Could vary between women, but possibly not at all.

Maybe what’s the greater truth between you two? …And tune into that

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#9

Thought about it, “do and say,” this is the answer I came to.

In a word:
Attention

In two words:
Attention, Lack

In a more suitable and desc phrase:
Attention, Lack of confidence / strength / being in one’s power, or Lack of safety / trust / security
or Lack of love – self, one another, between

For some men, there is a more security and memory-conscious way of interacting with the world. Would notice discrepancies, things out of the ordinary, changes that could lead to danger, threatening. I could imagine its part of the whole evolutionary, adaptation, and survival thing.

For some women, they may act through guile or subtle manipulation. Create (subconscious) events or ideas to draw attention, or unknowingly to a man, push for his action.

In this case, the clear difference between what is said and what is done. With one traditional gender role using subtle communication to bring attention to what is lacking, and the other traditional gender role to respond to that, by working in harmony to provide or rather create, what is needed within a couple.

There could always be more love, and its probably part of the answer to any question. ​

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#10

The next thing that came to mind was her background. As a relationship progresses in its cycles old records come up from the family of origin. Perhaps she is reacting like her parents did, or maybe something in her past is programming her behavior.

Possibilities: resolve the conflict in your mind first, refuse to be bothered or concerned by it if you can - while you are seeking the energetic remedies.

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#12

As someone who’s lived very similar relationship dynamics (all these questions are as rhetorical as you want them to be):

Are you trying to be right, or are you trying to heal the relationship? There is no both; what’s the primary driver?

Are your open conversations only happening in the prelude to, during, or post argument? If so, they’re not open conversations.

Are you more concerned with what is actually happening, or with the fact that you feel gaslighted (based on your statement of you needing to have irrefutable proof to bring an issue in the open)?

Are you in a relationship with your wife, or are you a detective trying to solve/catch her?

Now, I’m not saying you’re in the wrong. You could literally answer as negatively as possible to all of those and still be a decent person, but it would mean the relationship would need some serious work and your trust is thoroughly broken. The next question, if that’s the case would be, did she break it, or was it already broken? Who do you have to work through the trauma of to fix your trust the most (e.g. maybe she broke some of it, but if the core of the damage is someone else, go after that first)?

If it’s her and I was in your shoes, imho, I’d get therapy for myself, and a separate couple’s therapist if my partner was willing because it’s very hard to heal from trauma while being continuously re-traumatized.

To be clear, there is no scenario where your sleuthing reactions, no matter how justified, works out in the best interest of you both. We come back to question one, slightly reworded, are you trying to prove what you’re experiencing is valid, or are you trying to heal the relationship?

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#13

@benign_polaris , @Rosechalice , @mrpixeltech - Thank you very much for your insights. I have thought around the same lines and acted on what you shared more or less. Your replies do provide me with food for thought and reflection.

Thanks again.

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#14

I would be happy to do the tarot for you if you like that approach. It might give some additional food for thought.

#15

I mean, this was released recently:

I can’t comment much on the situation. I’ve experienced similar things, stemming from trauma on her part.

Are you both in love still? Otherwise I wouldn’t bother, tbh…

Most couples get bored or tired or at some point hate each other and they look for reasons to break up. Which you can do if you aren’t in love anymore, no need to look for any other reason imo.

I’d also try this:

Or even cut cords with her (if at all possible), clear yourself of any negativity about this or her, and then use this field or what have you for reconnecting.

In any case, I wish you good luck.

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#16

I used the Devil reversed and the pain body protocol from Spirituality Zone which helped my situation with husband (same, could feel something was off and very secretive). Just, be prepared for whatever it brings up.

1 week of the pain body clearing.
Ongoing devil reversed.

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