Remember we were talking about the writer Anderson? 
The Grimm brothers have a fairy tale about clever Elsa: the protagonist goes to the cellar to get beer, but she doesnāt come back for a long time, so they send a maid to her
she sees Elsa sitting on the steps in bitter tears. It turns out that the girl was pouring beer and saw a hoe hanging on the wall, then she āimaginedā that she would get married, have a baby, the baby would grow up, they would send him to the cellar for beer, he would come here, and the hoe would fall on his head and kill him (a very violent fantasy).
How can you not cry? The maid starts crying with Elsa, and gradually the whole family joins in
However, we are āsmarterā than Elsa, and the same brain realizes that panic is not the answer.
To get rid of the unpleasant feeling, it decides to ātake control of the futureā, which seems to be the opposite of uncertainty. And it falls into a trap: this solution only seems logical, but in reality it traps us in a loop of hypercontrol and anxiety that feed each other
we get anxious, we try to control everything, we fail, anxiety builds up and we try to increase control, etc.
The feeling of anxiety drives us on, forcing us to ādecide on tomorrowā - but the future itself remains uncertain, no matter how clear and realistic plans we make. But the amplitude of our emotions reaches frightening values: euphoria and self-confidence are constantly replaced by apathy, because the harsh reality at every opportunity ābrings us downā from heaven to earth.
Often a person seems to realize that his or her desire to control everything is excessive, but immediately convinces himself or herself that this strategy is the ākeyā to success.
When we take responsibility for what happens, it gives us the strength and resources to cope with stress (but if not everything depends on us, the sense of security and control we gain in this way is illusory, which leads to unpleasant consequences).
Itās worth distinguishing between healthy control and hypercontrol (excessive attempts to control things that donāt need to be controlled or are uncontrollable). It always goes hand in hand with anxiety - as a futile attempt to overcome it
Youāre changing as you write.
and thatās a big result.
Just be sure that everything will be okay. 
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