@Murse Most of the time we create problems that don’t even exist in the first place or we allow them to take too much place for what they are. Patience is key, creating the best opportunity and be when needed, at the good place arounded by the right persons, luck is a concept but don’t wait for luck to do any good in your life. Sometimes people seem to be follow by angels, their lifes seem so in order you may think they are extremely lucky.
Successful people (I don’t talk about money particularly) successively made the best choices in their life (best doesn’t mean painless) or deviated sometimes but have this ability to always come back in the road. Failing is seen by society as a flaw and often when you lose you don’t get an another chance but to win you have to lose sometimes, with experience you learn to absorb better losing.
The solution of your “'problem” may be more accessible than you think, it’s written nowhere and no one can teach you this apart from living and experiencing things by yourself. The field worked but you can’t be aware of it because of the initial issue.
There is no shortcut for relationships, you’ll have to work on yourself and live to experience and being confortable around other human being. It’s so easy to tell it this way but social ease is a skill you can mold like you learnt to stand up, right ? You fell before being able to walk flawlessly.
If you are afraid of people and think everyone is a threat to you, everyone is judging you, fear of rejection, if you think you don’t deserve love, everyone will see it, people are more empathetic than we think. “We are the biggest insecurity we have”, you can’t let an insecurity define who you are. You might have the biggest heart in the world and be the most interesting but if you don’t even give the chance to other people to see it, then nothing you’ll do will change anything.
In my opinion you lack the experience, you don’t need therapy and the problem is not this field. Good news for you, you can change it anytime you want. A field attracting girls is useless if you are not able to interpret interest signs, you attract them but it don’t go any further.
Experience can’t be bought, negociated, learnt, it’s felt.
