My boyfriend is dying, HELP!

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#230

Hi there
In such…

…a state everything will feel like an internal battle. That’s why it’s important to get back into a coherent mindset that you can use to propel you out of it. Willpower alone won’t suffice; it needs to be the innate power within to move forward.

  1. listen to emotional release first, loop it around 12 times, or about 1 hour and reassess (if it was me, I’d loop it until i feel any sense of mental clarity that stems from the release of these emotions, could be 24h or more)

  2. from there listen to shamanic medicine blend. As the name suggests it’s a blend of various fields and many of them help with trauma and, importantly, love. I’d also loop this as long as needed before going to the next

2a) listen to forgiveness if you feel you haven’t forgiven yourself for anything at all. Otherwise skip

  1. listen to vibration of divine love. As mentioned above, love is the ultimate antidote and you’ll need loads. Conveniently this raises your vibrations which will ward off further negative influences. Again, loop as much as needed

  2. from here it’s your turn. At this point you should feel back in control to tackle more

So there are a still a bunch of fields to possibly add to these, for instance any kind of shielding, or perhaps an intercession, you might need aura repair later on, blueprint of life always helps, etc etc etc

But mostly I’m confident if you use the three fields above you’ll be good to go.

Btw extra advice, if you have memories of him coming up, live them, be with them. Don’t attempt to postpone them, withdraw from them or suppress them, that will just get you deeper into the hole.

Anyways good luck, and remember you have a great community here for backup support

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#231

Hi, depression expert in remission here :raising_hand_man:

First of, this is perfectly normal and you rock for opening up Gina.

I’d recommend you to have a quick look at the Five Stages of Grief by Elisabeth Kubler Ross.
When I was deep in the process myself, it brought relief and helped me tremendously to build clarity & compassion for myself.

Then, I would go easy on the fields and pick only the ones that truly make you feel good.
Looping is definitely not an option, you’ll just overwhelm your system more…

Make sure to pick only the ones that feel the best to you and have a long term effect:

  • the Outlook Retrainer → you can play it many times a day, whereas you should limit New Perspectives to 2 times max. You can also add PTSD (patreon) on the mix a few times a week.
  • the Wisdom of the Dying, → give it a few listen and see if this brings you a little bit of relief, this has nothing to do with the comfort of those who have passed (agree with Desiree about skipping the latter one)
  • a world of Beauty & Joy and the Crucible of the Past → only if you have them already.
  • Whatever clearing field work for you: internal crucible, etc.
  • Whatever other fields is calling you :blush:

Practicing mindfulness and welcoming all of your parts: being angry, depressed, in despair, etc. is perfectly normal.
What would you do if a close friend of you was in the situation? How would you treat him/her? Can you apply the same to your parts in deep suffering?

And finally, and the most important → taking action in the physicals:

  • Moving your body every day : what works the best for you, even if you whole system resist it at first.
  • Meeting people that care about you, and with whom you can be yourself.
  • Seeking help from professionals.
  • Focusing on activities that are good to you and get you out of your mind: dancing (!), painting, creating stuff, working on a project, assisting others, etc.
  • Time in nature and with animals :deciduous_tree:

If you feel like it, feel free to PM me :blush:
We all saw how strong you were over those last months, I am confident you will soon find your way through it.

Much love to you :heart:

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#232

Our death is our wedding with eternity

-Rumi

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#233

Grieving Is An Only Expression Of Your Love If There Is No Love There Is No Grief

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#234

From “Walking Each Other Home“

“Grief is the internal part of loss, our emotional response when someone we are deeply connected to leaves or dies or when a dream in life or anything we’ve invested in is lost.

We may feel lost, alone, sad, empty, abandoned, out of touch with our hearts, without a way to comfort ourselves. Grief can manifest physically as aches and pains or cognitively as an inability to concentrate. It can close our hearts to others, challenging our relationships. Grief affects everyone, the dying person, the caregiver, family, friends, and lovers. It can arise before death, a response in anticipation of the loss to come or to all the losses in the course of an illness–loss of health, social roles, the ability to speak or move around. Grief is not an event but a process. It is as individual as each of us and as unique as the person we’ve lost.

If you don’t grieve fully, in a way that is true to your own heart, you may end up with cynicism about life and fear of future involvement, fear of any risk. Be kind to yourself. When it is time to let go, you’ll know. Then let go. The memories will still be there without the attachment. It’s not about returning to ‘normal,’ but becoming someone new, free to be present for whatever your life is now.”

Over the years, in working with people who are grieving, I’ve encouraged them first of all to surrender to the experience of their pain. To counteract our natural tendency to turn away from pain, we open to it as fully as possible and allow our hearts to break. We must take enough time to remember our losses – be they friends or loved ones passed away, the death of long-held hopes or dreams, the loss of homes, careers, or countries, or health we may never get back again. Rather than close ourselves to grief, it helps to realize that we only grieve for what we love.

In allowing ourselves to grieve, we learn that the process is not cut and dried. It’s more like a spiral that brings us to a place of release, abates for a time, then continues on a deeper level. Often, when grieving, we think that it’s over, only to find ourselves swept away by another wave of intense feeling. For this reason, it’s important to be patient with the process, and not be in a hurry to put our grief behind us.

While the crisis stage of grief does pass in its own time – and each person’s grief has its own timetable – deep feelings don’t disappear completely. But ultimately you come to the truth of the adage that “love is stronger than death.”

– Ram Dass

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#235

Wauw thank you guys, you are amazing <3 Thank you for all the concern and advice, fields and quotes.

Mads really appriciated that you wanted to help him, when i said how much you tried to help.

The soul restoration album has helped me a lot, with grand jealousy shield (maybe because of his family i guess)
Yes, i have tried a lot of fields, and other than SLB and new perspectives, angelic intercession is actually one of my favorites. “Healer primer” from the course, is always very good. I closed my heart after all this…
Also using the chakra audios and negative removal now and then.

I have overused torsion field and cosmo volt, so now i need to ground myself ALL the time ^^’ be careful with those fields.

I need to finish my master, and have a exam in 3 weeks (i cant postpone anymore), so i just need to get my concentration back. I know that grief takes times.

But yeah, i will try more with your suggestings <3

LOVE AND PEACE, YOU ARE SOME AMAZING SOULS :pray: :heart_eyes: :dizzy:

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#236

@Gita how have you been?

Anything that worked nicely for you over the last week?

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#238

I have corona, I have been sick the past 8 days, so it’s not helping in my situation.
I am also stressing a lot over an important exam on the 4th of February.

I have tried with energy sensitivity to “clean” my system so had a break with a lot of other fields. Got a sign from angels/spirit guides that it was a good idea to try that - and I felt great :slight_smile:

Still have an issue with motivation and concentration, but I am taking my last class on the 7th of February and beginning my job on the 10th… so just need to do it as well as I can.

Thank you for asking. :smiley:

Thought about, if i am going through the dark night of the soul… when do you know? :D

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