hi i’m new here, i need help i’m a 22 year old guy who has been watching porn for a long time. My problem is that for a few months I only get excited watching this kind of videos even when I’m making love. I know it’s something I don’t want to do but I’ve been watching these videos for so long that I only get turned on that way. Apart from stopping watching porn, what fields would you recommend? Thanks
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These fields. But read the full thread. A few times.
Theres another post regarding this
But if anyone has a say about how to help, feel free.
It’s a wonderful tool btw, DeepL
Try to loop brain regeneration over night and then overcome addiction.
I would recommend Mental Health Project when it comes to paid fields.
In the description of my problem the moderator has made me change the word of the type of videos I am referring to because he says it is inappropriate. But I want to explain exactly my problem because it might make a difference to the recommendations you can give me. The types of videos and thoughts I need to get excited are cuck… It’s a practice I know I never want to engage in with my partner but I can only get turned on by those types of thoughts lately even when I have sex.
To clarify: this was brought up to confirm if it’s ok to post content like this.
We can talk about these adult things as long as it’s done in a respectful manner and doesn’t get to extremes
Plasma brain could help.
hi there, I use to struggle w the same thing, heres my advice
Brain regeneration (already mentioned) + any healing fields in general
with this, I was able to get to a point where I would only PMO under 10 times a year but the next field made it so that I have not touched it in a long time and probably never will again tbh
Soul Restoration (Core)
ok… now the non-field part
For me, cold turkey was not effective but a strategy I found really useful is to gradually expand the amount of time you abstain. with this strategy, I found that I was able to quickly get to a point where I would only watch it 1-2x a month.
Lastly and probably most important, your gonna need to summon some serious willpower,. that stuff is chemically addicting + its at your fingertips all the time.
good luck and be patient!
edit: forgot to mention, you may notice a lot more energy, and if you do make sure to direct it towards other activities (gym, sports, studying whatever)
also try to find a healthy way to release your horniness
lastly I was able to quit as a horny hormonal teenager so I truly think anyone is able do it!
Additional tip:
Those fetishes based on bullying and a pleasurable pychological masochism come when the structure in which you sexually pleasure yourself is mediated by a certain ideology of “biological and sperm warfare”.
Like a “competitive sperm race for status between being a loser or a winner”.
Those ideas are implanted by our contemporary society and are flawed/artificial, you’ve to stop consuming videos or ideas from people that promote such things. Like “how to be a man” or “what a real man looks like/acts”, all that crap.
By comparing yourself to other man you always create a state of lack in your relationship to women and men, you have to always “keep up”, which is nonsense.
This promotes that you keep seeing other man as “better” and fear that women that you like will go for the “better” man. BUT THAT’S ALL IN YOUR MIND. It doesn’t exist.
If you stop seeing other men as competitors and women as something to achieve, the attraction for those fetishes will cease to exist.
Stop seeing other men and women as an authority to determine where your “sexual value” or “sexuality” is.
Personally, when it comes to insecurities related to sexuality and masculinity, QI alpha male audio really helped me.
And here’s a more healthy approach to understand sexuality:
I know it sounds so obvious, but a recent revelation I got (just a realization regarding porn, some thoughts and a certain state of mind, not Angels or anything flashy, since I mentioned “revelation”) is that those women are NOT real, they are just pixels, they are not near me, nor are we touching and doing other stuff, nope, my body is here, watching some dude doing something with a woman, pointless stuff, it’s like watching someone eat a chocolate, you want to eat the chocolate (the whole deal, not euphemism for eating something 
), you need to eat the chocolate, not watch someone eat the chocolate, …, so porn is as fake as watching someone eat something - sure, it stimulates your senses and your brain, but it’s not real, remember, you want the real stuff, not someone else “enjoying the chocolate” or rather just watching the “chocolate”
Hope I don’t get a flag - lol, TOO MUCH CHOCOLATE lol.
I wish more people would log onto the net just to watch other people eat chocolate and be happy for them. Just like all everyone logging into porn sites just to be happy for others having emotional, loving and mind blowing sex!
in reallity in those sites sex is very very rare emotional and mind blowing.
there are exceptions to this rule and for those people i do rejoice and feel as if i am enjoying art.
but.
10% or less of it is made empath friendly. most of it is just aggression and role models. and sizes. of organs.
and the vibe of those sites consists of the 90% bad stuff.
Yes, if you watch this then you are cuck.
You are getting off by watching other people do what you want to do.
Even when a girl is alone and masturbating.
You are watching a video of her doing it by herself to herself.
You are not doing it to her but getting off an a video that she made and sold.
Being a cuck is highly self-humiliating and a huge subconscious attack on your self-esteem.
I don’t feel much better with the mastrubation as a woman. I wasn’t aware, but it deprives me of energy. I guess that’s why the newspapers a tutoring the health in orgasm from mastrubation. They never can get anything right and love to decay the public.
It’s sad for both men and women that we are turning out to nothing more than wankers or sluts. Noone knows of holy sex, it’s all about perversions of something beautiful. We most give our archons a golden shower and refuse to comply. Every time we find those seconds of orgasm from masturbation, there is a sense of defeat. We must stop demeaning ourself.
How do you heal unwanted fetishes completely then?
Stop thinking about them, the more you think about them the worse it gets. Its like water droplets turning into a river.
I wish there was a field for this, alchemy perhaps. Also tons of entity removal. It is possible to have thoughts planted in ones mind. Experienced that, it’s pretty sick when it’s trying to talk you into something you completely disagree with out of the blue.
Maybe,
