You don’t help people for the validation or appreciation you would get. If that’s why you do it, you’ll end up dissapointed. You do it cause you WANT to. Because it’s fulfilling in and of itself. You are in it for the journey of helping and not the destination of getting appreciation.
That being said, more than enough do appreciate it. Although me and dream mention the bad apples quite a lot, they are avery small minority. Just loud enough to be disruptive.
I think this is the problem. You take it personally. Don’t. People are on their own paths and have a lot to learn and for some, they are still very lost in how to deal with people or just have so much self hate, that they end up projecting it towards those who help them. It’s not you. It’s them. And while you tried to help and failed or ended up burned in the process, it’s a learning experience. And the more you learn to be resilient to the BS, the stronger and wiser you become. If you allow those moments to break you, then you aren’t growing. It’s in those challenging moments, that we grow the most.
The thing with this mentality is that no matter how amazing you make your life, your life is still connected to everyone elses. You are still a part of this world. So, their discord will still have an effect on your wellbeing, as happy as you will be. We can’t escape the fact that we are a part of all this.
The point in helping others is that in doing so, you help yourself. Although I speak of selflessness, there is a selfishness to what I do. In helping others, I help myself. I grow from it.
I think these guys burned themselves in the process. You can’t try to change the world by running a platform of hate. When you try to help a few and say eff off to everyone else or spread disdain and hared towards specific groups of people, you are going to get a lot of backlash. Your message of change is going to be distorted. You cannot change humanity by only working to help a certain group of people and alienating the rest as if they’re not worthy. These 3 guys are great examples of how that does not work.
And the woke doing the same thing are great examples of how that does not work. They also say ‘eff everyone who isn’t in line with us’ and all that has done is alienate people and inflict more and more hatred. It causes division between the people. You don’t change humanity by dividing people. You change them by uniting them.
And to unite, you don’t stoop to lower levels and act petty. You lead by example. And none of these three guys or any of the woke people have led by example at all.
And I understand that is hard but it is possible not to stoop to lower levels. It’s like a parent getting mad at his kid for doing or saying something he doesn’t like and then getting petty with him/her. The parent becomes a child at that point.
This kind of thing takes patience and resilience.
I have had to see people here call me a ‘woke bitch’, a ‘fucking punk’ and a number of things but I still would treat these people love and respect. Their words no longer have an effect on me and I don’t care for their validation or their respect. If you want to help people and be a leaderr in this world, you have got to stop caring about what other people think or say about you and be at peace with other peoples opinions. They are just thoughts and words. They don’t affect you unless you let it affect you. That’s what I mean by being the bigger person. It’s like letting a child, who doesn’t know better, affect you when he calls you a dumbass. If you’re offended by that then you must actually think you’re a dumbass lol.
I do what I do because I choose to be consistent with my character and if I decide to stoop to the lower level of getting petty with people, then I prove I am no different than they are.
I’m not here saying I’m a great leader or that I’m leading by example but I am saying I’m trying to be and these kinds of steps are the necessary steps to take to help people. This isn’t for the weak. It takes a cosmic amount of strength but pushing through it has made me strong enough to feel like I could take on anything.
And the world needs more people who are willing to do the hard work and stop working on dividing people more. So many people who think they are helping humanity are only trying to help ‘their side’ while fighting another. That is asking for an endless war that even if one side wins, the other side will eventually grow in strength and fight back… and the back and forth will never end.
You and me can sail off in a yacht and live a very fulfilling life for ourselves. You can escape the cycle of samsara and be free of the game of humanity. You don’t need to contribute. You do what thou wilt. But I’m rather sure there will be a part of you and me that will watch the world as it burns and just wonder ‘maybe I could’ve done something… I have no right to feel a way or complain about the world when I didn’t even try to fix things. Am I just as bad as everyone else.’ Well for me at least. I know those thoughts would run through my mind.
I’m not doing this to convince you out of the path you choose. I am just widening your perspective on things my friend.
