@heidegger
I give it a last shot for the night.
I don’t want to talk about people with 6 fingers, poop eaters or down syndrome (no offence to the last ones). Some people are crazy and have low quality genetics or trauma. Nature filters after the facts.
The desire for food, for instance, is linked to physical sensations of hunger which are driven by biological processes such as the release of the hormone ghrelin.
The desire for sleep correlates with the buildup of adenosine in our brains over the course of the day.
The sexual desires are mainly driven by a complex interplay of hormones including testosterone, estrogen, and progesterone.
These can be defective, it’s a medical condition and it reduces your chances of survival and success. Some people are less capable and have a lower standard of life.
The desire for calorically dense food, for example, has aided survival in environments where food was scarce. Similarly, the desire for sex is directly linked to reproduction and the continuation of the species.
Nature discard the most flawed specimen (which are real people and it does happen) and encourage the reproduction of the fittest. That’s why we always look on the long term, for consistency and success.
On top of that, Humans are inherently social and cultural beings, and our brains are wired to learn from our environments. Therefore, even desires that are shaped by learning and culture can be seen as a natural outcome of our biology.
Mirror neurones are a type of brain cell that respond equally when we perform an action and when we witness someone else perform the same action.
For example, when we see someone smiling or crying, our mirror neurons for smiling or crying fire up, too, creating an echo of the other person’s emotion in our own minds. This might help us understand and empathize with how others are feeling.
When it comes to desire, mirror neurons play a role in social learning and influence. Seeing someone else desire a particular object or outcome activates our mirror neurons, leading to a similar desire in ourselves. For instance, if we see someone enjoying a particular type of food, our mirror neurons might fire, leading us to also desire that food.
Mirror neurons helped our ancestors to learn new skills more quickly and efficiently, particularly by imitation. Seeing another individual perform a successful action (like using a tool to access food) and being able to replicate that action without trial and error has been a considerable advantage. The same mirroring mechanism that allows us to understand actions extends to understanding sounds and gestures, serving as a basis for mimicking and understanding speech.
When individuals within a group trust each other and share common goals, they are more likely to work together cooperatively. Cooperation can significantly increase the survival and reproductive success of individuals within the group. This might involve cooperative hunting, shared childcare, or collective defense against predators or rival groups.
Homogeneity, particularly in terms of shared languages or cultural practices, facilitates communication within the group. Efficient communication promotes cooperation, foster trust, and allow knowledge and skills to be shared more effectively, which can enhance survival and reproductive success.
Social conformity, which is the tendency to adopt the behaviors, attitudes, and opinions of others in a group, is a widespread phenomenon in human societies and other social animals. From an evolutionary perspective, conformity can have both benefits and costs, leading to some significant trade-offs.
Conformity facilitates learning, group cohesion, trust and reduces conflicts at the cost of individuality etc.
Conforming to social norms activates the reward system in our brain, including the ventromedial prefrontal cortex, which is involved in decision-making and reward-based learning, and the ventral striatum, a critical part of the brain’s reward system. When we conform to societal norms, these areas release dopamine, a neurotransmitter associated with pleasure and reward, reinforcing conforming behavior.
Going against social norms or being excluded from a group can lead to negative feelings and even physical pain. This is because the brain’s pain pathways, specifically the anterior cingulate cortex and the insula, which are activated by physical pain, are also activated by social rejection !!!
While social learning 
which we are biologically programmed for !!! is a powerful tool that allows us to adapt to our environments and cultures, it doesn’t mean that we can learn just anything or in any way. There are constraints on social learning, and these constraints can result in limited variability.
The biological and physical capabilities of our bodies and brains put certain limits on social learning. For example, even though we can observe and learn from birds, our biological constraints prevent us from learning to fly naturally.
We have a limited cognitive capacity, which means we can only process and retain a certain amount of information at a time. Trying to learn a complex new skill from observing someone else can be challenging if it involves too many steps or too much information to remember all at once.
Social norms, cultural values, and societal structures are indeed limited in regards to what we are exposed to and able to learn.
Our ability to accurately imitate observed behavior is not perfect and can be influenced by various factors including age, cognitive abilities, and the complexity of the behavior.
For example, the absence of role models or a lack of resources can limit what can be learned.
By observing and imitating others, we can acquire new skills and knowledge without the need for risky or time-consuming trial-and-error learning. This is likely why our brains have evolved to be highly attuned to social information.
When it comes to choosing role models, we’re often influenced by a variety of factors:
Success and Status, Similarity (we copy people who are similar to us), Affiliation, our learning Goals
I’m fed up of writing…
All the mental gymnastic is tiring
For a more serious look at fetishistic disorders:
https://www.theravive.com/therapedia/fetishistic-disorder-dsm--5-302.81-(f65.0)
I can see why you’re asking it. But, you need to explore these feelings of yours my friend. I don’t think working on helping people is the right thing for you to do if you still harbor these feelings. And I don’t think basing your actions on the fear of what might happen is the right thing for anyone to do either.
