Hello! Greetings to you all.
I finally gained courage to write this post. This is going to be a long post so bear with me & I’m so grateful if you read it.
I’m an 18 y/o girl. I have many health issues & it’s hard to deal with them. I was diagnosed with kidney stones & then some kidney problems a year ago, stones have gone but my right kidney keeps hurting from time to time, I have UTI which comes up again & again(I do take meds), also my right leg hurts a lot every once in a while like something’s so heavy inside my leg that it’s hard for me to carry it and it’s so hard to walk or even sleep, my menstrual cycle is messed up, and my period is very irregular (I’ve never been sexually active), my right ovary also keeps hurting, when I got checked the doctors said everything was alright and that I was fine, I’m constipated and this has even caused fissure which hurts a lot from time to time, not all the time. I have had problems with my vision since I was in 5th grade and I use glasses, but the headaches hurt a lot. Then I feel like my right ear has developed some issues & it kind of rings.
My diet is mainly home cooked. sometimes I do binge on packed foods. I do drink less water & I’m guilty on that one. exercising feels hard but I’ve started meditating.
I can’t even think straight anymore. I was a really good student till 9th grade. it was in 9th grade when I started feeling immense sadness, disconnection from literally anything and everything around me, & became emotionally numb. The only time I ever felt emotions was when I was practicing a random scene from a movie or play etc or watching great films. I’ve loved films since I was four but when I told people they said it’s hard or laughed so I don’t talk about it anymore, but I still try to practice it every now & then. I was once trying to Unalive myself, idk if it’s weird but some white or orange light I don’t remember correctly saved me, I didn’t even know that I got to the safe side & then it disappeared. I can’t even ask for what i need from strangers (like shops) and feel guilty for asking or checking price or returning. I have developed severe social anxiety now. I have friends but I don’t feel connected to them & I don’t go out. I procrastinate a lot and i Can’t help it, there’s no self control & it’s so hard to do anything & everything & I only end up feeling stuck. And I crave perfection which makes my life hard. I was really addicted to Instagram & it’s been 2.5 months since I’ve closed it & it feels so good without it. I’ve read a lot about this all & they say physical & mental & spiritual health is connected, and I think half of this is because of the way I was raised, it’s not like my parents don’t love me & wouldn’t give the world for me but I’ve noticed some patterns of trauma in them & they can’t control those patterns, I remember my mum always craving for perfection from me, letting me not play with other kids so that I wouldn’t get hurt my dad disliking anyone crying, getting scolded because I couldn’t learn something fast & many others. They were raised in a big family and they never really got attention from their parents & just lived as they were told to, i see them trying their best for me & my brother. My mum also has the same issues as me, but physical issues of her are more than mine.
Also, i’ve been really sensitive person.
I just feel like wasting my time & life. I wish to make myself proud, my parents proud and show them the best of what life has to offer. I wish to live a great life & move forward from all this. I don’t know if I’m just lazy but I wish to change.
Fields help me a lot from time to time but with all of this I find it hard what field to use & what not, if I work on one problem the other problem keeps bothering me & I lose momentum & do not stay consistent. I’ve been in the community for like 2 years but I still feel like a beginner here. it’d be a great help if anybody can guide me what to do about this situation and what fields would be beneficial. As of now I can’t afford paid fields. I lack clarity in every area of my life. I’m kind of feeling overwhelmed to even do the smallest Task these days & all I do is sleep. I wish to start slowly & from scratch but with something that would cover a lot of areas.
What should I do ?