I’ve been there, you two are polarizing. Your awakening is pushing her away, and your new identity is forcing her to take on a new identity in response. “Normal” is gone, but you can still find a new balancing point to bring you two back into harmony.
You can’t force her through the door, and you can’t be upset that she isn’t progressing. I guess you can be upset, but it won’t help things. It’s her choice to follow you there or not, and your choice to continue. Good luck stopping. None of it is fair, but it is what it is.
I understand her fear and your frustration. If you want to find rebalance in the relationship, you have to find common ground again. There has to be a neutral, stable place that both of you can base your relationship off of going forward. At least a common understanding, acceptance, and love for each other. You may be highly “spiritual” and she may be highly “grounded,” but if you can see eye to eye on these things and the decisions you make in consequence, you’ll be ok. I know that’s harder to do nowadays with everything you do or don’t do having a heightened spiritual and material consequence in clownworld, but marriage is sacrifice and you might have to cede ground in your spiritual pursuits while she cedes ground in her material pursuits to stabilize your relationship.
If you can, find a neutral third party (counselor) to help you two come to terms with each other’s point of view. They will be better able to help you in person vs. a forum. I understand if you have hesitation over this, because of the potential implications of a neutral third party not being so neutral to you and labeling you in some way that leads to negative consequences. These are things we have to weigh when we’re awake. My relationship didn’t make it through my initial awakening experience, but I wasn’t married and didn’t have children so those things might have played a factor.
If you fear she is being possessed by something and want to cast it out, try “be the healer” and one of the various exorcism, banishing, remove negativity, etc. fields.
I hope your relationship turns out better than mine did.