My friend, I get what you’re feeling and exactly what you’re speaking of. I’m glad you asked this because I know you are not the only one. If this belief is all your mind knows and you have so many experiences to back up this belief as being ‘true’ then it can be very hard to feel the opposite as being truth. There are so many walls blocking that feeling.
Here’s the truth, what we are doing with feeling our preferred thought patterns as truth is giving these new patterns the structure they need. It’s like giving your mind the material it needs to start building this new way of thinking for you. But this is not possible without making peace with your old pattern.
Your old pattern is as you say your ‘intelligence.’ It’s the only base of reference you have and all you understand and know. The problem with this base of reference is that it is also code of ‘i cant do this, im not this, i cant be this’ and so on, based on your past experiences the thought patterns they produced. This base of reference is made up of many walls that limit you from tapping in to your full potential.
I make a very big deal out of acknowledgement, acceptance and making peace with these patterns because it is the only way you can dissolve these walls. For example, let’s say I believe I am ugly and unsociable and can never find a partner because of this. Before I ever start to gain any confidence, I need to accept that I look the way I look. I need to accept socialize the way I do. I need to even accept that I have limiting beliefs about this. This means… when the thought of how I look or the fact I suck at socializing comes up, I am okay with the thought and don’t fight it or feel uncomftorable with it. I accept the feelings it brings up. I accept my situation and I am comftorable with it. Why?
Because It is through this acceptance and owning my history and who I am up to this point, that your mind begins to open up to change. When you are rejecting yourself, you are moving against yourself. When you are accepting yourself, you are moving in your present flow and have the openness to choose a new path for yourself.
Like man, all your failures and all that destruction you’ve caused your brain. In rejecting all of that and feeling it’s all limited you and is the reasoning behind the sad state you are in, you are telling yourself you cannot move forward and change yourself. Even your past that confirms your beliefs is still… just your past. You can still rewrite your future but so as long as you tell yourself you can’t change your future because of your past, your subconscious will agree and abide by that.
So it is in the acceptance… in that comfort with all your failures, all the brain damage, all the memories you have that justify your limiting beliefs… that you dissolve the flow of resistance within you. The part of you that doesn’t allow your mind to think and feel new thoughts opposite to those that you have known for so long.
That is why I structured the SLR 3.0 practice the way I did. It’s to help people to get to flow of acceptance because that is essential. It is when you become ‘ok’ with the thoughts and memories that you had negative assosciations to, that you stopped being triggered by them. That they stop being limitations and just become… normal thoughts that don’t affect you.
