Weird things, here they ask you to put something back if you can’t pay the full amount
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The Higher self is not punitive… I would keep that in mind because spiritual development is important to me. If we align ourselves with punitive thoughts and actions, we are not operating from a clean higher source. That may be easier said than done though in some situations.
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She us a worker there, its not huge supermarket, but I am not sure if it has manager there in like 9pm. Also judging by her reaction, she just didnt want to hustle to report it over 25 cents, she is too soft to talk bad to people, at least that is what I think about her from few times I seen her, she is always quiet and has a quiet voice even.
I wouldnt say its responsibility, I didnt feel responsible to do anything, I just gave her some change back to make her feel happier, because she didnt deserve it and I didnt believe what kind of asshole that guy was. I just dont like assholes so I felt like beating this guy up, I dont care about him today.
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It is not my duty to forgive assholes because they made me mad in the moment. If you saw a guy slapping a pregnant women and kicking a dog, would you be like “Ohh its time to forgive him” or would you be like “omg that guy was an asshole so fuck him”?
Still, that doesnt answer the main question, which is this question for most situation when you are dealing with assholes.
How to best deal with this situation, so I dont have rage when I get home, but to also not have negative consequences later on?
When you feel rage or other reactions that are clouding inner peace, you acknowledge all of these phenomena and observe them objectively in meditation.
I don’t think there’s a shortcut, just know that all these phenomena are of a temporary nature as long as you don’t feed them… Feed them neutrality instead and surrender to your higher self.
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Well,
Yes sure, if you conflate forgiveness with weak passiveness and just being a bystander like “oh please abuse me and rob me, I let you get away with anything”, well that’s not forgiveness to me.
The two examples you gave above, I would intervene in either, and joyfully so.
But in your initial post, you expressed a desire to feel no anger anymore. The forgiveness is not for him, but for yourself to get back in control.
This is anger about 25 cents right?
What if it was 25 dollars? Or 2500?
Also @Jen pointed out that she should have called her supervisor .
Then the real question is:
Why do you take this anger back home?
Forgiveness to me is a natural cord cutter field
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I frequently have the urge to do horrifying violence to people in response to actions of theirs that offend me.
So I get it.
Unfortunately the number of assholes out there far exceeds my time and attention, if I were handing out beatings to the deserving it would never be enough.
I’m not saying forgive the guy, but I have learned to let it go. Not for them, but for me. I don’t like carrying on that type of energy out of the moment.
I’d let it go. That guy’s going to carry on being an asshole into the rest of every situation in his life. It’s going to shape his interactions and experiences. I’d like to say that it’s going to come back around to bite him, but I don’t know that. I’m too cynical to believe in karma in this life.
But you don’t have to carry that around.
I’m not saying don’t confront evil, but I let it got once the moment is over.
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Honestly if he stole 25$ I could understand that, even if it was 2.5$, but 25 cents? Just shows what an asshole a guy must be. I am sure the girl didnt want to hustle over 25 cents either so she just let it go, plus being a quiet girl she is, she probably doesnt like attention and was shocked or something, just my personal guess. I am sure she would call supervisor (with the fact she was still working this late, but I really doubt that considering that this store wasnt huge, it only has 2 cashiers working there).
So when you see an asshole doing something that is not right to another person, it doesnt make you angry at all? If you saw a person abusing a cute dog, you wouldnt get mad?
I am just wondering about this to see if I can find something useful that would fit me personally, we are all different, some may forgive in 5 seconds, some cary the anger for years, I usually do it for a few hours in situations like these, not bad I guess.
So how do you deal with injustice? How long you carry the “fuck that asshole I want to beat him” type of energy with you? Like I said, for me its usually a few hours, next day I am fine most of the time, but I am kind of sensitive person, so it would be great if there was a method for me to have less impact from these assholes.
Surely repel negative energy, and clean aura plus cord cutter from Sapien medicine are life savers in situations like these, but is there some manual technique I could do? 
Maybe I will learn with time how to better deal with asshole :)
With interactions like this, I literally try to forget it as soon as possible. And I know it’s difficult.
One trick I learned is to not tell the story about the incident to anyone else. By not retelling the story I don’t cement it in my mind.
Bullshit’s going to happen. Assholes happen.
But I don’t have to dwell on it all the time.
Now, I live in a place where doing violence isn’t a good idea. You lay hands on someone else and you almost always have more to lose than they do. Jail time, or even worse being sued is a real possibility. So that’s a limiting factor. Heck, I don’t even carry around a melon baller for people’s eyeballs anymore. Life’s just no fun.
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Play and forget. Not your problem anymore.
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You sound just like me. Literally. When I see people like this, man…I don’t even have to say a word or touch them…I just have to stare them down super hard and intimidate them.
Remember now, your aura can change within a second. So if you learn how to channel that aggressive aura like Mike Tyson does, no one will mess with you or your loved ones ever again.
But as @Replay said, use justice for all audio and repel negative energy audio.
Justice For All audio works in such mysterious ways.
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Not worth it, you are right.
The question you make is complex but I think the key is, besides meditation and grounding in nature, Mindfulness.
The path of violence your friend chose lead him to unwanted consequences although it had granted some respect and fear. The aim is, as I see it, reach to a point that you exude that same aura of fear and respect just from your presence and in situations you wish for it to be exuded.
So the best to deal with this situation is being in the present moment, for sure using the aid of fields - as in shields, armors, deities etc - develop your best qualities of courage, respect for others, self respect and assertiveness. Act when you feel compelled to - to help others in case the situation calls for it - with the certainty in mind that you did your best and came home with no regrets.
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I practically don’t get angry anymore about anything tbh
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You did the best thing, donating some change to the cashier, but avoid physical confrontations with anyone.
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Justice for all maybe? He’s long gone now
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I think many of you are over-reacting.
Is this even your original thought?
She baited you to white-knight her. There are girls that flirt with other men, knowing their boyfriends are violent and are just around the corner looking…
I think this “nice girl” is probably quite problematic and I pity his boyfriend/simp orbiters.
Instead of calling the manager, she didn’t hesitate to manipulate a guy to get out of the problems she created (while not being able to confront the other guy, cause girls allow jerks to do whatever but hold nice guys to higher standards).
Honestly…did you like her? She could have chosen you cause she saw it in your eyes (or wallet). Or maybe she just saw you’d be a nice guy. Or maybe she already tried with all the clients that went before you.
Totally this wasn’t caused by her.
So what’s the lesson here?
“Don’t trust women”
-Jim Carrey
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I’ve had people do the same thing to me before, too, men and women. I’ll admit mostly women, but people get bored sometimes and want to create situations to rile other people up. Starting false rumors, embellishing situations, trying to control your reaction and get you to fight for them. One girl I knew in college was really, really bad with this, couldn’t believe a word she said about anything that happened because it was always a large over-exaggeration or sometimes completely made up. Just stopped listening to her after a while, was just so weird.
In this situation, maybe someone did stiff her the quarter, but there were plenty of things that she could have done to stop the theft from happening or not make it her problem, but she took advantage of the situation to create a scenario where she can garner (farm) sympathy from strangers so she doesn’t feel so alone or insignificant. It messes with people with lots of empathy, and people who do this are really good at sniffing the empathetic ones out.
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