I understand your fury.
You already helped the woman and the cheating man got exposed.
Your did your job so now I would let it go
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I would have given her a quarter and collapsed the guyâs karma on the spot.
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As true as this is, dream has helped me realize that for most people that even believe this, oneness is but an abstract thought. It isnât actually real or tangible to them. So it isnât good advice to give to people still in samsara. That perspective of oneness is one that is realized through experience and it is truly only then, that one can grasp this level of understanding and apply it. It is not for everyone along their individual paths. Most will not come to realize such things in this lifetime and that is okay.
Thatâs not to say it isnât true. Or that you and I are wrong for expressing it. It just isnât something that just anyone can just understand and then apply to their perspective. So as advice, it falls rather short.
I acknowledged Iâve done this quite a lot in the past. Especially in my speaking of dealing with entities⌠The whole concept of accepting entities and then transmuting them with love is just not something most people are capable of even trying. It requires a complete shift in perspective that doesnât just happen off of âok this guy said this works, so Iâm gonna try it.â It requires belief and belief comes through experience which happens through growth.
I only share what I know of course. Itâs just as I continually do so, I am realizing more and more that what I share is so far removed from most peopleâs perspectives, that it doesnât even translate conceptually. And it reminds me many years ago when I started along the path and I read about oneness and actually believed in it right away. It made sense to me. But, it was such an abstract thought to me, that I would quickly still fall into hating and judging others. Now, I donât even know how to do that.
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As for advice for the asshole⌠all I can say is that the rage derives from holding onto what happened and rejecting that it happened in the first place. So as long as you reject things, they will trigger you. They will haunt you. They will rage you. What you reject ends up gaining control over you and you lose control. It is best to accept what happens and allow the universe to be. People that do lowly things like that, attract lowly things into their life. The energy they project, burns them. As dream said the other day, they will have to face the entropy they project one way or another.
If you want revenge, you stoop to low levels and end up drifting into those low levels. In those low levels, you exchange that low level energy and tend to attract more of that low energy.
Not to say that people shouldnât be punished or you shouldnât defend yourself. Itâs just when you seek to hurt others even if they hurt someone you know or you, you engage with fire that will burn you in the process. This reminds me of somethingâŚ
I always bring up the story but it was a pivotal moment in my life with many lessons. But when I got robbed for my chain as a kid, it made me feel weak. And I hate to feel weak. It messed me up hard and I wanted nothing but revenge. I wanted that kid dead even though he was with a group, I will never forget the guyâs face who snatched it. I felt he had to be punished and shouldnât just get away with what he did.
Thing was, I used to hang with people who were about that life. And one day I was walking with a friend of mine who was huge. I saw the guy in the distance by himself as we were walking and I told him, letâs jump him. I had a pocket knife on me as well. My thoughts were either I just jump him and then his crew will find me and stab me as they always would hang out in front of my high school or I kill him and eliminate that possibility.
The more I walked forward, the more I realized this just isnât who I am. The moment I do this, I become the kind of person I hate. I ended up telling my friend to forget it and we walked away.
It took me a long time to forgive him but I had to. The hate I had for him had consumed me from within and made me weak. Hate is a poisonous energy that consumes you. Without forgiveness, there is no letting go. There is no moving forward into more positive things and a better life.
So I know that this isnât the answer you seek. But acceptance is the only way to reduce rage. The moment you do negative things in reaction to negative things, is the moment you become wrapped up in negativity and invite more negativity.
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Exactly. He was guilty of robbing you, but without you being in these circles, shit like that doesn´t just happen.
My father used to say, if you hang around with idiots, idiotic shit will happen to you at some point.
And he was damn right about it.
Ofc it´s not that simple if you are a child who grows up like that, but you´ve made a decision later, to be true to your authentic self, despite how hard it was.
Amazing post as usual Sammy.
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Beautiful. I tried to explain to OP in an abridged way but he simply refused to acknowledge the statement and went on to burn a huge strawman each time I attempted to explain it from a different angleâŚ
I tried to give him a small scare in a last attempt to maybe nudge him a bit awake about how vulnerable he was⌠no dice.
I know of no better way to help someone than the Socratic method⌠help them see flaws in their logic. I wasnât being argumentative for play⌠sadly, heâs immune even to this rudimentary approach âŚ
I hope, knowing full well the hardships of the path his overall disposition will send him, that he at least genuinely sees the wisdom in your words, if not mine.
It isnât for you or I to convince him. All any of us can do is offer our wisdom but the moment we try to force our advice, the wisdom gets lost in translation. Donât get attached to whether people understand what you have to tell them. It may ring as wrong to them at the moment and no amount of convincing will make them think otherwise.
Arguing just makes someone reject the wisdom more out of pride. This is counterproductive because often, people might read something and not understand it one day but then understand it in another. But now, his ego may reject understanding it because the wisdom came from you.
Itâs just in reading your post and putting myself in his perspective, it would piss me off even more as it seems youâre saying things like âI tried to help him but heâs unhelpable.â
Anyways, this isnât an attack on you. Just saying itâs best to detach from people you try to help. Otherwise these kinds of interactions can occur.
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Yes. It was foolish and unwise. I suppose I was âasleepâ⌠Amusing, I suddenly feel a lot more âlucidâ. Thank you.
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I agree, I know I need to react differently, but just posting on this thread stuff like âyou are wrongâ is not going to help me, its just going to trigger my ego, or anybody elses.
I do believe I did the right thing here, but I just want to be able to react differentlz for situations like these in the future. That was the reason I posted this.
Anyway, I didnt care about it the next day, once I listened to aura cleaning field, that OG surely helps after some bad energies from other people.
Thank you all for giving me useful advice I will try to follow in the future.
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