What gives a person a sense of contentment?
What is needed in life to be happy and fulfilled?
This is a highly individual question with highly individual answers.
The way i see it, it’s a combination of meeting ‘needs’.
If someone is content with their financial situation, there is no feeling of lack, so there is no overcompensation - no need to fantasise about the things you could do as the richest person in the world that you can’t do now, if there is no void that those experiences would fill.
If someone is fully satisfied with their sexual life, there is no need to fantasise about all the other things you want to fill the gap of dissatisfaction.
When your social bonding needs are met via your current friends group, there is no drive to keep going out several times a week to try and make (new) friends.
This is applicable to all areas of life. An example everyone would understand is:
When you’re fully satisfied with the meal you’ve had, there is no need to keep eating.
When there is significant lack somewhere, it’s hard to see how this can be applied to that specific area.
But this is contentment. Applied to all areas of life.
This is what the field helps achieve.
I’m shocked by how unlikely some of the events have been that I have been experiencing since I’ve been using this.
It’s like all areas of my life are moving towards a state “better suited” to me.
Nothing big. I haven’t won the lottery, I haven’t made radical changes. Yesterday an incredibly unlikely event happened. I got to meet some old friends through a series of coincidences and we got to spend a few hours together. It made me so happy i was happy and excited the whole day. I can’t believe how everything just fell into place. If you only knew how unlikely this was… we all live abroad, in different countries. Even the chances that we would be in the same country are super small, let alone in the same city, and also finding out about it and managing to arrange things so quickly…
Again… it’s not an objectively huge thing that turned my life upside down in a good way.
But it’s something that impacted my overall life and wellbeing in a way that the “social bonding needs” drawer in my life got a serious bump.
There have been many small changes like that :)