Discussion on masturbation (Kinky stuff)

General Discussion
#180

I wish some of the guys and girls would just go with the ‘Fuck It’ rule
Basically you don’t give a fuck about worrying a shit about yourselves

You accept yourselves as you are, your confidence comes from self acceptance, be proud of who you are, don’t buy into societal pressures of what you think you should be, and how you should act.

Masturbation and porn are avoidance tactics to living and being part of the world, they keep you trapped. Masturbation is good now and then but not as a lifestyle choice.

We need connection with one another, we need to feel each other, it saddens me how many people just avoid connecting with others and resort to porn and masturbation becomes it becomes easier than putting yourself out there.

Love yourself, accept yourself, truly accept yourself, that is the secret, and start living today while you still can.

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#181

Do not live it as a challenge, if you live it as a challenge you generate anxiety in yourself because you are always afraid of falling / making mistakes; in turn this anxiety is perceived very well by women, who have a very high sensitivity, and in the end the initial attraction is blocked by the anxiety that is perceived as insecurity to the female senses.

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#182

Say that to my subconscious. The idiot just can’t help but put hot women on a pedestal.

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#183

It’s pretty much a lifestyle to me now. I will stay on no fap regardless of the benefits.

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#184

The problem with this is that it’s easier said than done. Do you know how many times I’ve tried not to give a fuck? Ironically, trying not to give a fuck means that you do give a fuck about trying not to give a fuck. And it falls apart. People can sense the fakeness.

Same with this. I don’t necessarily care about how society views me but I do have a harsh self critical view that is in many ways harsher than what society would judge me to be.

My current strategy is to just own the fact that I care. Yes, I’m nervous and yes I care about what you think about me because I’m a social being. I accept the fact that I’m a nervous wreck and annoying as it may be, I’m not gonna let it stop me from connecting with you. Bam.

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#185

Coming soon to the Sapien Med Shop?

@anon64768676 can you get some concept art going for us please? Superhero themed of course. No doubt Iron Man, Dr. Doom, The Hulk, Thanos etc would be appropriate inspirations.

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#186

What do mean by that? What’s great porn?

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#187

I bet “Project Kundalini Vibration” would be a winner too.

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#188

Your partner doesn’t get excited to make love to the soothing melodies of Super Metabolism Boost with Cellulite Reduction?

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#189

Do you need specific info? :face_with_monocle:

#190

Yes.

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#191

@Pia He is probably referring to the rise in quality of porn. They cut off the unnecessary parts, now it’s only the most extreme parts, all in HD and POV. You don’t see the guy’s face anymore. And now there isn’t that jazzy soundtrack it’s all spit and throat noises. They even skipped the moaning in most cases and you don’t need to wait to be alone and fire the VHS. It’s not even a taboo, it’s on your phone. People expect you to watch porn and you don’t have to face the video store guy. It’s anonymous.

Teenagers didn’t get addicted to jerking-off from mental pictures of their teachers or the lingeries ads from the magazine’s their mom threw in the trash.

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#192

Aha.

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#193

Fake it till you make it @Dewbob, practice, practice, practice. Confidence comes with doing, and also with knowing your stuff, like you are training to be a Doctor, so that takes a lot of commitment, and also it takes knowledge, so if you know what area you want to go into within the medical profession, learn your stuff and learn it well, then connect with others like you. Sure you will feel anxious, but the more you put yourself out there, the more life you experience, the more you grow, the more confident you will get.

I feel your energy, and you have beautiful energy, and I bet the people that you come into contact with will feel it too, so don’t sell yourself short by allowing your insecurities to get the better of you.

Shall I let you into a secret - :grinning: :heart: you are not here to care what people think of you, you are not here to be popular, it is your ego telling you that you should care what others think about you, and being popular somehow means you are acceptable. When we have that mindset we end up compromising ourselves to fit society.

You are here for your life only, just like others are here for their lives, learn, grow, evolve.

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#194

This seems like a good strategy, especially if you subscribe to the belief that any sort of “trying” or changing is fake and compromises on your essential being. I think there are arguments to be made both ways (for and against trying to appeal to others, whether that’s for love or career or what).

If you don’t use Ego Dissolution much or at all, I would suggest trying it. I think it helps with concerns over how others see you (plus of course boosts other fields).

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#195

“false sense of security” Bro this is the exact word for masturbation. Our brain is a fool, when we masturbate our mind thinks “why to take action when you are getting sex”

If people really really wish to be at the top 1% in any field then NoFap is must to-do. Believe me, I am in a college where mostly are toppers and most of them have never ever viewed porn in their entire life and they are like too much in their studies.

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#196

Yes Porn Industry is trying too hard to make people addicted, also now it’s a new trend of “OnlyFans” where young girls make ASMR videos on Youtube and link their “OnlyFans” account in the description so as to make people watch them naked and make money off them. It’s a shame that some dumb girls to make easy money are getting into prostitution by degrading themselves.

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#197

Yes and yes.
But it’s a competition, the video that gets the most popularity set the tone and the girls have to lower their standard to fit the new trends. It’s a race to the bottom.

Once they get cond into it, they either have the package to get a fan base and level up to some higher end, independent video on demand whoring studio. Maybe they can become “princess” “mistress something” and dodge the manual work by insulting some self-loathing beta males.

Or they keep grinding on pornhub then fall into the BDSM zone getting beat up by some gorilla associated with pedo rings or the gay mafia on a website that looks older than the girls.

But coming out of it is tricky. It’s like drug dealers and pimps, they prey on weak minded people for enrollment. Sad thing, lots of intellectual keep pushing that “sexual liberation” stuff and normalize prostitution even though the girls themselves admit they hate it.

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#198

Thank you so much @anon71772328. That made my day (or night more appropriately haha). That’s very nice of you to say :slightly_smiling_face:

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#199

I see what you mean. There’s gotta be a good middle ground where I can get the best of both worlds. I think change is important (it’s what we’re all doing when improving) but staying true to yourself is also very important. The only thing left is to figure out what to change and what to keep.

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