I feel like ive missed out on so much due to having a shitty childhood and teenage years. People were out doing fun stuff, studying, getting into relationships, i was doing drugs , wanting to kill myself and getting abused. Im only 21 but i still feel the pressure of being an adult, having to pay bills, be mature, work a full time job.
I feel like your childhood years and teenage years are your best years with no responsibility and just carefree times. I feel so resentful at the fact ive missed it.
I think this and your previous thread about relationships are connected. There are many resources on this forum if you search. Remember that it is the inner work that will bring a change in your state of mind. The fields and the NFTs I mention below are a tool to assist.
Itâs important to remember that you are not your current identity or memories or the person who had a certain type of childhood or relationships, you are a being who has chosen to have experiences. They do not define you. Since you are the only one who had the perspective of your childhood that you do, that means that you can choose to rewrite them or let them go. The power is in your hands. Think of it like an online game where you get more abilities and powers as you level up.
Subconscious Limits field, Malleable Ego, many more
In the NFT category you can explore Subconscious Mastery, Freed from desire, Absolute Confidence for example.
For use of Neville Goddard techniques for Revision and Belief state changing see Magician of the Beautiful, Potential or Miracles of Revision as well as his books and lectures.
Tell you the truth directly: I am more childlike and carefree nowadays than when I was a teenager. Yes there were fun memories no doubt. But the âfun stuffâ teenagers do is usually getting hammered and doing all kinds of silly things. On top of that, due to less life experience, they are really naive! Add to that all those hormones⊠And then relationships?
I know itâs nice to Schönreden (embellish talk?) that time when we were young and carefree. But bro, itâs the same as when people say âeverything was better beforeâ. In truth they feel nostalgic for simpler times. But humanity progresses constantly scientifically, medically, technologically, etc etc.
In short, itâs not as romantic a time you think it is, those teenager times.
With that out of the way, tell you another thing directly (it will sting a little, caution):
You feeling resentful adds absolutely no value to the state you wish to be in. In fact, it makes it worse. The resentment and guilt you feel is based on the above mentioned romantic notion of the past. Do yourself a big favor and focus on the now. Attention is energy. With resentment, your attention and your energy is on the past.
I think itâs okay to consider the past and you can learn lessons from it. But being stuck on it via negative emotions is really no use for your own personal growth. Quickly shift your attention to the now.
And btw, youâre literally 21. You can do anything you put your mind to. Thereâs so much to explore and so much opportunity to grow. I know it sometimes can feel otherwise, but thatâs the ego mind playing tricks. Your soul is yearning for more (hence you feel resentment). Your emotion is actually an indicator from the soul, a message for you to expand. You can build a life much more epic than teenage years.
Iâm sorry that happened to you. What do you feel you missed out? Any way to live these things out now? I know it isnât as carefree as a teenager or kid but you maybe you can still do these things.
Idk just the whole socialising aspect i suppose. Its so hard to make time for plans as everyone is working and it wouldve been easier as a kid i guess because of all the free time
The subconscious mind doesnât know the difference between âfactsâ and imagination. If youâre up to making stuff up, then create movies in your mind about the childhood you are now creating for yourself. Spend time playing and you could even make up some extended family and friends who loved you dearly - people who supported and encouraged you. If energy comes up telling you itâs not real, just keep playing. You are making up your own game about your life the way that is now the preferred memories.
If you have any of the intercession audios, ask for help doing this.
I canât add anything more than what has already been Said.
The mentioned fields are top notch.
What I think (that) would help You: (cultivating) Self Love, Inner peace and confort, joy, (finding) a loving family (moral support) - even a virtual one, no matter if you find it in a forum, like this one, or if you find it in some beautiful pets, who can teach you unconditional loveâŠ
Plus, other options which should help.
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This makes me feel so good.
Try it.
This one is good too:
Also, brain fields, like gentle brain Regeneration or the older brain Regeneration, among others, should aud you in your healing.
Your feelings are not wrong and I know it can be hard but try to accept and forgive the resentment you feel. See the now as chance to reach out to the times you âlostâ and do things with them and not against them.
Time is only lost if you discard it cause you donât want to accept it as part of your being. The energies that linger inside you feeling alone and maybe unworthy reach out to them and make more fun memories with them.
it is a process and takes some time so donât get discouraged but keep going.
Thatâs what the suggestions of Sedona Method and Hoâoponopono (SapienMed Version) were for. Methods to feel and let go of the memories
Itâs tricky when we all have different backgrounds and beliefs and tools at our disposal that are not part of anotherâs understanding. We share as we can and what someone does with them is dependent upon choice. He asked and we shared. How he chooses to act on them or not at all is up to him and what he is capable of accepting in the moment.
I study and practice Neville Goddardâs methods and incorporate Sedona for letting go. Itâs not for everyone. I came to my understandings organically after many years of study. Itâs not easy to impart what I know through experimentation to someone who is hurting. When feelings and memories come up I let go. But I had to learn to do that through practice.
Heyy! Iâm not talking about the suicidality and abuse you experienced. I am truly, deeply sorry that you went through this and hope you got or can get the healing and therapy you deserve. Iâm only talking about your mindset about missing out on a good childhood and teenage years.
Iâm sorry you feel like you missed out on so much and have to be a responsible adult now - itâs not fair. So many of us go through the same experience, and many others that seemingly âhad a great childhoodâ actually often had hard, miserable times too. But the main problem here isnât your missing good childhood experience, itâs your mindset.
Girl sometimes I feel the same way when it comes to my teenage years, but I consciously make the effort to accept the past and what has happened and what hasnât. Youâre doing great the way you are, working a full-time job and being mature is something to be proud of by itself. And if you feel like youâre not enough, then focus on what you can change now and take it one day at a time. We canât change the past and it doesnât define who we are in the present anyway. I also used to have an idealistic view of teen years and it took me some time and discipline to deconstruct these ideas that you should be studying, getting in relationships, constantly having fun and partying yadiyada. We all have our own unique story and your childhood and teenage years donât have to fit the hollywood movie mould or the basic template of a good childhood. Celebrate what youâve achieved and experienced so far. Iâm sure you have a few beautiful, precious memories. And there are so many more to come
You might have a negative mindset, automatically seeing the bad and cancelling out the good, diving back to the past, stuck in a loop of self-denigration and mourning everything that never happened. I know I used to. If this resonates, really try to accept your unique story as it is and focus on the positive aspects of it. If negative thoughts arise, try to contemplate them and let them go, reminding yourself that you are enough and working towards a better life as a young adult. Being a responsible, reliable and independent adult is a remarkable achievement, especially when you had shitty child and teenage years. Treat yourself for achieving that. And look forward to the beautiful future you can create for yourself. Your younger years shouldnât be the best time of your life - wouldnât that imply that adult life sucks ass? Being an adult should be fun and enjoyable too, who says you canât have carefree moments, who says they canât be your âbest yearsâ?!
The you of the present should be your main priority. Figure out what you like, set your own rules and goals, focus on the positive things in your life right now and use everything in your power to help yourself heal and be happy. Even if itâs hard, you can do it.
Sending you a big hug
Hello,
First the way u feel is valid . Also I commend you for asking this. That is the first step to healing from what u have been through.
As a kid I was isolated on purpose, by my mother , so I missed out on alot special things as a child and teen. There are other factors, but I rather keep this reply short. I even attempted to commit the S word at 17. To get away from it all .
Too start healing, for me was to journal. I didnt know any other way to express , what was going inside . I was to scared to bring any of this up. And really had no one to goto . The sedona method was something I found , that really helped. Lastly the Sapien fields were a . blessing.
The fields was the push that I needed to finally help me to recognize, the emotions. Which was hard.
U have to find what works for you , everyone is different
