Resistance in the Path

Guided Path to Wholeness
#9

If you are noticing your mind going back to its old patterns, then you are steadily on the path to dissolving them :slight_smile: Seriously, this level of awareness is a huge step forward and I commend you for getting there. It will help if whenever you noticing your mind going back to its old patterns… mark it down in your phone’s notes. You doing this, solidifies into your subconsicous that you are separate from these limiting beliefs… which helps dissolving and replacing them with new beliefs.

Your subconscious going back to its old patterns was always going to be something that happens when you work on yourself. It can’t be helped. But how did these old patterns come to exist? Through repeated thoughts. So now, repeating the question/affirmations well become the new ‘old patterns’ that your subconscious falls back on over time. Just keep at it my friend.

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#10

As I just mentioned, this is part of the path. The whole rubber band effect where you keep pushing foward but seem to keep snapping back to square one. But every day you work on yourself and gain a better understanding of who and where you are, of your patterns, accepting them and choosing to think more positive thoughts… you are effectively building new patterns in the mind that will eventually replace your old ones. All it takes is persistence. The subconscious mind is programmed by persistence. This is how your old patterns were programmed.

So keep at it. The fact you are working on yourself daily is a success in my book. You are changing by simply choosing to thinking these new kinds of thoughts daily. This is unlike your old patterns. This is change.

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#11

Same. I’ve been tackling painful/life-long things, so I’ve felt that it requires some time to pay attention and get deep into it.

Imaginarium Divine, The Way of Integrity, Higher Self Connection , etc.

I wouldn’t call it ‘resistance’, just… well, today I did it for the first time. For the acceptance affirmations, they came with sighs, as I had just written an entire essay before I started reciting them. By the 3d repeat (4, with the writing), I was… reciting (there were many words), but I figured that’s got to count for something. I have however been switching up the wording throughout my recitations, as things came to mind, so I was there. I can’t say it was very “heartfelt”, but it was truthful. The first affirmations seem to be more appropriate with/for some sort of release, and the final 1-2 with acceptance and/or some sort of heartfelt thing, but I guess it might also depend on how people feel/process emotions.
I’ll see how it goes for the next couple of days.

Now, notes to self for when I return to my old comments to check my progress:

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#12

I hit some resistance this week. It arrived in the form of a nasty head cold, which I allowed to get me out of my zone and set routines for 3-4 days. Was it just an excuse to slow down some? Maybe. The ego demanding some brakes on the train? Perhaps! Could I have powered through anyway? Without question…

This resonates bigtime this week for me. Everything moves in waves and oscillations. No straight lines. This is major renovation work on the ego and subconscious. The emergence of our potential… As Sammy says, we’re going to have our dips down.

I have to remind myself to appreciate the minute changes along the way. To not get too down if i throw myself off track for a few days. When I zoom out to see the forest for the trees, i can really appreciate what’s happened from years of working on myself.

Just. Keep. Going.

And with that, tonight I’m jumping back in. Chapter 16.

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#13

Incredibly well said :pray::pray:

#14

Remember everyone,
Resistance is a stepping stone. Resistance is to be expected when embarking on a new journey. No resistance is equal to staying in the confines of your comfort zone (which you define yourself btw).

An example:
Talking to a colleague the other day, he saw I’m using those forearm trainers. Then we started talking about push-ups. Another colleague joined in, one thing leading to another and he easily does 30 pushups in a row. So I go and do the same. The first colleague then chimes back in and says he can vividly remember that when he started pushups he was struggling with 5. I looked back in my memory and told him I remember the same thing lol. And now we’re both here doing 30 in one go with reasonable ease.

That’s the comfort zone being redefined over time.

In each area of our lives we have an innumerable amount of goals and aspirations. We tend to try something new and when it doesn’t work the first few times, we give in to the temptation of the inner critic, think we made little or no progress and give up.

But as mentioned in the beginning, resistance is to be expected. Why? Because that implies improvement, moving forward, making progress. Etc.

You feel resistance?
Good, you are improving :slight_smile:

Also:

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#15

Thanks brothers. You both put into words what I was looking to say in this thread. Growth 100% happens in waves and oscillations. Up and down, up and down, overall increasing the baseline wavelengths as you keep moving forward. It is in the fall and the rise back that we learn what we need to learn to reach the next peak. It’s just the way it is.

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#16

I just finished the path. I struggled really bad at chapters 9 and 10. I got a lot of anxiety which makes me self soothe thru over eating. I played the amygdala healing audio and waited till the next day to continue.

It’s like my mind was saying “keep going” but my body was like “no way”. At one point as I sat writing in my journal my psoas muscles started to hurt and shake. Then I started to cry. I was surprised at how physical this process was for me.

I’m really grateful to have been able to do this and I am excited that I can do the path again and again. I feel so much lighter and like I belong in my body.

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#17

so much resistance… its painful reading those acceptance affirnations in the mirror.

what audios can i listen to help ease the pain or should i just soldier on ?

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#18

Keep going, man. Always. Never think of yourself as a fixed point, but always transforming. Remember you can stack some of the other audios with them. Acceptance and Resilience / Confidence and Self-Love. They’re helpful, i think.

I’ve found myself going back to the mirror affirmations after completing this journey. I’ve been doing them every day all in a row. They get easier and are worth it.

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#19

:heart:

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#20

Ideally, when the pains arise, to the best of your ability try to consciously accept them (as being a part of you). Just accept.

Note however, this does not mean accepting it like it cannot be changed. Instead, by accepting them, what happens is you diminish and eventually release it’s emotional charge on you - thereby freeing you from the pain.

I would say it’s a bit like clearing out the RAM.

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#21

not even Half way through the course and I’m noticing I feel a lot calmer in regards to my blockage. defentiley not 100 percent acceptance, maybe 80 percent lol but yeah this is nice

but one thing is I can’t stop self sabotaging myself holy fuck like I’ll keep going back to porn or my old habits, idkkk. i think its a coping mechanism for all these mixed feelings coming up. one moment i feel gr8 next moment i feel like crap

This is so tru
gonna keep pushing through tho, 10 days of reprogramming is nothing compared to my whole life filled with self hatred so we move

thanks dream, sammy and everyone who gives advice <3

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#22

hey guys hope your all doing good :slight_smile:

one question, im on confidence section right now and its really tough, i can’t handle all the emotions coming up and i just distract myself all day and self sabotage through social media and porn

is this is gonna ruin my progress ? and how can i stop? im guessing i should just keep trying to accept all these emotions rising

#23

Distraction is a sign of not having clear goals. I would recommend revisiting your list of goals - particularly the long-term goals.

Then next time you wanna binge tiktok or porn, ask yourself whether those activities align with your goals.

No, this is part of the progress. Embrace it. But please don’t guilt trip yourself. Guilt is regret on oneself, it doesn’t move you forward.

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#24

What kind of emotions are coming up?

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#25

@SammyG can you read my DM bro if you’re not too busy, I think I may be on to something.

#26

Regret mainly and just avoiding being in my thoughts because its painful thinking about the blockages

Ive defentiley calmed down a lot tho but when im at work it just all comes up again because im lost in my thoughts. Everyday i see little improvements tho so we move :slight_smile:

#27

Yeah, no regrets brother as nice said. Forgive and accept and move on. Feeling regret will only get in the way.

That pain is the hard part honestly. These kinds of thoughts hurt emotionally and emotional pain is probably even worse than physical. The difference though is that emotional pain dissolves a lot more easily than physical pain. It is far more mental than physical pain and really comes down to accepting the feeling you have. Accepting what the feeling means. And then… releasing.

I know, nothing that hasn’t been said before lol. But it is the way forward as these thoughts keep coming up. Because they will. The old patterns fight for survival by reminding you of the negative assosciation you have of certain beliefs/thoughts/memories. So as long as you stand firm and accept the discomfort these thoughts hold, the discomfort… dissolves into comfort.

You got this my friend. I am very confident you do.

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#28

first, it was easy, but then i felt the resistance more and more and to accept became harder. i could not do the mirror affirmations anymore without self hate in a parallel silent speech. i did not end the path yet. (and this is also something i should work on, bringing something to the end. i always have fear that i would not get the desired results, so i break up to avoid being frustrated.)
and when i started to accept that i would never get there, some people started to approach me as if i were there!
i mean the things i wanted to change started to change exactly because i thought i would never be able to change them, and i should live with this.
and it’s not in a way i imagined it would feel. (maybe this is important!). i now accept that there are some changes already going on, and it’s not so exiting as i thought it would be :sweat_smile:. they are just becoming part of me ( and i still am afraid that i would loose them again…)

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