You described for me (thank you) “negative emotions” (I understood that). But you didn’t describe what you meant by “dealing with.”
I’m going to recommend that you get into a habit of replacing the ideas of “positive” and “negative” with the ideas of “wanted (by me)” and “unwanted (by me),” which is what most people are meaning when they talk about “positive” and “negative.” This sort of replacement will help you with what you’re asking about (and I’ll mention some ways it’ll help in a moment).
That’s fine, and understandable even, because you haven’t yet practiced yourself into ways of seeing that differently. But that doesn’t mean you don’t have the ability to do it. It just means you haven’t yet practiced yourself into this new way.
It’s like when you were learning how to walk. Just because you had always crawled before, that didn’t mean you didn’t have the ability to walk. You had feet and legs and the muscles and systems to control them. You just had to practice yourself into using all that you already had so that you were able to walk…which you did!
There is always a different way of seeing everything, whether you’ve discovered that different way for yourself or not. And the mere existence of the countless numbers of psychologists, psychiatrists, analysts, counselors, shrinks, therapists, social workers, coaches and whathaveyou that exist right now throughout our planet have to be some evidence of the truth behind that bold-faced assertion of mine. Now, I’m not saying that you have to use any of those professionals (although sometimes it can be of great benefit to have a guide on your journey). Whether you go it alone or you have some help (just like you might have used the help of holding onto furniture or a more stable adult when you were learning to walk), always keep in mind that, with everything in life, there’s always a different way of seeing everything. And you must believe this in some parts of your life or you wouldn’t be here on a forum such as this where we see things very differently than the great majority of the world.
IME, I’ve seen two biggest stumbling block (to carry on with my “learning to walk example” 
) that trips people up when they are first practicing their skills. The first is that they look at their “thing” as a single unit, when it’s really a combination of subunits or of aspects. (I’m going to switch analogies on you here! hehe) It’s like a big whacking steak. No matter how beautifully it’s cooked and how much you might like steak, if you look at it as one single unit and try to cram it all in your mouth at once, you’re going to have a harder time of enjoying than when you cut it down into smaller, manageable, bite-sized pieces that you can comfortably and enjoyably work through that big whacking steak.
The second stumbling block (and this is far more common, and sort of similar to the first) is that people try to reach too far. They want to try and go from “this thing is AWFUL!!!” to “this thing is good,” all in a single step. (Yep, we’re back to the “baby walking” analogy again! ) But that’s not how any of us move about our planets. We don’t live in Star Trek. There are no transporters. We can’t “beam” from where we are (“AWFUL!!!”) to where we want to be (“good”).
When we want to get anywhere in this world, we make progressive shifts from where we are towards we want to be. We learned this even before we learned how to walk. And as we were learning how to walk, we learned the value of starting off with small shifts (perhaps of the weight from one side to the other or a shift of our foot a quarter-inch in front of us, etc.) towards where we wanted to go and, in time, we found that we can do bigger and bigger shifts for ourselves. The morale from this stumbling block: don’t try to reach alllllll the way over to making that old thing “good.” Start by aiming for finding ways to look at it so that it was, truly, “a little less negative.” Sometimes, we have to talk ourselves in off of a ledge before we can start to–effectively–leave the building, you see?
So far, this all has been hypothetical (which I don’t like because I find it to be unhelpful), so let’s put some of this into practice. For example (and this is NOT a criticism, simply an illustration):
Although this is a common way of talking in the languages that I know, this here is a big whacking “steak.” Just because this is a common way of talking and that all the people around us may talk like this doesn’t it make it helpful to us.
If this were my “steak ,” the first thing I’d want to do is to start cutting it down to size. Now, just like with an actual steak irl, there are many, many different ways and strategies we could use to cut down our mental “steaks.” (And that discussion is beyond the scope of a forum post or even the scope of this forum.) Play with it, and I’m emphasizing that attitude of play there. Start off with an attitude of a treasure hunt, because there is treasure to be found there–in a very real sense–for you and by you!
I understand what you’re meaning here. And a lot of people would join you in this idea.
But you (and, again, I say this with NO criticism) are posting that in a thread where we’ve been discussing (and let me break this down, so you can follow along):
- “entities” & curses,
- how those “entities” might be human constructs or creations,
- how those curses might be placed even without the curser’s conscious awareness,
- how our own traumas (and–to me, more importantly–how our replay and active habits of vibration from those traumas) make us more susceptible to these “entities” & curses
on a forum where we elsewhere discuss:
- the chemical consequences of our energetic vibration on our physical bodies and
- the role of our “lower” vibration plays in many diseases and
- the contribution that our individual vibration plays in this world and the galaxies beyond.
When you look at your statement in that context, don’t you want to say, “Huh?” Doesn’t your logic make you want to start questioning your notion of giving it approval? Because that’s something you’re adding to this discussion. We’ve been talking about healing YOURSELF, for YOURSELF. “Approval” isn’t a factor here. In fact, your “approval” probably wasn’t a factor at that time. IOW, it’s likely that your “thing” happened in spite of your lack of approval.
So (and all of that–and what follows–is me giving you an example of seeing something in a different way), what you’re sort of saying to us is “I’m using my notion of ‘approval’ as my reason to give myself ‘vibrational poison’.” Now, you have the total freedom, sovereignty and power to choose to do that. You do. This is like taking poison yourself and hoping that something or someone else will die. Poison doesn’t work like that.
And at that time, knowing what you knew at that time then, this was the smartest, wisest decision that you could make for yourself back then. Good for you! And that was a helpful decision for you back then.
Since then, though, time has moved on and as time has moved on, you’ve learned more things. You know more now, so you are now able to make different choices for yourself now. You can choose to do something other than kinda log out, if that’s what you want. (Your call.)
What do you want? Do you want to leave this part abandoned, alone or separate? Do you want the rest of “you” to be fragmented or “broken,” if you will? (In quotes, because I don’t believe anyone is ever broken.) What do you want? Again, your call. YOU get to choose.
That’s wonderfully poetic but are you seeing the contradiction there? How nothing can be “pure” and “tainted” at the same time?
This brings to me to another helpful tip. I’ve found it’s really helpful to do the type of shifting that I’ve been talking about in writing (ideally, handwriting, but in writing nonetheless). Writing fixes our fleeting, poetic ideas onto paper or screen, much like a lepidopterist fixes their specimens onto cardboard so that they can examine the specimens.
I understand. The important thing (to me) is that you CAN get something out of a tight hole, if that’s what you want.
I understand. I think the truth is much broader than that popular meme.
I understand that that’s your current way of looking at this method. But, in reality, no one’s strapping you to anything. And I’m not saying this to try and get you to do something you don’t want to do. I’m saying this in the context of your question about “seeing this thing in ways other than negative.” No one’s strapping you to anything. There mayn’t even be a chair involved. And if you were to do it, it would be your CHOICE.
You’re free to look at this however you want and to tell whatever story you want. However you look at this or whatever story you tell about this will affect your experiences and your results, both of those I’d call your “manifestations.” Here too, you get to choose. Your call.
I’m going to suggest that, on some level, you’re already reliving that experience, if only that part that you logged off/split off. You see, when you split that part of you off, the rest of you went on to live the part of your life which followed, but you probably didn’t bring along that part that you split off. In all likelihood, that part of you doesn’t even know that that old experience has ended.
And even referencing it–if only by the general title of “that event”–directs your mind to it, activating it, taking another (teeny) dose of that poison.
What’s worse? Reliving it in a controlled manner (with or without qualified support) for a finite period of time with the intention of lessening and lessening the dose of poison so that you’ll be finally be free of it? Or a lifetime (or more, if you believe in karma) of microdosing (or more) on your poison? Your call, your CHOICE. No one can make that decision for you.
Exactly. (And doesn’t the fact that you came up with the metaphor of a fire suggest to you what this experience is doing to you?)
Then you have more shifting–and relief–available to you.
And you brought this question up at the perfect time. There’s relief to be felt as you’re doing the healing shifts (regardless of which methodology you choose) we’ve been talking about, just like there’s relief when you put out a fire.
I love this! Because, in a few brief words, you’ve demonstrated for yourself the two stumbling blocks that I was talking about.
Here, “just not ok” is another big whacking steak. You’ve got a whole bunch of ideas of why you are labeling this in this way and you believe you will have certain benefits from this label of yours. These ideas and beliefs might be the first “cuts” you’re making into your big whacking steak. You might then want to cut those pieces into even smaller pieces and so on, until you have your smaller, more manageable, bite-sized pieces you can soothe shift and heal.
And trying to move from “just not okay” to “forgiveness” is, to me, that trying to “beam” oneself from Point A to Point B in a world that’s not Star Trek. No wonder it seems so unfathomable, right?
There are tons of healing practices. And it’s my opinion that the reason why there are so many healing practices is that some are better-suited for certain aspects of the human experiences whilst others are better-suited for other aspects.
But if you have something that’s that troubling to you, that isn’t being addressed by the fields we have, doesn’t it make sense to find a trained professional to be your guide and support you on your journey? After all, you wouldn’t try to give yourself home brain surgery whilst learning brain surgery by watching YouTube clips, would you?
And here’s the thing that almost all of us do: we learn a new technique–maybe it’s from a brief description such a forum post like this or we read a book or we go to a 7-day “intensive” workshop. And then we try our new technique with our baby legs (Yep, I went back there again) on The Biggest Hairiest Most Troubling ISSUE of our lives. That’s like throwing algebra problems at first graders. That doesn’t help to build a history of success.
You’re asking me questions about “just simply observe.” That was a suggestion made to you by another forum friend. I’m not a personal fan of that method. As you can tell, my preferred method is more interactive than “just simply observe.” And I’ve taken this thread farther off-topic than I would like. So, I’ll let the fans of that method answer your questions more expertly than I.
Check your PMs. (And I’m saddened, too.)
thanks
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