As of this very moment, OM is officially banned from the forum. I gave him more than enough time after announcing the ban to redeem himself but he just continued with his attacks and tirades.
The past few days have not only been extremely stressful to me and dream but to many of you in here as well. We all care so much for our community. To see it reduced to all this fighting and ugliness has cast a dark shadow upon us all.
But now, the clouds are clearing up and the light is shining in. This whole debacle is coming to an end.
In the future poll thread, the right question was asked. ‘How do we move forward?’ Well first, let me relink the rules of the forum and let us reflect on all of this.
Rules
- If users insult others or make disrespectful comments, the comments will be deleted and they’ll be let off with a warning. Especially use of nasty language. Done one or two more times can get them a ban.
- If users start attacking personas, then it is reaching argument territory and should stop
immediately. If users keep going for personal attacks, they will be given warning. If they continue, they will be banned. As mods, we’ll do what we can stop discussions escalating into
full blown arguments. - No explicit material on this forum. Let’s keep it PG-13. There are kids who also listen to Sapienmed and lurk the forum.
- No sharing purchased material on the website. That is unfair to the creators.
- After first ban, if you return and break rules again, you will be permanently banned from the forum.
- Users that conitnually cause chaos and uproar in the forum will be permanently banned
The ego bashing, provocation of conflicts were rules that were consistently being broken by OM. And he was warned by me many times. But he used his high status here and how he’s helped people as leverage to let him get away with such things.
He was really good at making himself to look like the victim and using all kinds of subtle manipulation tactics to get away with these things and get the public on his side.
But even then, in realizing these things, I let him get away with it. I also appreciated how helpful he was to a lot of you so I didn’t want to come at him publicly as often as I should’ve.
I honestly cared what you guys thought and since many of you would defend him and side with him, I would just let it be. And so, those manipulative tactics worked on me too.
And from all that, I learned several things. Several things I knew but never fully put into practice because of this individual.
First of all, nobody is above the rules. Not me. Not dream. Not Om. Not Maoshan. Not anyone. No matter how helpful or most often righteous someone is, they should not be put on a pedestal. They do not deserve undying devotion that allows them to say and do whatever they want.
That goes for dream as well, who many of you love so dearly. If he crosses the line and starts causing chaos and uproar or doing shady things, then you should call him out on it too. It is unwise to blindly follow and defend anyone. Wrong is wrong no matter how right someone has been in the past.
So don’t let your love and respect for someone cloud your better judgement. And don’t fear how they or other people will react when you do call out their bad behavior. Many people feared because of the backlash they would get from him or his defenders. Heck I feared in some instances too.
And even I broke the rules. I went for OM’s character as well. I did it in defense of us but I also stooped to a level I shouldn’t have. I broke the very rules I am supposed to uphold in this forum. If you feel I did the wrong thing, let me know and tell me what you believe is proper punishment. I will hear you out.
I have learned so much from all of this. I hope all of you have too. These have not been simple moral dilemmas to deal with. OM was a friend and so it made things even more complicated.
And so for the future… we ask you all to not put any of us or new members on a pedestal. We ask that everyone treat eachother with respect. We ask that everyone learn from this and we continue to provide light and love to eachother as always have.
Because this community truly is beautiful. You are all good souls with the potential to resolve any of your issues and shine as bright as you’ve always wanted to. Me and Dream see it in all of you.
And yes we saw it in Angel too. Some of you speak of not liking him in the past but he came to us with good will and good intentions. We saw and helped out and learned things together. Everyone deserves redemption. And we gave OM more than enough chances over time to do so but look where that got us.
So I am forgiving but I learned my lesson. But if people cause those kinds of issues here again… just mess with the lovely vibe we have here in any way… I will speak to you. I will warn you.
But if you don’t respect the rules and our community, you will be permanently banned.
I also wanted to mention that we hold no ill will towards those who defended OM. He helped you guys immensely. And so you love and respect him dearly. All of this must have been so confusing and stressful to you all. And to also hear people attack you in here for being dumb and foolish must have added fuel to the fire blazing within.
Just know that me and dream don’t hold anything against you. Even if some of you charged back our audios. You felt you were doing the right thing. The man probably helped you guys immensely in some ways and you believed him and trusted his word. It’s understandable.
And I know this cast a dark shadow over the freedom course but I do believe it is worth checking out. I will fix the buy button asap.
And also, you might not have noticed… but the course home, is taking applications for courses. Others can create courses as well. Whether it be on tarot reading or whatever truly. Just contact us first and pitch your idea.
And finally, a previous member of this forum sent this email and I asked her if it could be shared. Now that this chapter is finally over, I believe that all truth should be come to the light. Full clarity is often necessary in pure self reflection and the learning of how to move forward. Let everything come to the light.
So Om, you aren’t welcome here again. But even after all of this, the physical world still welcomes you. Nobody from here truly knows OM’s face or who he is or where he lives. He kept himself anonymous in all his time here. Not too different than a reddit user with a user name. His personal life won’t suffer from this.
So I hope you learned from all of this as well and grow to be a better person. Good luck on your journey.
In all this, there were many lessons. This whole debacle was still quite a moment of spiritual growth. For all of us. Although I mentioned many above, some lessons were probably more personal to you. If you would like to share, please do in the comments below.
And perhaps share what you see for our future. And how we can make it it happen in this new beginning being presented to us.
Love and light to you all.
