Ahh, I can see how those topics would be hard to weave into conversations. It’s still possible though.
Like for example ‘what are you into lately ?’ “I’ve been deep into spirituality lately. Been practicing mindfulness by doing pranayama and then just observing my thoughts daily. Are there any spiritual or philosophical concepts that you practice or find compelling or helpful?” or ’ * “I’m always trying to catch soccer games when I can. Do you play or follow any sports?” someone asks how are you and you’re like ‘Im great. I just finished watching hunter x hunter for the 20th time. Deff my favorite show ever. Have you been watching any shows lately?’
So basically, yeah you can talk about the topic you’re into so as long as you find a way to include them in it and make it into an interest convo. Like for example, those were basic questions but then you can do something like ‘If you could live in the world of any anime you’ve watched, which one would it be and why?’
Still I think it’s cool to have a lot of interesting things to talk about and just so many ideas, feelings and questions to randomly pull from.
So as some people here have noted, learning a lot more interesting things and gaining more knowledge on a vast array of topics is helpful. As you go through this process, you will actually find things you are genuinely interested in and genuniely dive deeper to learn more about it. But it’s also a matter of gaining an opinion about the things you are learning about and maybe even writing your thoughts down about these things.
If you just learn things and have cool facts to share… that doesn’t quite make you interesting off the bat. It’s how you feel about the information, your input and thoughts on these things. That is what will make you stand out. Not just what you share but how you share and what it says about you.
I was going to drop a essay’s worth of content here but I am going to do you and a lot of other people here a solid… I’m going to create a custom GPT helps develop this in you quite naturally. It’s a custom GPT designed to actually expand your knowledge and give you more interesting topics for conversation. But also designed, to make you engage with the material and develop you into thinking more deeply about things and having interesting things to SAY about them.
Another big thing is… questions. Asking the right questions is typically what makes conversations flow amazingly. And there’s lots of great open ended questions to ask that makes for long, deep and fun conversations.
It’s just… it would deff be great to certainly have an arsenal of things to talik about already memorized so when you are in conversation with someone, it just flows out easily. Keep in mind though, going into a conversation with the goal to talk about something you learned is not a good idea. Let it flow. And it’s easy to let it flow when…
You listen. Essentially during most successful convos you have, the person will be talking about themselves mostly. A person’s most favorite subject tends to be themselves so when you show curiosity toward them through asking deeper questions depending on what they are talking about, they will open up quite a bit and say a lot more. So when you talk to people, show a lot of enthusiasm for what they speak about. Ask how someone feels about something when on the topic, and even ask why they feel that way, ext… Genuine curiosity makes people feel really good about themselves.
But typically during convos, show a lot of enthusiasm for what people are talking about. Listening is honestly the number 1 key to talking to people. When you REALLY listen, people will definitely notice and feel heard and… start talking a lot more. A person’s most favorite subject is themselves so when you show curiosity toward them through asking deeper questions depending on what they are talking about, they will open up quite a bit and say a lot more.
Also bud, as I said, the more you talk to people and find comfort in it and find rejection to be less and less uncomftorable… the more your mind will naturall yopen up and that fog dissolves. It just happens that way. I used to have the same issue when I was younger and would run out of things to say quite a bit. It used to be quite annoying. I definitely empathize with that lol.
And hey, I’m rather curious about your journey. Typically, people do find more self love and confidence with this work. But they still tend to feel a bit nervous around others. I remember when I first became more confident, I still would get some anxiety around others. Can you tell me more about how you’ve been able to gain that sort of resilience? That’s pretty cool and I’d like to know more bout it.
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