Hello, guys I tried to look through the forum for something related to my issues. Couldn’t find anything so I decided to ask, but first I will tell you a bit about myself and what I think might be causing my issues. I am a guy in his early 20s, as a kid I was the typical nerd, unnatractive, fat and bullied all the time in school. I decided to make a change because I was getting no attention from females, so when I turned 16-17 I started implementing self improvement methods. Started practicing nofap/semen retention (reached hard mode over 90 days 2 or 3 times), working out and dieting, skincare routines and subliminals related to physical appearance and attraction. Worked like a charm, before I knew it I glowed up, suddenly I was getting a ton of attention, but my pussy mentality remained the same. In the last 5 years I had a chance with 8 girls and guess what I am still a virgin who took 0 of those chances. I look with so much cringe and regret to my memories and experiences with girls. In high school there was this girl in my class who was giving me signals for 2 years, I was interested in her but I was too much of a pussy to actually ask her out because I was too afraid of what others would think and for some stupid reason having fears of her rejecting me even though she clearly showed interest just waiting for me to make the first move (those I believe are my biggest mental blocks as they apply to most of my stories). After that I met this cute girl at university she was into me even got to the point of her admiting to me that she liked me AND GUESS WHAT, MY BITCH BRAIN decided that it was a good idea to just laugh in her face after she admitted her feelings towards me (this haunts me to this day). My freshest memory is from my last workplace, there was this really hot girl, most men who worked in this place were attracted to her and so was I. And so it happened that we had matching night shifts for 1 week, during night shifts there is not much personnel so there were maybe a total of 5-10 people that night. So in the canteen she sat next to me we talked for a good amount of time and for the whole night we were being around each another. The day passed and the next night shift came. She was actually waiting for me outside and told me she forgot the keys for her locker so she asked me if she could keep her things in my locker. Again she was trying to stay around me, the first break came and we went out to smoke. We talked a little and at this point she opened up to me, explaining to me how I am one of the few guys that actually listen to her and to whom she can speak freely, at this point she expressed to me that she is really sad and almost started crying because she is away from her friends and family and that sometimes she just needs someone to hug her (at this point I believed she just wanted to friendzone me). Next couple of days she was getting touchy with me asking me to go smoke out with her, it even got to her asking me if I wanted to depart from work with her basically inviting me to her place. Again same shit. I just fist bumped her and told her see you tomorrow(OH MY GOD THE CRINGE) because I don’t have the balls to even acknowledge that I want to be with her. And lastly not to mention the times I have had a girl staring at me and me just sitting there and pretending that I do not see her…
I am sorry for the long post and the swear words I have used but this is something that frustrates me and makes me angry to the point that I still regret these stupid decisions I made. I guess my main problems are that I am too afraid of what others will think of me and I have a fear of rejection even if a female shows clear interest. For some reason I have a fear of losing my virginity (what will she think when she finds out i am a virgin, what will happen if I dont perform well etc…) Probably have a ton of other insecurities and mental blockages that I don’t even suspect of.
p.s I don’t have a problem with communication with people and females in general. I am a very chill type of guy.
Blueprint of Love NFT should help and heal whatever needs to be healed so you won’t react or act these ways anymore.
And then all the extra stuff :)
Are NFTs bought from gumroad?
Nope, from Venly or directly from forum members, which then transfer the NFT to your Venly wallet
I will check out the forum, what is the price btw? I would appreciate if you could suggest me some free fields as well
You have to negotiate it with those who have it
Because when they sell it to you, their copy of the NFT goes to you, and there a limited numbers of them
While for he gumroad or teespring fields infinite amount of people can buy them.
Check this thread perhaps
Yeah self love would definetly help, but I feel there are even deeper reasons which need to be addressed. Maybe traumas or subconscious blockages.
I need all the help I can get this is a big issue of mine. I truly desire romantic affection and it is even worse when the universe gives you chances which you cant take because you are too much of a pussy to ask a girl out.
Maybe it’s still a social thing even though you’re good at communicating and you might benefit from the social mastery tag… Idk
Have you tried the subconscious limits remover audio?
Sounds like a heavy self-sabotage pattern.
Self-sabotage happens when the subconscious mind tries to keep you safe from something, usually an old very deep traumatic experience.
So finding out the trauma and healing it would be the solution.
Yes, you already know that this is the case.
Important:
Very often we cannot see what the trauma is or what the actual source of the self-sabotage is because there is often an additional layer of shame and guilt on top of the self-sabotage.
The key here is to first the remove the blinding effect of shame/guilt by admitting that there is a problem / self-sabotage pattern going on and that YOU are the origin of it.
Shame = the emotion of when we try to hide something from the world and do not want the world to see it.
So what would that be that you are trying to hide from the world and that you don’t want anyone to see and know?
What coping mechaninsm are you ashamed of?
Admit it and then you can remove the shame and guilt.
For example, when you overused porn as a cope mechanism, you need to admit that there was a part of you that actually enjoined every moment of the dopamine rush of it.
Accepting that a part of you enjoyed it, allows you to accept that part and no longer try to hold it down with shame and guilt.
Admit it and let the whole world know.
Once you accept it you become FREE to move on because you are no longer invested in hiding the past and supressing a part of you.
When the shame and guilt layer is removed, your perception will change and you will able to bring to consciousness what the underlying issue of the trauma might be.
That you can work on the topic that causes the trauma.
So the layers usually are – going from the top (consciousness) to the bottom (subconscious):
- The Experience that it is not working out
- Shame & Guilt that prevent from you from accepting that there is a self-sabotage pattern
- The Self-Sabotage pattern
- The need to be safe at any cost and sabotage everything that threatens this safety
- Deep strong Trauma
On a more serious note, it’s simple:
Because you haven’t had this experience yet (virgin), in your mind you feel inferior. Likely there are thoughts akin to “what if she doesn’t like it?” “What if she finds out I’m so and so” etc, what if what if what if.
It’s no use
You gotta experience it.
What i suggest is, you don’t tell you are a virgin. Also don’t brag off like you are so experienced. Just ignore the topic and be very cool.
Since the interest is already clearly evident, you need not to concern yourself what they’ll think of you.
Go ahead man, on your terms
You know the more we focus on something the more it will become harder If you become too desperate. The only way is to work on yourself. Don’t think of anything else but for yourself. Listen to confidence audio.
Be care free in term of attracting a person. Truly you will get that naturally.
Do what makes you happy. What’s your goal? Find that and achieve it instead. Life partner wil naturally come to you when you forget about it
When people are ashamed that they are a virgin or “sexually inexperienced” then this creates exactly that layer of shame that I was speaking about above. That shames that prevents healing and seeing the deep underlying issues.
One needs to accept being a virgin and stop hiding it so that the layer of shame can be removed and progress and healing can take place.
If a girl is not okay with you being honest, then she is f’ed up in the head in the first place and needs therapy herself.
Coming from a place of honesty will always be approciated by other people who also always come from a place of honesty.
In our sick society men are shamed for still being virgins after a certain age and shamed for “not being able to get laid”.
This is highly toxic!
As if getting laid would suddenly transform you into an adult man and as if you worth as a male only depends on how much you can get laid.
This is a very toxic form of brainwashing to make people’s feeling of self worth dependant on external factors, like getting laid and how much approval you are getting from the opposite sex.
Yeh that’s why I recommend to be cool with it.
In the long term obviously you’re right.
But the interest was given to OP, he literally just needs to overcome his mind battle to proceed.
Imo once experienced he has a better standpoint to proceed fromthereon
Hello and welcome!! 
One of the first things I’d recommend, as well as the self love recommendation, is working on forgiveness 
You did the best you knew how at the time, now it doesn’t serve you, you are moving on and that’s basically all there is to it.
If you want to keep it simple for self love, you can go with this timeless field: self love
Then, give yourself some credit! Most people when confronted with what they don’t like about themselves tend to be resigned to it. But you didn’t do that. You sought solutions, implemented them and got some real change. Not easy! And now you are doing the same thing, I’d say that’s fucking awesome 
And you found the right place! You really got this
After experimenting with free fields and seeing that it works for you, I’d recommend Crucible of the Past I haven’t used it myself but the testimonials speak for this field in the most touching ways And just to get a bit of a boost whenever you need until you start seeing some changes, try Positive Power Waves. It always puts me in a good mood
About being a virgin, I understand that it can be intimidating (as well as it’s possible when not a man) but know that for many women it can be something sweet and special (I have had that experience and it was definitely those things). For some it can even be a turn on (I have a few friends that have told me this hahah). I’d personally recommend being upfront with it for 2 reasons 1) a woman who would judge you for it is, in my opinion, not worth sleeping with 2) it will take some pressure off when comes the time. Going with it and letting a woman take you by the hand instead of pretending will be easier. 
Oh, also! They are not free but I think these fields would work wonders:
Self Respect (only 22$)
I have used the last three and they have been amazing for me for a plethora of things
And once you are able to, I would advise being candid about these blocks. That kind of vulnerability can be extremely sexy and any half decent woman will make it a point to help you as best she can
Yeah I feel like I have a very deeply engraved traumatic experience that is affecting me, but I have no idea how to access it. Maybe using the trauma release field and some other mental health fields
Yeah the part with porn is on point, when I used to watch it daily I felt shame everytime that I did it. Couldn’t even sit next to a girl without getting nervous. Now that problem is gone I can communicate but the last layer is stopping me from commiting to sex.
That would definetly be that I am a virgin. Do you think that my lack of a father figure could be contributing to he issue too?
I simply don’t know how to remove this layer of shame that I am a virgin. It is not an action that I can admit I am doing like porn is. It is just a part of me. I just feel that if I lost it probably all my issues with women would be gone, but maybe the issue is even deeper than the fact that I am a virgin? I used to blame my issues with girls to the fact that I am not physically attractive enough, okay fixed that. Then came the issue with porn, fixed that as well. Now this. It is like for some reason I always find an excuse to not commit, this makes it feel like my issue is even deeper. Or I am just a pussy (I don’t know if this makes sense to you as English is not my main language)