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#46

That’s tricky. I wanted to come up with gentler words because I know you’re already feeling unpleasant about it, but I hope this also helps.

Through my eyes and my limited knowledge of your situation, I would have been direct with my attraction if that was what I’m feeling; I would have wanted to know too if she’s feeling the same. I’m not a mind reader.

You’ve gotten good advice, if it’s eating you inside, then talk to her and be honest with your words, and if she doesn’t feel the same way, don’t take it against her, and most of all don’t blame it on yourself. Be ready for whatever answer you’re going to get.

Some people are attracted and some people aren’t. If she’s not, then it’s best to focus your sights on something else, or someone else. That might even save your friendship if you both still want that.

Most of all, be kind to yourself.

It’s not your fault; We cannot possibly attract everyone we are attracted to, at least I don’t think so, and that’s okay. Just keep on improving yourself and eventually people will see you in the best light possible, and you won’t ever have to worry about these things again.

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#47

I truly get it, but trust me, if she were into you you wouldn’t be confused and making this thread asking for advice on what to do next. In my experience women are the ones who want to talk feelings and relationship status.

Maybe the only thing to do next if you think is necessary (if she’s a long time friend or something like that) is to end things with her, get closure and move on. I don’t recommend keep being her friend for obvious reasons.

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#48

Hey man, keep working on yourself like you have. You’re in the ‘lack’ mindset right now. The more you build your confidence up, the more you heal yourself, the less you’ll be stuck on any one person. It might feel really tough right now, but the good news is that it’s not about her. It’s about you and your own thoughts and your past conditioning. Use the abundance fields, the confidence fields, the ‘become whole’ and gratitude audios, and that’ll take some of the emotional charge away.

This is also a huge opportunity for you to grow more as a person. True love comes when you’re able to walk away from something and still feel good about yourself. When you get to that point, you’ll become super attractive to women naturally, and you won’t be stuck trying to get that one girl. You’ll have a knowing that you can find someone who makes you happy whenever you choose. That in itself is liberating.

Use this opportunity as feedback on where you need to grow as a person. Set your goals and get clear on what you really want. It’s not this particular girl. It’s the feeling you really want, and you think this girl is the only way to get there. It’s not. Refocus your energy and send an intention out to the universe, and ask for the person who’s right for you. It’s going to feel reaaalllllyyy hard at first. But stay focused, really work on developing yourself more, and you’ll break free and feel so much better. You can do it :blush:

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#49

Hey,
So… this situation is clearly hurting you and not good for you.
Sry this may be long.

First of all, it’s been a year. A YEAR. During a whole year, you two did not manage to talk about it, even though you live together.
Being shy is not an excuse for this level of avoidance. Do not let her trick you into believing otherwise.
I am very sorry to say but this reads like she is not interested, she was embarrassed after the kiss and did not want it to continue so she decided to not acknowledge it and run away.
That is insanely immature and I hope you’re both quite young.

Imagine being in a relationship with this girl. She has clearly shown you her communication skills and ability to handle conflict, so considering that, would would the relationship be like? I don’t mean in your fantasy where everything is just perfect, but what would it really be like?

I don’t have to be a genius to guess that she would start withdrawing and avoiding you and not addressing issues the first time they arise. You would see her acting different and see something was wrong, but you don’t know what, so you start thinking about what you may have done wrong. You end up running around like an idiot trying to read her mind and do the right thing for once… You keep messing up and dont know why…
At least that’s how you perceive it, but it’s not you, it’s her.
Because no one who behaves that way is ready to be in a relationship.

When I was 18-19, I used to think guys running around like that to make a girl happy was romantic… But i was an idiot (too much hollywood i guess lol) and now with a couple of years extra, I know no one mature and confident would do that. :slight_smile:

Depending on what your lease is like, if I were you, I would consider moving out or asking her to move out.
It’s so plain to see that this situation is eating you up and I think you would benefit a lot from an environment that is… “free of her”.
If I were you, I would definitely want to talk to her, because for me personally it’s much harder to move on otherwise. You’ll imagine what you would/want to say, hold on to the frustration, pain etc… A confrontation/discussion can bring it up and instead of scenarios in your head, the situation comes to light so to say.
I think you should have 0 expectation of actually ending up with this girl, but you if you’re willing to be honest, you can tell her how you feel and also how her behaviour made you feel… Just try to be objective and have “communication” and “resolution” as a goal and not… something else.

Also I guess youve learnt a lesson about going after a roommate :D I guess the same general rule applies as for office romance, which is never a good idea and only go for it if you can handle the fallout, whichever direction it may be.

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#50

Soul Core Restoration

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#51

I can’t because I am doing the course.

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#52

Yes, It is weird and I know that she isn’t interesseted but sometimes I think may be because she thinks I just want to play with her and I am not serious while she is searching for something serious ?

It is good idea to talk with her today ? Should I tell her that I want to tell her something ? or may be wait until we meet and then I abord this topic

Guys, I forget to mention something, I was on acid the day that we kissed and that’s why it kept stronger impact than normal.

Lastly, Thank you all of you for the advices :pray:

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#53

yeah figured there was some substance involved… :smiley:
may or may not be a factor in her reaction… but i didnt want to pry so much about the circumstances.

just ask her if she has a minute…

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#54

She has no idea that I was on acid :D

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#55

With acid, you just love the opposite being soo much. Like 1000x more than usual, especially if you have some feelings already.

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#56

Yes, I know but I can’t do anything for it unfortunatly.

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#57

Confidence field + Blarney stone.
And explain the 1000x likeness.

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#58

Oh. You need this.
Just release the feelings and be free. Really fast.

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#59

My gratitude.

I will try to go through this topic the next time that we see each other spontaneously. So there is no need to approach her

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#60

Animal Telepathy

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#61

So this happened to me recently.
I could feel what @ThatBeing is going through, bcoz , mentally I was in a similar situation.

Swiped right in dating app even when the person’s pic wasn’t so clear and no information.
When we started to chat, there was an immediate spark in sexual interests, similar life situations, more so, spiritual connection.
The very first day, ended up chatting for hours .
All this flared up intense desire to meet. At the same time, intuition and gut feeling was giving an uneasy feeling. Kinda what if , if I don’t meet the person at all. It’s like something too good gonna happen that you don’t wanna miss it.

I’m an empath, good at knowing true character of people very easily.
As talks and chats went on for few days, I could sense lack of emotional intelligence ( narcissistic symptoms) ., but I couldn’t confirm it because of spiritual undertones we both have.
Whenever my intuition gave warning signs, I used my logic and ignored it. Like, such a spiritual person can’t be playing with emotions n all.

It is through that person, I was introduced to enlightened omniscient spiritual guru. Even I became a devotee, did spiritual stuffs . It was as though, that omniscient guru came to my life through that person.

For some reason, meeting was just getting postponed. Delay was mostly from other side. It was such a mind game , will meet in another two days, again postponed, next week, again postponed…

I usually cut the crap out and move on. But this was such a strong feeling, couldn’t come to a judgement easily. Intuition says one thing. Logic says another.

Later on , I could sense definite sense of avoidance but still the other person pretending everything fine. Later on, I made it clear through chats, that I’m no more ignorant to believe blindly. Chats stopped without a proper closure.

Why I couldn’t move on ?
(Despite never even met in person. Just chats and calls.)

  1. how can a person so into spirituality can be playing with emotions ( I don’t wanna detail it though)
  2. it would have been easier for me if other person openly told what was going wrong. I just didn’t have a genuine communication.
  3. good things happened because of the person like knowing enlightened guru.
    I started to appreciate myself and mitigate my insecurities about my looks, focused on good health etc.,

So it was such a short fling… but emotions involved were so strong.

Most of the time, I was made to think that I’m the person judging wrong and overthinking . Kinda manipulated .

I had to get help of a psychic to confirm what this connection was.
Psychic said, it was karmic and that confirmed my doubts.
Saying it mere karmic may not suffice for people undergoing such life experiences.

Why was it hard to move on?
I was insecure. I put myself below that person.
Now I’m working on whatever insecurity I have.
In a way, I got such a motive and will to work upon myself.

Cord cutting, emotional release and so many other audios were played in loop. Yet, I had to undergo a period of emotional low. Accepting it was easier than trying so hard to let go.

Time heals.
Work upon yourself.
Allow new people to enter into life.
Self love.
Make sure feelings are mutual.
Never put another person above you.
Everything happens for a reason. I’m more matured and a better person now.
These experiences will only enrich your life.
Take it positively and move on.

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#62

You can also try this.

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#63

First of all, thank you for all your support. Today, it was a nice weather and invited her to go outside, she refused under pretext of enjoying staying home and why not telling it in the common room. I convinced her to go outside, I told her the story as it is, she told me, she wasn’t interessted and she is in long distance relationship since 4 months and the other guy was only a friend. Actually, I told her from the begging that I went through this but now I don’t feel anymore which let me to bring it into the surface. So, Saying that she has a relationship didn’t impact our conversation and kept talking for one hour then it came to few minutes silence and she asked me if we shall go back home. She was really happy in somehow …

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#64

That’s when she told you she was not interested… I mean she did way before but it’s important that you notice for your next endeavors

Come outside I need to talk to you generally put lots of pressure on people, the whole confession thing is overwhelming

Keep going and improving :+1:t2:

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#65

Dude, why are u stressed out over a female? Seriously, look at the dynamics, women generally get so much more attention so they have an abundance mindset… that another one will always come around, u should have a purpose that is so important to you, to the point whereby u don’t even stress about getting laid. What I’ve noticed through my years of giving females little to no attention is that(they get more attracted to me) because it’s not the usual expectation from most guys. Women value attention more than sex from men… all the attention u are showing that lady is more satisfying than sex to her(why do u think she can do long distance relationship)? Because that guy is dedicated to giving her constant attention. My advice is for u to drastically reduce the attention u give her… listen to unconditional you a million times(because situations like this can make u hate yourself lowkey) what do u want from her? Love? Guess what if she’s not into u more than u are into her, it won’t go anywhere… and that’s clearly not the case… create a tinder… express exactly what u want from a woman, the more u do things that breaks your attention from her, the more she wants your attention & that doesn’t still means she likes you. U need to learn about frame, YouTube “33secrets frame” and enjoy his other videos as well. Here are some more vids for you,?don’t underestimate the message here because the creator has no traction on his YouTube

Moderator can take this down if he wants, no promo here. I’m just tryna help this guy wake up.

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