(Healthy) Masculinity: The Concept

[Beltloop]

Before we begin, I know this may become a hot topic. So I will start of by saying that this has nothing to do with “alpha males,” red pill, pickup artists, misogyny, etc.

Please continue reading.

I would like to propose a field strictly for men, or for women seeking to embrace their own masculinity.

The purpose is simple:

Create a field that allows one to get in touch with their own unique expression of masculinity.

The why?

I believe masculinity is beautiful in the same way that femininity is.

It is not represented as such in popular culture, and in my day-to-day life I experience a confusing mixture of admiration, fear, and laughter concerning masculinity from others. To be quite honest, I am often confused about my own masculinity. I also see this same line of thought from friends and imagine it to be very common in our current world, and possibly my age group (20s).

I believe a field that helps men integrate masculinity in a way that works best for themselves, and everyone around them is an excellent solution and is very needed in this world.

I understand there may be some negativity around this as many automatically associate masculinity with violence, misogyny and generally bad things but there is definitely a very positive side to masculinity.

I’m talking here about masculinity that helps bring out the best in each other.
The ability to be vulnerable as the situation allows.
Making sure you have enough to provide for yourself and your family.
Defending others when they need defense.
Having those tough conversations that need to be had.

This is less about being an overbearing asshole who has to have his way all the time, and more about becoming the fully integrated, best version of yourself that you can be.

I believe that these two people are both masculine, to give you an example:

They both fought with all their strength to see their values represented in the world they live in. While neither was perfect, their stories are something for us to aspire to.

On a less conceptual side, there is actually a very alarming mental health aspect for men that is often not addressed.

Men commit suicide at 3.5x the rate of women.

Many men don’t feel that they have anyone to speak to about their mental health as others do not want to hear about it. It will either happen, or is assumed to happen, that society will shun you for being “weak.” So many men bottle this all inside until eventually they can’t deal with it.

This misplaced aggression also gets translated elsewhere to topics like pickup artistry, seduction, the red-pill, and other movements that harm both men and women.

The masculinity that this field aims to create is a masculinity that is not based on things like physical strength, women, money, being in line with whatever rules for masculinity your culture already has (suits, cigars, plain liquor).

It is about the user first coming to a deep understanding of themselves and how their masculinity relates to their own world. Digging up old fears, shames, and viewpoints for the user to get a better understanding of themselves and were they are in society.

I would also like to add a component for dealing with women and their femininity from a masculine role as well. I believe imparting healthy relationship and communication habits to men in the presence of women will benefit everyone as well.

That is my proposal.

Comments, additiions, specifics to add, please post below.

[JAAJ]

This will be long but important for both genders, so take a cup of green tea and read on…

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I am a man.

This is a very important topic and one of the main reasons the world is f’ed up in the way it is.

The world is f’ed up because most men are in competition with each other for female love
– based on a collective cognitive dissonance

• that female love is scarce,
• that female love equals purpose and survival and
• that female love is dangerous at the same time because it binds the man and makes him unfree.

From my experience, most men on the planet never grew out of the needy teenager boy role that desperately seeks the love and attention of their mothers and later in life also from other women (who are simply mother roles projected onto other females).

This is because when a male baby is born, its whole survival is dependent on the love of his mother.

The subconscious mind learns immediately that mother love equals survival and protection. And that an absence of mother love equals abandonment, starvation and death.

So for the subsconscious mind anything becomes “okay” as long as the mother love ensured.

Because of this experience men start deep down to believe that female love equals survival and purpose.

Female love becomes something that the man needs at all costs [survival] and hates [because it comes with the condition of bonding and become unfree] at the same time.

Because of this contradiction, unless solved, a boy never grows into a sovereign man and remains in this cognitive dissonance. As are most men today.

Most young male babies exeperience the mother love as conditional.
He learns that he needs to please the mother to ensure that love is supplied.
At the same time the boy is not allowed to grow into a man and become “more male” than the father because if the father becomes angry, he can pull the mother away which will result in a loss of mother love - the worst case scenario for the subconscious mind.

The boy also becomes anxcious of intimately bonding with other females because he subconsciously fears that it could make the mother jealous and then again, the mother could terminate her love.

The young boy also observes that their fathers (who are mostly man children themselves) are not behaving like real men themselves and learns that it is “not okay be stronger” than even this version of masculinity.

Also at the same time, when the young boys also observe their fathers, they realize that their fathers have become unfree when they have bonded with and bound themselves to a women.

This creates a very strong cognitive dissociation in most boys, where on the hand they desparately want to be loved and admired be the female energy but on the other hand at are afraid to commit to the female energy because of fear of loss of freedom.

Because of this conflicting association with the female energy most men remain boys – desperately hunting after sex and simping for love, but at the same time failing to commit to a relationship and express their strong masculine energy as it should be.

When men desperately seek female energy (survival) but at the same time are afraid of it (loss of freedom due to binding), they become part of all these philosophies and movements like Red Pill, MGTOW, PUAs, porn committed cope junkies, beta simps, wage cucks, angry incels, black pillers and other victim roles or simply remain in an oblivious Blue Pill state, unaware of what is even going on.

All of these philosophies and movements are the male counterpart of the “angry feminists” where all problems are projected onto the opposite gender, making the problem even worse because it becomes impossible to integrate the energy of the opposite gender into oneself.

How can an angry boy accept the female energy inside himself when he blames all his problems onto the female gender?
How can an angry feminist accept the male energy inside herself when she blames all her problems onto the male gender?

Additionally, in our society men are being brainwashed that being masculine is something bad and toxic.
This creates ANOTHER cognitive dissonance that being a “grown up strong male” is bad and by doing so will result in “a loss of the female approval and motherly love”.

NOW, AND THIS IS THE KEY, EMBRACING THE UNCODNTIONAL VERSION OF THE ENERGY OF THE OPPOSITE GENDER IS EXACTLY THE SOLUTION TO BECOME THE HOLY VERSION OF ONE’S OWN GENDER.

The solution from my experience is for men to ACCEPT, WELCOME, CONNECT WITH and INTEGRATE the Holy Divine Female Energy.

This is the holy female Yin energy that is coming from the source in a UNCONDITIONAL way and that provides all the mother love and sexual acceptance that a boy desired and needs TO ALLOW HIMSELF to grow into a man with his own inherent divine male energy.

When men accept their own female energies inside them AND connect themselves to that Holy Divine Female Energy, their heart chakra that was previously desparately seeking for motherly love, becomes healed.

Those cognitive dissonances that we spoke above are then also dissolved healed, because:

• When the source provides an INFINITE supply of mother love, then all the fears of losing this love, can be let go
• When the source provides this love in an UNCONDITIONAL way, then all fears and limiting assumptions of sexual expression and bonding with different women, can also be let go
• By connecting with an INFINITE supply of UNCONDITIONAL female love, the man BECOMES FREE TO ACCEPT AND LOVE HIS OWN DIVINE MASCULINA ENERGY, and by this grow into an adult man. An adult man that is independent of the love of his mother or the love of any other women, but that is at the same time FREE to express himself sexually with ANY women and BOND with ANY women.

This Holy Divine Female Energy provides an INFINITE UNCONDITIONAL Supply of Motherly Love, Sisterly Love, Wifely Love and Sexual Love (basically all the types of female love).

This Holy Divine Female Energy ACCEPTS the man and his masculine energy and expression unconditionally, the therefore the man no longer needs to seeks love and validation from human females. Which also makes him much less needy and thus more attractive to women.

And because the man feels that the Holy Divine Female Energy accepts his masculine energy UNCONDITIONALLY, the boy is then FREED to emprace his own inherit Holy Divine Male Energy and by this become a grown up independent man.

The Holy Divine Female Energy is the universal nurturing ground that encourages the Masculine Energy to express itself.

So:

Boys/Men need to welcome and integrate the Holy Divine Female Energy FIRST.

On this infinite nurturing ground, THEN their Holy Divine Male Energy can grow the man into a sovereign adult.

• For boys to become healthy strong sovereign adult Men who work together instead against themselves and each other, they need to connect with and integrate the Holy Divine Female Energy.

• For angry feminists to become healthy strong sovereign adult Women, they need to connect with and integrate the Holy Divine Male Energy.

Men need to embrace the goddess from the source.
And Women need to embrace the god from the source.
Then divine relationships and male/female expressions become possible and the world can be healed.

PS: I would like to be part of that group.

[JAAJ]

The adult man who has integrated the Holy Divine Female energy and the adult women who has integrated the Holy Divine Male energy:

[anon25711007]

When you combined with feminine side of yours you will be able to balance it out

[kimchisauerkraut]

This is of utmost importance imho. But the concept itself needs a lot of refinement and very deep understanding of man archetype to realize.

I love the idea you’re putting forward.

[gittir]

At the same time, reconciliation with the father is of utmost importance as well. I think one reason I’ve never been able to mature into an adult man is because of a deep seated resentment I’ve always had towards my father - I don’t think I’ve ever felt storge towards him the way I’ve felt towards my mother because of a multitude of factors, so I think I’ve always been somewhat stuck in a half boy/half man state.

[kimchisauerkraut]

@gittir

reconciliation with the father is of utmost importance as well.

I could not do that either. But now I think there may be another way to do it: find another male role model and learn from him, let go of the fixation on our failed father-son relationship.

[BremerJung]

100% the way

[KetherTour]

Cool I’m in, was thinking about this topic the other day…

[anon34550888]

Actually by reading the comments I see half of the project is done!

PS: I’m not going to join, I was just reading the comments.

[anon41598144]

I’m actually really interested in this one!

Females actually must step into their divine masculine as a way to bring their femininity to a divine balance.

Same way as males, as their healthy balance starts with their femininity within

There is a reason females are more comfortable with men who like to express themselves, creatively I mean… Like having a good sense of style… Or are able to move their bodies with ease… Or know how to express themselves

Bad boys ain’t for life lol

[PowerUp]

Please count me in @Beltloop

Could we start discussing what masculinity is for each one of us, maybe with keywords ?

So that we can see what direction the field should go in… What qualities the field should contain…

[anon34550888]

feminism doesn’t mess up “masculinity” and “femininity”. Feminism means the advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes. This is how women try to bring balance and justice for both genders.
You referred to “cancel culture”. Well it depends by mentioning “cancel culture”, you’re referring to which culture.

[kimchisauerkraut]

I’m now stepping out because I sense a fruitless fight brewing.

[anon34550888]

@kimchisauerkraut

a fruitless fight brewing

There’s no fight. We’re adults and talking about different aspects of an issue is not fight. I’m not even joining this group. King_A and I have the same origins. He knows what I mean when it comes to culture. Enjoy your time by joining this group.

[IAmJonathan]

Count me in man!

We can refine, define, refine and define again and I’m sure we’ll come up with something even more beautiful than initially thought of! Let’s do this!

[Beltloop]

Yes, please come with as many suggestions as you’d like. This is an area where I don’t have the most expertise and would desire you guys to contribute as much as possible.

[SammyG]

Interesting project. Reminds me of knight mindset in a way but still, that field reflects more on inner strength & virtue.

A masculine field of this regard may more likely reflect qualities such as willpower, inner strength, discipline, resilience, confidence and courage.

Masculinity is our inner fire. And the lot of you have already brought up one of the most important aspects of strengthening, balancing and embracing our pure masculinity and that is through the embrace of our feminine energy. The water tempers yet solidifies the flow of the fire just as the fire does the same for water.

@PowerUp

Could we start discussing what masculinity is for each one of us, maybe with keywords ?

I think this would be interesting to hear from you all. And perhaps even, in what ways, feminine energy can work with & balance those aspects of masculinity.

[Dyslexic_Professor]

@SammyG

A masculine field of this regard may more likely reflect qualities such as willpower, inner strength, discipline, resilience, confidence and courage.

Are all or some of theres qualities in the Knight mindset field? Beacuse i put Knight mindset back in my stack recently and i do realise i just get the work done somtimes no messing about.

[anon34550888]

Click on this link if you’re interested to know more about this concept.

Anima and animus

I hope you find it useful. Good luck.