My personal opinion about that book:
I’ve read that book more than 15 years ago.
I did not like it back then and I still do not like it today.
While it has some good points on some of its pages, it is very blue pill and has a lot of limiting beliefs and assumptions about what man and woman want and how man and woman shall be.
The author has taken many ideas from the Pick-Up community, or they took it from him, does not matter, because the quality of the content is all very blue pill…
For example the author assumes that women test men all the time to check whether they are strong and masculine. However this is only the case for incongruent men where women are not sure in the first place whether the man is what he signals to be. I wrote about this in the Androstenol thread. Congruent men do not get tested by women because there is no doubt in her perception that he is “the man”.
The author also completely ignores Subconscious Mind’s power and its programming and also the need to heal trauma.
Author also confuses “purpose” with “peace” with “needs” with “coping mechanisms / self-sabotage”.
Author also promotes a mindset of “settling for what is” and just accepting it or finding hacks around how to deal with it.
Author has zero insights in manifestation of one’s own reality.
This book is hyped in PUA and male psychology circles because it is very basic and understood by the masses. It never goes anywhere deep into any topic and is just the author’s personal world view compiled into a “relationship advice book”.
There is zero spiritual insights in this book.
If you have never read a PUA blog or reddit, then this book might give you a few new psychological insights. But that’s it. Doing what the book says means switching from one dysfunctional model to another. My personal recommendation is to skip this book as it will keep you in the victim mindset.
PS: I found a book summary made by someone here.
PPS:
Better invest your time into listening to Conceptual Realizations and trauma healing fields.
PPPS:
Before someone asks, I am not aware of any really good book on relationship advice that I could recommend. They are kinda all blue pill, even those that claim that they are “red pill” (books like The Rational Male) etc.
You are probably better off with healing trauma and afterwards reading generally known spiritual books like “A Course in Miracles” or the “Conversations with God” series.
PPPPS:
Blue pill advice = advice from people who are not aware of and who have not healed their own traumas and have not fixed their self-esteem. Unfortunantely, that is most people on the planet.
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